LifeinLimbo Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 My ex and I broke up a few weeks ago and then got back together briefly, I've posted about this in another string. We talked last night on msn for over an hour and both came to the realization that our communication sucks. I don't understand him and he doesn't understand me. He's really mad at me right now. So apparently his complete breakdown last week had nothing to do with us getting back together. I had no idea that this was the case because he kept avoiding me and wouldn't tell me what was going on with him. I just wanted to help him. His meltdown gave me the obvious impression that he didn't want to get back together. I was extremely hurt. Last Sunday I sent him a song called "goodbye my lover" by James Blunt, because I wanted him to know that I care about him and that I wouldn't forget us. He takes this as ME breaking up with him... what the hell? Oh and I found out that him saying that "he wouldn't be hurt if we broke up," actually means, "I'm giving you an easy way out." He said that I wasn't happy and that he wasn't making me happy, so he gave me an easy way out and I took it. In reality, I was upset because of other stuff that was going on in my life and all I wanted was some reasurrance that he cared, especially since he'd been distant. Ya, so now he's super hurt and angry with me for "breaking up with him again." He's so sensitive and so terrible at explaining what he means that a lot of the time I just don't understand him. He also doesn't understand me a lot of the time. I care about him a lot and in most cases our personalities complement each other nicely. We've had a lot of good times together but apparently our communication is terrible! I really want him back but he says that he can't do this again. I'm so frustrated because we'd gotten back together, things were great, and then the whole breakup confusion started. I've tried to patch things up but he's still so hurt that he's really mad at me. He didn't sleep friday or saturday nights and he's been getting drunk to forget things. I just want him to be happy, I hate seeing him like this. Last Tuesday he was so happy. I want to see that again. I'd really like some advice on how I should handle this. Should I give him space and do the NC thing? Should I keep trying to make things better? I'm afraid that if I do the NC thing then he'll assume that I've given up and don't care. He's a very forgiving guy (although he remembers things forever) and he hasn't blocked me from msn so this gives me some hope.
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