Author richardcruz Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 Ok. First I wanted to say that I guess my title for my thread was a bit harsh, but originally when joining this forum, I truly felt that way. Yes, she does have a heart and I know she has been through alot. Anyways her and I work at the same place but it is a rather large facility. Our jobs are completely different and she works a different shift which means I never see her. I know I shouldnt have done this but I broke the golden NC rule (after 2 weeks and 4 days of NC) and wrote her a letter and placed it in her box. In the letter I wrote with all the things that I know that I had done wrong in our relationship and told her how very sorry I was (even though I still feel hurt how she just left). The next day I receive a letter from her in my box that was very long and heart felt. She too apologized for what she had done wrong in our relationship and said she wished I would have realized all those things earlier. At the end of the letter she says she still loves me but she needs TIME ALONE to figure out things. She does however mention that she would want to hang out with me sometime as a friend. I am so confused. Here are my questions: 1. Is hanging out a good or bad idea. Im not sure because I think that maybe if we do, we can finally be together without arguing or playing the blame game or crying and she can realize again why she originally fell in love with me. 2.I ended writing back saying that we should do that sometime and that I would let her know. Did I screw up saying that If I don't end up taking her out. We'll she then forever wait for me to call her 3.Have I lost her forever because she knows that her mother still wont accept me and she's just being nice. 4. Should this be a good point since we kind of smoothed out things to walk away and go NC. Im afraid that if I don't make some kind of contact occasionally, she'll forget aout me. Please anyone help. Your posts are greatly appreciated.
BrandonBP Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 if you dislike women enough to get "revenge" on women who have not actually hurt you, then it seems that the above idea isn't going to work...or you would have had this power over all them all along. as per your experiences, you obviously lack this power. First, the post was a sarcastic view of women written by me when I was pissed off about how things had gone for me this month. Second, I've never tried to date someone permanently unless I cared for them. If the girl really liked me and I didn't see the chemistry on my end, I would be nice enough to let them know immediately instead of using them as a sexdoll. Third, it doesn't matter much whether some faceless UserName in a forum thinks I am a good fellow or a creep. I initially came here out of grief while trying to understand why my fiance left me when I thought for sure she was still ready to get married. Now, I'm doing much better after the good lessons about relationships and love that I have learned from reading the experiences of other people in here. I'm coming here still to learn more about how to find and keep the "one" but I've also found that I enjoy the stimulating conversations here. If you're upset at something I've written, all I can tell you is that I'm very sarcastic and would never intentionally hurt a woman physically or emotionally. I'm not even one of those guys that holds any animosity towards an exgirlfriend's new boyfriend. I don't wish anyone any illwill. If you wish to think I'm an evil creep, then enjoy.
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