Maria33 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I need some advice from men. If you were slightly interested in a woman and she asked you out, would you say yes? Also, girls, if you have asked someone out, what happened? I want this guy to ask me out but he's a little shy. He flirts with me but he hasn't approached me about a date yet. If he doesn't soon, I want to ask him out. But, for the fear of rejection I want to know he is interested in me too. He doesn't have a girlfriend so I wonder what he would say. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
NTB Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 If you were slightly interested in a woman and she asked you out, would you say yes? yes I want to ask him out. But, for the fear of rejection now you know how we guys feel
Sapiens Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I need some advice from men. If you were slightly interested in a woman and she asked you out, would you say yes? Also, girls, if you have asked someone out, what happened? I want this guy to ask me out but he's a little shy. He flirts with me but he hasn't approached me about a date yet. If he doesn't soon, I want to ask him out. But, for the fear of rejection I want to know he is interested in me too. He doesn't have a girlfriend so I wonder what he would say. Any help would be greatly appreciated! Maria, This is just my two bits. Don't ask him straight out, I lose interest if I am not "doing" the chasing. Make it seem like it was his idea and initiative. -Sapiens
littlekitty Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I have taken the proactive stance a couple of times to be honest. It always worked for me! The only thing I would say is that some men may find it a little intimidating. However, since he's already showing an interest, but is a little shy, it's more likely he'd be relieved I would think! And just because there's a Friends quote for everything: Rachel: I've never asked a guy out before. Phoebe: You've never asked a guy out? Rachel: No. Have you? Phoebe: Thousands of times.... That doesn't make me sound too good, does it?
Author Maria33 Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 Maria, This is just my two bits. Don't ask him straight out, I lose interest if I am not "doing" the chasing. Make it seem like it was his idea and initiative. -Sapiens This is what I'm worried about. How do I make it seem like his idea?
BrandonBP Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Yes! It's a wonderful feeling to have a pretty girl ask you for your phone number. It cuts out the games that so many of us hate to play.
Sapiens Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 This is what I'm worried about. How do I make it seem like his idea? Well, talk to him a bit and listen for things he is interested in. For example, he like the latest... hmm, I don't know...Ah, the latest mold exhibit.. yea, that's it. He tells you everything there is to know about mold and then he happens to mention that there is a mold exhibit coming up. You then could say something like, "Wow, I always wanted to see the mold exhibit, but I don't know anybody who wants to go with me..." You get the idea.. -Sapiens
Sapiens Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Yes! It's a wonderful feeling to have a pretty girl ask you for your phone number. It cuts out the games that so many of us hate to play. Unfortunately, once you get asked out by women a lot you will lose interest soon after and feel unfulfilled... -Sapiens
phyrespryte Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Unfortunately, once you get asked out by women a lot you will lose interest soon after and feel unfulfilled... -Sapiens Just curious.... Do you mean you lose interest when there are a lot of women asking you out? Or when that one woman keeps asking you out? And is it possible that you're not losing interest because she asked you out...but because she just wasn't compatible with you?
Outcast Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Unfortunately, once you get asked out by women a lot you will lose interest soon after and feel unfulfilled... See, Sapiens. You are one guy. You have your own set of feelings and standards. Other men are different from you. They think differently, and have different feelings and standards. So you cannot speak for all men just as I cannot speak for all women. IMHO, it's the insecure man who gets 'bored' if he's not 'chasing'. This is not a game. It's about two people getting to know each other to find out whether they suit each other long-term and all this bunk about 'chasing' is not going to tell anyone that. So Maria33, your guy could be nothing like Sapiens (I expect that may be the case) and more like NTB and BrandonBP and the other guys who will answer that they love it when women express interest in them.
Touche Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I first asked my ex out. I knew he never would since he was my boss. I felt his interest in me and was fairly sure he'd say yes. He did and was glad that I did. (Wish I never had though...but that's another story!)
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Sure.. I've had more than one girl ask me out.. Truth be told if they wanted to go out with me then they needed to ask me because I was blind to their interest. My exwife was even the one to propose to me.. I don't feel there are gender lines that should be followed in respects to asking someone out.
