Why do some women think that men are lost without them?

[Woggle]

This is not another one of my women bashing threads but I have this question. Yesterday I was out with my SO at the supermarket trying to figure out what I was going to make for dinner that night. I am known for my skills in the kitchen and while I don't cook all the time yesterday we got the urge to make something. I aksed the girl at the courtesy desk if they had a certain ingredient and a woman who overheard me was like wow you cook like she had discovered some new scientific breakthrough. It seriously blew her mind that I was the one cooking. I have also noticed other examples. When I was single my place was spotless and when I had women over they were shocked that I kept my place up on my own like that. Do women really think that men are incapable of taking care of our basic needs without them?

[Art_Critic]

I get thet same thing all the time.. My house is spotless and so is my yard and I'm well dressed and get a haircut every 6 weeks..

 

I always take the shock or awe questions as a compliment.. so should you

[Woggle]

I get thet same thing all the time.. My house is spotless and so is my yard and I'm well dressed and get a haircut every 6 weeks..

 

I always take the shock or awe questions as a compliment.. so should you

 

Honestly I take it as condescending. It's like women think we are helpless without them. It is very much a backhanded compliment to me.

[kitten chick]

because men are incapable of taking care of themselves, much less anyone else.

[Art_Critic]

Honestly I take it as condescending. It's like women think we are helpless without them. It is very much a backhanded compliment to me.

 

Do you take comments about your success as condescending ?

 

It's all in how you look at it.

[alphamale]

Do women really think that men are incapable of taking care of our basic needs without them?

Yes, they think most of us are bumbling morons who need women for our basic survival. I don't need any woman for anything...I am fully independent.

 

This is another failure of women's lib. Now that more men can take care of themselves they are less and less dependent upon women.

[Woggle]

Do you take comments about your success as condescending ?

 

It's all in how you look at it.

 

It's subtle male bashing when women are shocked a man can take care of himself.

[Touche]

because men are incapable of taking care of themselves, much less anyone else.

 

It's very obvious from this ignorant statement that you aren't meeting the right men..how sad for you.

[kitten chick]

It's very obvious from this ignorant statement that you aren't meeting the right men..how sad for you.

The truth hurts. They're all like this and there really is no reason for men to exist on this planet. They're just walking sperm donors.

[alphamale]

It's subtle male bashing when women are shocked a man can take care of himself.

you must also remember WOGGLE that many women feel threatened when they see a man taking care of his own needs. The womens think what are they good for then besides pleasures of the flesh. If a man can cook and clean and do laundry for himself then woman is good only for blowjob and anal sex.

[catgirl1927]

If you go through life looking for things to be offended by, you will have no problem finding them.

 

That statement says more about her life than about yours. Everything isn't a personal attack. You think all women except your fiance are exactly the same as your mother. She thinks all men are exactly the same as whatever man she knows. It's more about scope than anything else, some people think that if it doesn't happen to them it just doesn't happen.

[Buttaflyy]

I think you guys are taking it way too far. It should be complimentary instead of condescending. We all, males and females are conditioned to believe that women are better domestic caretakers (and a woman who is not so great in this dept to be lacking).

 

I happen to consider a man who cooks and takes care of home to be sexy:love: . I notice these things as good qualities and unfortuanetly, I too am awed when a man is dependent in taking care of home (and himself) because I must say that it's not seen too often. I also have been lucky enough to experience it in my mates a few times in my relationships. I've experienced both sides. The selfish, lazy slobs who were still attached to moms tit and you guys!

[hotgurl]

Most of the men I dated didn't cook and thier houses were messy. Yeah my current would clean up for me but left to his own devices the dishes would only be down when he ran out and then sometimes he would only wash what he needed.

 

He didn't clean regualarly and did laundry once a month. He ate as a bachelor pasta veggie bugers & frozen dinner or carry out.

 

My step father is the same way. My uncles work thier butts off so the wives do all the domestic stuff. They are stahm but the kids are grown.

[hotgurl]

you must also remember WOGGLE that many women feel threatened when they see a man taking care of his own needs. The womens think what are they good for then besides pleasures of the flesh. If a man can cook and clean and do laundry for himself then woman is good only for blowjob and anal sex.

 

That's so not true. I would be thrilled if my guy cooked or cleaned more. It would be a big help.

[Touche]

The truth hurts. They're all like this and there really is no reason for men to exist on this planet. They're just walking sperm donors.

 

Well, it's obvious that YOUR truth is very different than mine. I've never met a man who couldn't take care of himself. Yes, I've heard of those but never actually met one.

