AndrewJ8 Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 I am 30...she is 26. We had been dating for 9 months and everything had been going great. We were close, got along very well, had so much in common and enjoyed each other's company very much. While neither of us had reached the "in love" stage, we cared about each other very much. Halfway through the relationship, she decided to return to school which I supported her 100% on this decision. Once school began, it took up alot of the time we use to be able to spend together. Due to demands with school and her career, it began to stress her out very much. While it was tough to watch, I was always there to encourage her and help her in any way I could. Many times volunteering to give up time we were suppose to spend together so she could concentrate on her school work or career. As time passed, I soon began to notice that our relationship was no longer a priority in her eyes. She became very distant and the encouragement and support I would give her was now frustrating her. As a result, I decided to back away (not walk away) and give her some space. A couple of weeks later, she told me that she no longer wanted a relationship and wanted to just be friends. I took this news very hard. Not only was I now not a priority to her, this relationship was not important to her enough for us to make it through this together. Every decision I made was to support her as I knew what her career and getting this degree meant to her. For some reason, everything that I had done that was meant to be postive and done with the best of intentions was taken to be totally negative in her eyes. As a result, I walked away and left everything in God's hands. I did not contact her for 2 months. During this time, I decided to move on with my life. I slowly got over the sadness and dissapointment and began dating again. Interesting enough, she got word that I was dating and contacted me. We decided to meet to talk. I told her that I knew the decision that she made was not the right one but that I knew there was nothing I could say or do to make her realize that. I told her she would have to realize that on her own. She seemed confused but continue to say that she just did not want a relationship at this point in her life and that she was happy. I did not beg and did not make any attempt to get her back nor will I. I know we should be together but for some reason, she does not see that. I told her that I would always be here for her but that I was moving on with my life as there is a chance she may never see what a good thing she had....what we both had. I am continuing to date, have fun and pray for my ex daily. I still do no plan to contact her as all it would do is push her further away. It hurts to know that someone could sacrifice so much, support someone so much, treat someone so well to have them give up on that. I am confused. Can anyone help me see this different and make me understand? What should I do now? Thanks in advance for helping me! Andrew
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