Poboy Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Which guy wouldnt like being asked out If you like him , definitely ask him out , i see no reason why you shouldnt.Some guys are shy to ask women out , lack of confidence or experience in the area. If he likes you too , he will say yes
Sapiens Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Just curious.... Do you mean you lose interest when there are a lot of women asking you out? Or when that one woman keeps asking you out? And is it possible that you're not losing interest because she asked you out...but because she just wasn't compatible with you? I like your questions! Let me give them some careful thought and I will answer them tonight. -Sapiens
Sapiens Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 My exwife was even the one to propose to me.. Case on point, that why she is an Ex-W! LOL! -Sapiens
Sapiens Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 See, Sapiens. You are one guy. You have your own set of feelings and standards. Other men are different from you. They think differently, and have different feelings and standards. So you cannot speak for all men just as I cannot speak for all women. IMHO, it's the insecure man who gets 'bored' if he's not 'chasing'. This is not a game. It's about two people getting to know each other to find out whether they suit each other long-term and all this bunk about 'chasing' is not going to tell anyone that. So Maria33, your guy could be nothing like Sapiens (I expect that may be the case) and more like NTB and BrandonBP and the other guys who will answer that they love it when women express interest in them. Says who? Life is life, I will get what I want even if I have to wade through a lot of crap to get it. -Sapiens
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Case on point, that why she is an Ex-W! LOL! No.. Actually that isn't true.. so it doesn't make a point for your case. Her asking me to marry her had absolutely zero to do with why we divorced
alphamale Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I need some advice from men. If you were slightly interested in a woman and she asked you out, would you say yes? It really depends....I may have to be more than "slightly interested" to say yes if she asked me. The vast majority of the time when a woman asked me out the situation has not worked out well for her. I would go out with them one or two times and then lose interest or just utilize them for my own sexual gratification. I don't like pushy and aggressive women. They turn me off.
Sapiens Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 No.. Actually that isn't true.. so it doesn't make a point for your case. Her asking me to marry her had absolutely zero to do with why we divorced Well, after you spoke so bad about one of my paintings she realized how devoid of talent you are and decided to part ways! LOL, just busting chops Art! I like your submissive manly ways. -Sapiens
Guitar Wizard Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I think aggressiveness is sexy I’m not shy by any means, and Im usually the first to flirt, break the ice, or ask someone out, but when I get beaten to the punch, it’s cool. I don’t mind at all, or lose interest, in fact I’m even more interested that the girl was bold enough to beat me! Although, that’s not to say I don’t like a challenge, girls that play hard to get are fun too. Hmm, I just realized it’s hard for me to give sound advice because I really like alot of different types of feminine personalities. Hmm... Well, a lot of my guy friends are a little timid about being asked out. They cling to the stone-age idea of "The man’s job". And it is the man’s duty to ask the girl out, and be aggressive. Personally, I believe in the term "It’s all good". If you like him, go for it! And if he freaks out, what kinda guy is that anyway? Don’t you want one that won’t flee at the first sign of a little female aggression?
Guitar Wizard Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I don't like pushy and aggressive women. They turn me off. Probably because it would be like sleeping with yourself.
j.carsey Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I need some advice from men. If you were slightly interested in a woman and she asked you out, would you say yes? Yes I hardly ever get asked out, it's always ME putting my ass on the line and approaching girls that often refuse to reciprocate my interest in them. So definitely, ask him out and if he likes you too you will have a fantastic time together. As someone else said this isn't supposed to be about playing mind games, it's finding a compatible partner. And if you are rejected, well, it happens to us guys all the time. Learn to deal with it and you'll be better off
Author Maria33 Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 Okay, now I read on some website that if the woman asks out the man then she won't really know if he does like her. But, isn't this what guys have to deal with all the time? On the other hand, I wouldn't want someone to go out with me just because they felt sorry for me or something like that. This dating stuff is so confusing!! I'm still waiting for the SIGN that he is interested first. We have been talking more and we seem more comfortable talking with each other. I'm still getting the body language that he is interested too. He is definately getting that from me! Any more ideas? This really helps!
norajane Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Okay, now I read on some website that if the woman asks out the man then she won't really know if he does like her. But, isn't this what guys have to deal with all the time? On the other hand, I wouldn't want someone to go out with me just because they felt sorry for me or something like that. This dating stuff is so confusing!! I'm still waiting for the SIGN that he is interested first. We have been talking more and we seem more comfortable talking with each other. I'm still getting the body language that he is interested too. He is definately getting that from me! Any more ideas? This really helps! Sweets, you're overthinking this. What's the worst that can happen if you ask him out? He says no? Big deal. There are tons of guys out there. Did you try hinting? "Oh, the so-and-so's are playing at my favorite club this weekend! Do you like the so-and-so's?" And then work the conversation to how you'd like to go. If he doesn't ask you out then, just ask him if he'd like to go with you. It doesn't have to be a band - anything that interests you.
Bullgator Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 In college, just out of the blue a girl from one of my classes asked me out. I hadn't even noticed her before, but I went anyway. It was okay but as it turns out we had nothing in common -- that was our only date.
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