 

Why do you hate men so much?

[alphamale]

Most of the men I dated didn't cook and thier houses were messy.

yeah well you know what HOTGURL... I can cook and clean and do laundry as good as any woman. I can sew my buttons back on my shirts. I know how to grocery shop and get deals. I can do all that stuff cause my mom taught me how. She said don't ever be dependent upon any woman for anything.

 

To me women only good for blowjobs and stuff.

[hotgurl]

yeah well you know what HOTGURL... I can cook and clean and do laundry as good as any woman. I can sew my buttons back on my shirts. I know how to grocery shop and get deals. I can do all that stuff cause my mom taught me how. She said don't ever be dependent upon any woman for anything.

 

To me women only good for blowjobs and stuff.

 

Well baby, if you cook & take care of the house you can have all the bj you want.

[Buttaflyy]

yeah well you know what HOTGURL... I can cook and clean and do laundry as good as any woman. I can sew my buttons back on my shirts. I know how to grocery shop and get deals. I can do all that stuff cause my mom taught me how. She said don't ever be dependent upon any woman for anything.

 

To me women only good for blowjobs and stuff.

 

Wow! Then I hope you are also dependent for satisfying yourself sexually! This attitude must show in your behavior towards women. I can only see a bimbo being with you. Good thing your so self sufficient!

[Touche]

Alpha, did you get rejected this weekend or something? By the way, you're not fooling me with that kind of talk. I can see right through it. You're DYING for a female companion...and for more than just BJ's.

 

Hope you find one soon.

[alphamale]

You're DYING for a female companion...and for more than just BJ's.

um, not really...women have always been a commodity to me. right now i am single and unattached by choice so i can spend time on myself. women are a distraction many times.

[Woggle]

The truth hurts. They're all like this and there really is no reason for men to exist on this planet. They're just walking sperm donors.

 

I respect you for your honesty. Most women think this but very will say it right up front.

[Art_Critic]

I can sew my buttons back on my shirts.

 

so can I.. I even went out and bought a sewing machine and set it up with the button attachment so all I have to do is walk over to it and "presto".. the button is on.

[Buttaflyy]

I respect you for your honesty. Most women think this but very will say it right up front.

 

Most women do not think this. Believe me. Most people believe that your mate should enhance you, but I don't think most women think so negatively about men generally.

[alphamale]

all I have to do is walk over to it and "presto".. the button is on.

great skill to have...ironing is another one.

[basscatcher]

When I met men who are clean, organized, well groomed, are able to cook and they 'clean' their house (not just pick it up) I am surprised. It is nice to come across men who are like this.

 

Simply for this reason (in my case) most men I meet are kind of like momma boys. They are use to mommy taking care of them: doing their laundry, cooking for them, picking up and cleaning after them. So when they go out iinto the world on their own they struggle to do those things for themselves because they always had mommy to do them for them.

 

Most men I know can warm a can of soup, make mac'n'cheeze, fry hamburgers, etc.. (shyt food, fast food, pre-prepped foods). They make their homes look clean because they wipe things off but they fail to use cleaners/disinfectants. I've often found they either toss their clothes in the bottom of their closets or just shove it in dressers unfolded. Also, when they do laundry, they tend to not dry their clothes all the way and when they put damp clothes in drawers or heaps in the bottom of closets they get musty smelling.

 

Men can survive and take care of themselves but most fail in "Proper" cooking/eating, cleaning, and attire care.

 

At least this is what I have found in Minnesota--from north to south..

 

I'll bet that is why you find women acting/expressing their shock and disbelief is for the same reasons I react shocked.

It's not common for men to be 'properly' self suffient.

 

There is still a vast majority of women who are raised and still believe that 'we" (women) need to take care of men.

 

It is refeshing and I love it when I meet a man who is able to do his own laundry right, cleans with disinfectants, his home is picked up and neat, he can cook for me from time to time.

 

That last man I dated would cook me up 'filet minion, jumbo shrimp, grilled asparagus from time to time. his children even once lite candles, set the table, made homemade dinner menus, dimmed the lights, produced-practiced-and serenaded us while we ate out dinner together by candle lite. (he makes his boys clean and cook.) he is teaching them young to care for themselves.

 

It is awesome to find this. I still get amazed and shocked because it is still quiet rare..

 

 

Woogle==your woman should feel like she has a million bucks along her side.

Don't feel indifferent because you get a reaction from a woman like that; feel like your a great catch and she missed the boat.