suddenly_lost Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Hey guys, Glad I found this forum, really helps to read about people with similar problems. So, here is mine: My girlfriend of 16 months broke up with me about 5 weeks ago. To be honest, there was a while where I thought I wanted to break up with her, so this didn't come as a complete surprise. However, the past 5 weeks have been the worst, most depressing days of my life. The moment she broke up with me, I was hit with all of the great memories about our relationship, which far outweigh the bad ones. Anyways, so I have spent the last 5 weeks wondering if there is any possibility of the two of us getting back together. In the meantime, I've been going out as much as possible, trying to meet new people, calling old flings, etc., but no matter what I do, my mind is preoccupied with her. The reason I can't stop thinking about her is that in 24 years, I have never met anyone who kisses like her, or has a similar sense of humor, similar interests, etc. As much as I try not to think about her, she keeps coming back into my mind. I know that she felt the same way before because she was the one who instigated the "I love you" about a year ago, she was the one who moved to my neighborhood to be closer to me, and she was the one who brought up the notion that we might move in together soon. But then all the sudden she decided that she felt "smothered" even though she was the one who was trying to pull us so close together in the first place. A month before we broke up officially, we also had a night that she broke up with me for about 8 hours. But then she came back in the morning and said it was the stupidest thing she had ever done and that she wanted to be together because she loved me. But now she won't even return an email, meet for lunch, anything. Why would she have such a change of heart? I know things were a little rocky, but if she couldn't break up with me before out of love, why did she suddenly not want to make things work? I feel like I should keep trying to move on and forget about her, but is there any chance that if I take charge and tell her that she is what I want, that she might realize that it is worth another try? Also, last week I tried calling to see if she wanted to meet for lunch just to see how each of us is doing. She said she didn't think it was a good idea. So do I take this to mean she is already seeing somebody else? I can't think of any other reason that you wouldn't want to know how someone you cared so much about is doing. Sorry for the long rant, but my fingers wouldn't stop typing!
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