tiredofsharing Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I don't even know where to start. I'll try and keep it short. I'm the OM that's been involved with a MW for 2 1/2 years. Her H and myself have been lied to many times about what's going on with the other. She basically refuses to divorce however she's wanting to continue the A from now on but also is having sex with both of us. I'm assuming that I'm providing the affection that is lacking in the marriage (not sex). I know I need to cut ties and run but I am in love with her and have been for a long time, it would be easier if it were not for that plus there's a child involved that could be mine but we're not sure. She says she's in love with me but is unwilling to hurt people to be with me and is obligated to be the wifey. It sounds like we're both being taken for a ride. My biggest question is do ya'll think I should pursue legal action with the child and ask for a dna or something ? Damn I'm so tired of this it's killing me.
zarathustra Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I don't even know where to start. I'll try and keep it short. I'm the OM that's been involved with a MW for 2 1/2 years. Her H and myself have been lied to many times about what's going on with the other. She basically refuses to divorce however she's wanting to continue the A from now on but also is having sex with both of us. I'm assuming that I'm providing the affection that is lacking in the marriage (not sex). I know I need to cut ties and run but I am in love with her and have been for a long time, it would be easier if it were not for that plus there's a child involved that could be mine but we're not sure. She says she's in love with me but is unwilling to hurt people to be with me and is obligated to be the wifey. It sounds like we're both being taken for a ride. My biggest question is do ya'll think I should pursue legal action with the child and ask for a dna or something ? Damn I'm so tired of this it's killing me. I can't give you an opinion on what I think about taking legal action with the child and asking for a DNA test. I really think that's something you need to decide for yourself. However, what is it that you love about this woman? She has been lying to you and to her H. Do you really know this person at all? Is it love or is it lust?
paige367 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 You deserve to know if the child is yours. The child deserves to know who his real father is. Press the issue. You can't and shouldn't spend your whole life wondering about this. She loves you but is unwilling to hurt people to be with you? I don't think so. She's unwilling to be hurt herself. Also, she doesn't have to hurt people to be with you because you've agreed to continue this relationship. If you're tired and it's killing you then it's time to stop. Good luck.
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