RealBroken Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Hey, well things have gotten worse for me. Something im questioning is bugging me. Can u help. What do u think. I suspected that my ex left me for someone else but wasnt totally sure. Anyway, ive just found out SHE IS with this guy. After we broke up, she was upset and in tears on the phone. Over the next week after we broke up she would text me and say she missed me and was finding it hard. She would say "goodnight xx" etc. If a girl leaves you for someone else...... would they behave like this? My thoughts are, no they'd be gettin ya out of the picture quick smart. Or can i be wrong. Can she leave me for the possibility of being with someone else,..... and yet still have those feelings or be expressing them. Im wanting to know did she leave me for him. or did she leave me and swing onto him. They met while we were stil together and saw each other a couple of times "as friends apparently". What do you think? possible???
littlekitty Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Anything is possible. Either situation is possibe. But it's unlikely you'll ever really know what happened, and even if you did, would it really bring you any comfort one way or the other? It's time to stop debating the facts, and move on. She is with someone else, so you have to put this behind you. Good luck!
Author RealBroken Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 Please no-one tell me to move on. i will in my own time. I have just asked for peoples opinions on what they may have think happened above. Thanks I just wanna know, did she end it with me..... to be with him. Or is he a rebound from me.
littlekitty Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 The only person who can tell you for sure is her. Have you asked her? To give you my opinion, yes, it's more than possible that she moved on to someone else, and was still texting you good night. She might have felt guilty still, or even still sort of missed you. But it doesn't mean 100% that she wasn't already with this new guy.
Author RealBroken Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 Man, I'd be pissed off if i was the other guy too. Imagine being with someone while they text their ex "i miss you" Girls are def different. I cant fathom "being with someone new, but still missing my ex" Man is hard to get ya head around. Any other opinions?
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I cant fathom "being with someone new, but still missing my ex" Man is hard to get ya head around. Any other opinions? I'm with Little Kitty on this one.. there is a high possiblity of her having someone else in the wings first.. But with her guilt.. she may have felt guilty because of your reaction to the breakup.. it seems that you haven't accepted it and she may have sensed that also and felt guilty for causing you pain and in a weird way she may have been thinking that she was helping you move on. Dwelling on the what if's will only cause you pain and increase the time it takes you to get over her.
Poboy Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 It may be that this is a rebound relationship for her with the new guy. She maybe genuinely hurt after your breakup and missing you . It all depends whether she got involved with this guy before or after she broke up with you. Ask her and clear it up if you want to
Author RealBroken Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 Hmmm maybe. The night after the breakup she out of the blue sent me a text saying "i just want hugs with you" I ignored it. i ignored most of them actually. I would get "goodnight xxx" I would get "im finding this hard" I would get "are u still wearing your ring?" Then after a while i got asked a QUESTION!!! "Hey are u finding this hard aswell??? like do u miss me?" I replied with "what do u think" She replied with "yeah im missing you, i guess no-one said this was gonna be easy" Man i would never text an ex that stuff after breakin up, especially if wanting to move on........ and definately wouldnt do it to try to comfort them....... it would make it worse!
Author RealBroken Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 It may be that this is a rebound relationship for her with the new guy. She maybe genuinely hurt after your breakup and missing you . It all depends whether she got involved with this guy before or after she broke up with you. Ask her and clear it up if you want to Nah, i dont wanna ask her. Id rather her think i dont care. And hey, how wld i know shes tellin the truth anyway. She'd known him for years and years, just not that well. She met up with him DURING our breakup process. Im guessing HE may have been the straw that broke the camels back. I do know she was dead keen on restoring US and the RELATIONSHIP the night before she ran into him. Thats why its so hard to tell. She was upset, when we spoke on the phone at the time off the breakup she was in tears. A week later we spoke again on the phone (she had told me since then she didnt feel the same anymore)...... but she was in tears again this time. Go figure??? ha ha...... i cant. I would love him to be a rebound relationship!!! At least then it would feel like all that time I did actually mean something to the girl. is hard to see when ur just tossed aside. is damn strange though........ she is BEAUTIFUL and very caring lovely girl, and he's a horrible lookin bastard. i heard he said, i never thought i would have a chance with someone like her, so yeah big UPS for him and his confidence. Oh i would so love it to go upside down. I feel she'll be the one endin it though, not him. Ahhh who knows. Time will tell. I know about the whole move on. But understand.... IM SO BLOODY GUTTED over the whole thing. Dam P*SSED OFF. Its a hard concept to get ur head around eh,..... one minute all butterflies and love,.... then its "bugger off, i dont know you"
tanbark813 Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 She texts you that stuff so that you'll be waiting for her just in case things don't work out with the new guy. It's up to you whether or not you want to be her Plan B.
gfto Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 The other guy is irrelevant. The only thing that is relevant is her low interest level in you. In other words, if she still had high interest level in you, she wouldn't have given this other guy the time of day. You can analyze her text messages 24/7, but they, too, are irrelevant.
