LauraMarieXoXo Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Ok so I need some help here please. I was going to meet this guy who I've been talking to at a club last Saturday night. We decided to meet up there so we went there seperatly. I was waiting in line at the club and I got there a little early. There was a guy there that started talking to me in the line. He asked if I was here by myself. I told him that I was actually meeting a guy here. He said "Oh really, well that kinda sucks because I kinda wanted to talk to you." So I end up getting a phone call from the guy that I was supposed to meet up with there. He said that he was running a little late and that he'd be there in like 15 minutes. I was kind of happy in a way that he was going to be late because for some reason I really wanted to continue talking to this guy. We get inside and he offers to buy me a drink and I accept. I then find out that we live 5 minutes away from each other. I knew my time was runnin up with him before the other guy got there so I asked him "Hey, do you want my number now because I have to leave you in like 3 minutes?" He said he did and then he called my cell right then and there to make sure that I had his number in my phone. Later on that night I was miserable because my date got to the club and the WHOLE time he did not offer me one drink, he ordered food without asking me if I wanted something, ate right in front of me without offering if I would like to try any of his food, and just totally ignored me the whole night. We sat at the table at the club in silence basically. It was so awkward and it was a nightmare. I really wanted to go find the guy I met at the door and hang out with him instead, but being the lady I am I decided to just finish out my so-called date. When we left the club he walked me back to the parking garage where my car was. I had to pay $20 because my date didn't even offer to pay for that. WHAT an a**h***!!! So I never spoke to him again after that night. I end up getting a call from the guy I met in line at the club the next day. He wanted to take me out. So we planned to go to this restaurant where his friend bartends. He seems like a really polite nice guy and he even picked me up at my house. He opened the car door for me both times and just seemed so genuine and nice. He seemed different from all the other guys that I have met. He bought me my drinks all night and we even shared an appetizer. We were there for a few hours just talking and having great conversations. We talked about school, work, future jobs, our families, you know everything was going well I thought. He even was talking about other places we should go in the future and how I should go to one of his games. We get back to my house and I invite him in. We turn on the tv and after 15 minutes he tells me what a good night he's had and that he's happy we went out tonight. He leans in to kiss me and I kiss him back. We end up making out and fooling around for a little while. NOT sex though. And I didn't even touch him. Then when I walked him to the door he said it again...what a good night he had and asked if I had a good night. He told me he'd call me but didn't say when. I said ok, call me. Well we went out this past Tuesday night and it is now Sunday afternoon and I STILL have not heard from him. No call, No text. Why???? What do I do?? I really really like this guy alot. I know that I just met him but there is something about him that has me hooked. Why do you think he hasn't called yet? Do you even think he will call? I just really don't want to stoop down and be the one to call him. I always believe that the guy should call you. What do you think??? Please help!!
Kengne Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Well we went out this past Tuesday night and it is now Sunday afternoon and I STILL have not heard from him. No call, No text. Why???? What do I do?? I really really like this guy alot. I know that I just met him but there is something about him that has me hooked. Why do you think he hasn't called yet? Do you even think he will call? I just really don't want to stoop down and be the one to call him. I always believe that the guy should call you. What do you think??? Please help!! There could be a ton of reasons why he hasn't called. Busy with work, school, family, stressed out? Whatever! It's only been a few days. If it'd been a few WEEKS or MONTHS since your date I'd be saying 'He's-just-not-that-into-you!" but it's waay to early for that. Just focus on you right now & your life ... and be easy, light & breezy. He WILL call you. And yes I think HE should call YOU, as IMO men need to be the pursuers. Continue keeping sex off the books for now until you've reached that exclusive stage, and you should be just fine. Good luck! K.
j.carsey Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 He might just be busy, of course. A few days is nothing to worry about. It's quite possible he has several ladies on the go. I think some women don't understand this: guys who hang out at clubs/bars and pick up women might seem like the greatest gentlemen ever, but they have many women going on at once. Why do you think they are hanging out at the bar, for the awesome food? Overpriced drinks? To listen to overdriven and distorted music everyone has already heard a million times? C'mon Be realistic. He likes you but he meets lots of other women in the same way. Make sure he is putting in the effort to see you, that means he wants to be with you. After some time if it really looks like he's not putting in the effort to hang out with you, then forget about him - he's not serious. I would give nearly the same advice to a guy if the genders were reversed
timidity99 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 What if you are in an exclusive relationship for 3 years and your girlfriend doesn't call you once everyday? Does that mean she's not into you? What if she calls once every 2 days? Or every once in awhile she doesn't call you for 3 days?
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