consumed Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 My girlfriend and I have been together for 4 months now and almost daily she smokes pot. I don't know why I let it get to me so much but it bugs me ALOT. I think it bugs me mainly because when she'll get stone I feel I'm not really with the real her. We are living together and I've brought it up a few times that it bugs me when she meets her brother after work and smokes or smoked when she gets home from work. In the beginning it was really hard because when she said she was getting a ride with her brother, I just knew when she got home I'd be with the stoned her and it killed me inside. It's tapered off some so maybe 4 days a week she'll smoke a small joint but even still it kills me. She had mood swings almost daily and I feel sometimes as though instead of leaning on me she'll use the pot to make things better. Am I wrong for feeling this way?
paige367 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Feelings aren't right or wrong they just are. You may want to ask yourself and/or her why she is selfmedicating this way and what she's escaping from. Explain that you are concerned and want what's best for her. Tell her how you feel.
Returning Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Hmmmm consumed consumed... If your girl smoked pot when you met her, and you fell for her then, why do you want to change her? I have noticed women I have known tend to be less affected by pot, they don't get the psychosis like many men do, also it helps them around 'that' time of the month, Queen Victoria took pot for period pains. I wouldn't advocate the use of pot, but if she's the person you met what do you actually want to achieve by getting upset about her stonerism? I have read this on this site and it is very true: "You may know you're right....but do you want to be right or do you want to be happy" If the girl makes you happy you may have to look at yourself and your reaction to this. Look to how you can introduce a little tollerance/acceptance into your disposition.
Buttaflyy Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 You are entitled to your feelings but I do agree with the previous post. You knew this before you took such a big step. Is it realistic that she would stop once you moved in together? The question is not whether your feelings are justified, but what are you going to do about it? Or not?
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