OhLola Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Hi all, I've been seeing a great guy for about 6 weeks. He's gorgeous and lovely to me and great in bed! I really can't fault him but for some reason I'm not convinced about the relationship... I still go out with my friends and talk to other guys and keep my options open. I don't even get that excited when he calls. I do enjoy being with him but at the 6 week mark, shouldn't I be infatuated with this guy, or at least really keen? We had the 'exclusivity' talk last night and I just was thinking in the back of my mind 'boring!'. Maybe it's because I know he really likes me - is it a case of only wanting what I can't have? I went out with a total jerk for 2 years but I was completely head over heels from day one. He treated me like crap but i cou;dn't get enough of him. Now Prince Charming has come along and I feel like delibertaely f8cking it up. What's wrong with me?!
Oh Lola Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Come on peeps, anyone been in a similiar situation or have advice for me?? I don't know why I'm not high about this guy when he seems like Mr Perfect... Yet I don't want to f8ck it up then look back and kick myself.
Lishy Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I know how you feel - I have been in that situation and I came the the conclusion that the 'infatuation' with the arsehole, wasnt infact infatuation, it was a challenge. We all like a chase and a bit of unsureity but it leads to you thinking that he is doing YOU a favour by even calling or turning up! What you have met, it seems, is a NICE guy! A reliable guy and it is boring you! I bet my bottom dollar that if he started acting flaky and treating you bad your interest level would rise! I am 35 now so I dont like the bad boy anymore, infact they turn my stomach. Be careful you dont lose this guy, cos you dont know what you have got until you lose it! How old are you?
scrybe74 Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I've been both the 'nice guy' and the 'a**h***' in my past. By nature I'm a 'nice guy'. Do the guy a favor and tell him that you don't want to be exclusive with him. It will be better for the both of you. If you're bored now with this guy and the abusive jerk got your juices flowing you'll just abuse this poor guy in the end. If you do actually like him then try to keep seeing him but in a non committed dating sort of way. That way he's free to pursue someone who can appreciate his qualities (an he will) but in the meantime you can take a step back and decide if he is really what you want. You may discover during this period that he does excite you. If you don't....no harm no foul (no commitment remember?) and nobody get's hurt (not too bad at least) BTW - For some reason when I'm the 'a**h***' guy I get SOOO much more attention from women. The worse I treat them the easier things are for me -- except that I get bored and lonely (because it's not really me) I've decided to just be the nice guy that I am and hope for the best and sure enough I eventually met a beautiful girl who happens to like nice guys that treat her well. We've been together over 2 years now and have a baby girl. :-)
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