CONFUZED01 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Its been a almost two weeks since me and my boyfriend of 5 years broke up and i have been okay one day, sad the next, happy all these emotions kinda mixed into one. I went 5 days without calling him then just couldnt take it anymore and called him, where he actaully brushed me off. I cant but get withdrawel symptoms. Please tell me why No Contact is good and can actually benefit me this can help me resist calling him
LN8840K Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 The time will come when you can think of 8 different reasons why you should not call, and 0 reasons why you should.
candyland Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 if you keep calling or contacting, eventually you will see how it always sets you back. the worst case scenario is that you end up reliving the break up over and over again. you will inevitably feel worse after each attempt to contact. then you will find you that you can't put yourself through that anymre and just stop. not knowing what is going on in his life is better than being tormented with all the details of his new life,etc. eventually you just get tired of being sad and upset and crying and learn to stop.
richardcruz Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I feel your pain. I have been 2 weeks nc with my ex g/f and it seems harder and harder each day I wake up. Keep posting. So far it is the only minor relief that I have gotten. I guess just knowing that you're not the only one going through this somewhat helps for some reason.
Nedved28 Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 No contact is the only way we can heal!! I'm just after starting NC with my ex and already its hard!! I know there's pain ahead but its something we have to face!! Like me you've a long hard raod ahead but you'l be okay and you'l get through this!! good luck
Fallen_Angel Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Before you do anything else, read No Foolin's No Contact thread: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t56954/ You're still going to be an emotional basketcase after 2 weeks, trust me. And it may take a lot of time before the urge to call him finally subsides, given the length of time you've been with this guy and all you had invested in the relationship. Before you pick up the phone, ask yourself "What do I hope to gain by doing this?" I'm sure you know what the answer is. And will that happen through this phone call? Not likely. So put down the phone and do something else...ANYTHING else!!! You need to prove to your ex and to yourself that ultimately you have control of this situation. How do you seize control? By cutting off all forms of contact. We're all here for you, and we know you can do this!
Guest Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 So sorry to hear you are having a hard time. I know what you are going through. My ex left me after 11 years for another woman. It has been 6 weeks today. I have tried to focus on myself, working out and doing things I enjoy that I didn't get to do much when I was with him. It helps get my mind off him. I have found the weekends, especially Sunday the hardest. I always seem to want to call him on Sunday. Don't know why. But I have resisted so far and each time I get stronger. I usually end up calling my mother or a girlfriend when the urge to break no contact comes up. Two weeks is still early. You will eventually get stronger, so hang in there. You will only get hurt if you call and he dismisses you, and you don't need anymore pain. I find this site has been very helpful in keeping me strong.
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