Author RealBroken Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 I know her interest levels must have been lower. Thats obvious. But why THE CRYING AND MESSAGES.
kaeferman Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I dont know if this will help, but last year my GF broke up with me then had this other guy in her head, 2 weeks after that she came back with me and we were together for one more year (till last monday). I asked her what happened and she said he had him in her mind just to avoid thinking about me. When we got back, there were no more problems with this guy or her thinking about him. Until last week when we had a discussion and she opened the subject again. I am wondering if she is using this guy just to put some pressure in me. I dont really get it, but anyway, girls do these kind of tricks. The problem is that these tricks are DANGEROUS. This was my first weekend without her, was really hard I have to admit, but I had some fun with friends. Today I drove by her house (had to do something in the neighborhood) and saw her friends car was at her place. If her female friend was there, then I am sure they were chatting. Just like girls do. I dont know why, but I find this a good sign. We will see... Anyway, you will hate her and the other guy if anything happens. I find it really hard to separate her kissing another guy and her thoughts about me, my most difficult decission will have to be if she wants to come back with me AFTER being with this other guy... I would have to close the door, but damn I love her.
Pantero Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 She texts you that stuff so that you'll be waiting for her just in case things don't work out with the new guy. It's up to you whether or not you want to be her Plan B. Listen to him... LISTEN TO HIM!!!!!!
Author RealBroken Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 To be honest, i really do think she'd made up her MIND once she finally broke up with me after all the 'confused' thinkin about it. She said i have to make a decision today for the both of us as its hurting you and i cant sleep or study...... few hours later she broke it off. Surely she wouldnt deliberately be taggin me along. Maybe she was showing me that 'i did actually mean something to her' and that 'it REALLY wasnt easy for her' If it was then i guess it was kinda nice. I just know if it was me and i had dumped for someone esle,..... i wouldnt be encouraging them, or stil having them in the picture, i dunno. About two weeks later (she was in her car driving to see this guy 2 hrs away) she sends me a text saying have u heard the song by James Blunt "Goodbye my Lover" I was like WTF!!! Sad song about breakin up and still loving someone. I dont think it was fair of her at all to be sending me such messages. I never replied,....... but later i did ask what the heck did that text supposed to mean. She said, oh i didnt mean anything by it" Man nothing is logical in relationships is it...... or worse so.... break ups. What was up with that text,....... and the messages... im really stil not convinced i think bout that.
Author RealBroken Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 oh and at the time of the text she sent,..... she already knew him and her could be ALL ON if she wanted coz i know for fact that she'd had a love letter from him just before that day. Come from a small town, u find out these things easy. ( ;
Author RealBroken Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 I feel that, she had a real hard time with the breakup because of her actions. 2 weeks after it i was on the phone to her and i said it just feels like we've broken up for the wrong reasons, what with your texts etc. She started crying. Maybe this guy came along more serious AFTER we had broken up, thats why i never heard from her again. It guts me, she jumped to him so quick and her emotion that seemed so strong over everything just died in an instant. I find it incredible how people do this. Poof ....gone
Art_Critic Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 It guts me, she jumped to him so quick and her emotion that seemed so strong over everything just died in an instant. I find it incredible how people do this. Poof ....gone All is fair in love and war.. Look out for number 1.. You guys were broken up so she wasn't obligated to sit at home and pine over you.. she did what some would call " moving on ". It doesn't change the hurt you feel when they move on so fast but you have to realize that it is all for a reason and part of life.. Now get out there and put yourself back in the dating pool.. and quit taking calls and texts by her.. Block her number on your cell phone and delete her also..
Author RealBroken Posted June 21, 2006 Author Posted June 21, 2006 Is just difficult to understand how she switched her heart so quickly to someone else, after appearing so upset. Thats why I ask....... was it her plan to hook up with this guy and thats why we broke up. Or did it all happen afterwards like a rebound. Its just all the missing you texts and tears that she sent after the breakup for a week......... then bang with someone else.
Author RealBroken Posted June 21, 2006 Author Posted June 21, 2006 Can a rebound really make you move on THAT QUICK? or is alot pretend and ignoring the old love emotions?
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