Boyfriend Gave His Ex-Wife a Bracelet We Bought On Our Trip

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I broke up with my boyfriend of over a year because he gifted his ex with one of the bracelets he and I bought on my birthday trip to Mexico. He didn't even tell me he was doing it. I noticed it on her wrist Friday night at his friends party. I was totally surprised and taken aback. According to him, she cheated and left her diary of sexual unions on their bed. This is what allegedly caused the break-up.

 

He said he gave it to her on Mother's Day as a friendship gift. Why didn't he tell me he was doing this "friendship gesture?" I have no problem if they were friends, but the secretive junk is for the birds. Last year, his daughter came to visit from NY and brought her mother over to his house so all three of them to could attend an annual Chinese New Year's party. I was NOT invited.

 

I was also not invited to another of his friend's parties, but his ex wife sent HIM an e-mail invitation. He declined, but it all seemed so James Bond to me. I didn't break up over that, but this last thing was a bit much for me.

 

As soon as I arrived at the last party on Friday, his ex wife (not her party) offered to get me drinks, food, and ask me about my job. She even complimented me on my beauty. She asked about our trips and our upcoming trip to Vegas on Wednesday for him to meet my daughter and her husband. But, it doesn't look like he's going with me. I felt comfortable talking to her, until we sat down in a group and I noticed a silver bracelet that looked familiar. I turned to my guy and quietly leaned in and asked him if that was one of the bracelets we bought in Mexico and he concurred. Why would he do that? He said it was a friendship gesture. He gave it to her on Mother's Day. Why that day? Is he hoping she'll look at the bracelet and come running back to him? I think he's hoping she will. Fudge! I need to move on, but right now, it's only been two days since I said goodbye.

 

I don't think I jumped the gun. I'm not an insecure woman after I spent 3 years with myself not dating, but just finding out who I was and what I wanted in life. I call it "solitary refinement." I trusted him, but now I'm questioning his trustworthiness.