alphamale Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Ok now you sound like Woggle. no...WOGGLE sound like me. I was here first
Author j.carsey Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 I want to go head-to-head with catgirl, I think it would be very hot
Guest Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 :lmao: Do you allow her to look up or does she have to keep her eyes on the ground at all time? I know that's not how you meant it to sound, (surely it's not, if it is get used to walking alone), it just sounds like it's pretty strict. Just the way I read it, probably. Come on! I was just saying that too much makeup is a turnoff for me. I don't think saying "you don't need to spnd an hour on makeup" puts a hurdle on anyone. As for my other comments, I don't think I'm unusual. I think most men and women don't want their date to show up with dirty hair or shabby clothes. These things shouldn't be a huge production, but to say they "don't matter" isn't accurate either.
IWalkAlone Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 :lmao: Do you allow her to look up or does she have to keep her eyes on the ground at all time? I know that's not how you meant it to sound, (surely it's not, if it is get used to walking alone), it just sounds like it's pretty strict. Just the way I read it, probably. Come on! I was just saying that too much makeup is a turnoff for me. I don't think saying "you don't need to spnd an hour on makeup" puts a hurdle on anyone. As for my other comments, I don't think I'm unusual. I think most men and women don't want their date to show up with dirty hair or shabby clothes. These things shouldn't be a huge production, but to say they "don't matter" isn't accurate either.
catgirl1927 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Come on! I was just saying that too much makeup is a turnoff for me. I don't think saying "you don't need to spnd an hour on makeup" puts a hurdle on anyone. As for my other comments, I don't think I'm unusual. I think most men and women don't want their date to show up with dirty hair or shabby clothes. These things shouldn't be a huge production, but to say they "don't matter" isn't accurate either. Oh, I know. I was being a smartass. Even I don't spend an hour on makeup. That's a long time. If it takes that long, I'd be expecting creature effects of some kind. A fin or something like that.
Pyro Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 We are all in competition with everyone else at all times. What makes you believe this?
ashnicole Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 We are all in competition with everyone else at all times. Your view is naive and causes many people to become to comfortable in their relationships. You must remain on your toes at all times. I don't have to remain on my toes. I trust my boyfriend completely & I know he's not going anywhere, and I have nothing to worry about. See, I have one of those RARE relationships. I'm not going to let some dink on the internet try to make me insecure about my relationship - but it sure is funny watching you try.
Toni_no12002 Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I think its fair enough if a woman wears make up as long as she knows how to put it on right!I dont wear it never really have.I did beauty at college and it makes me cringe when i see women walk around with bright orange faces.What were they thinking!
amerikajin Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 When you're in a committed relationship, and you trust eachother 100%, you're not in competition with anyone... because your SO wants YOU, and no one else. That's part of being secure in your relationship... I have a feeling you've never experienced this before, based on your idiotic tendencies that are flowing out of your fingertips. When Alpha's talking about competition, I don't think he's suggesting that anyone can just waltz into a perfectly healthy relationship and destroy it in one fell swoop. I think he's referring to those moments when we're not at our best, when the relationship has seen some better days, thus causing people to see more fault than perhaps they should in their partners. Whoever's in the background at any point in time can most certainly become competition if one or both of the partners suddenly have it in their minds that the game is on again, even if it's merely a subconcious feeling. So in a way, he's right - because there are very few relationships which don't experience this kind of dynamic at some point or another. So in effect, we are at some point in the relationship in competition with someone. Early in the relationship, we're perhaps one of a handful of potential suitors in competition with each other; deeper into the relationship, personal demons have a way of putting us into situations where we compete against someone with a 'clean slate'. I agree with Alpha: you've always got to be on top of your game.
alphamale Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I agree with Alpha: you've always got to be on top of your game. yes that is what I was saying AMERIKAJIN....once someone gets too comfortable in any relationship then thats when bad things tend to happen. this applies especially to romantic relationships. What makes you believe this? because i've been around the block a few more times than you have.
SmoochieFace Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I don't have to remain on my toes. I trust my boyfriend completely & I know he's not going anywhere, and I have nothing to worry about. See, I have one of those RARE relationships. You need to understand that, while you have one of those *rare* relationships - as I do as well - and that you are happy and secure in said relationship, you're going to run into naysayers and killjoys who will say almost anything to get you to think in the same cynical and jaded ways that they do. You know what they say... misery loves company. Right? I'm not going to let some dink on the internet try to make me insecure about my relationship - but it sure is funny watching you try. ...
alfagrl Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 JC, I think you have the nice guy syndrom...theres nothing you can do about this. woman can sniff this out no matter how aggressive (sneaking in her bed) you try to be. This chick sees you as the nice guy. You know your a nice guy and if a girl wants to be bad she is gonna do it with a bad boy. Not with you because its not in your nature. To me it sounds like she may like you & she may want to explore the posiblity of a relationship with you, but your coming at her in a sexual manner. If you truely like her then persue a relationship with her and the sex will come later. IF you just want to Eff her ..it aint gonna happen.
alfagrl Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 AMERIKAJIN, Can you make that first instructual post of yours in a female version? It took me years of dating to see this pattern. I knew there was an instructual "mannual" out there that all guys read from. The problem is, its gettng into the wrong hands -guys with ill intentions are using it as a 'players' mannual. Now I don't know who is for real or who is using the "manual" to get some.
Pyro Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I think he's referring to those moments when we're not at our best, when the relationship has seen some better days, thus causing people to see more fault than perhaps they should in their partners. Whoever's in the background at any point in time can most certainly become competition if one or both of the partners suddenly have it in their minds that the game is on again, even if it's merely a subconcious feeling. So in a way, he's right - because there are very few relationships which don't experience this kind of dynamic at some point or another. So in effect, we are at some point in the relationship in competition with someone. Early in the relationship, we're perhaps one of a handful of potential suitors in competition with each other; deeper into the relationship, personal demons have a way of putting us into situations where we compete against someone with a 'clean slate'. I agree with Alpha: you've always got to be on top of your game. I agree that you must always be on top of your "game" and not take things for granted but he did say that we are ALWAYS in competition with EVERYONE else at ALL times. That is a little too extreme.
Sapiens Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I agree that you must always be on top of your "game" and not take things for granted but he did say that we are ALWAYS in competition with EVERYONE else at ALL times. That is a little too extreme. He is right. Although you may be ignorant of the fact it does not change the fact. -Sapiens
Pyro Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 He is right. Although you may be ignorant of the fact it does not change the fact. -Sapiens Easy there killer. Must you resort to insults? We all feel differently about it, and I am secure enough with myself and my relationship to not treat it like a competition 24/7.
Sapiens Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Easy there killer. Must you resort to insults? We all feel differently about it, and I am secure enough with myself and my relationship to not treat it like a competition 24/7. Dude, no insult there. Just because you don't know something exhist, doesn't mean it doesn't exhist. It applies to me as it does to you and everyone else... -Sapiens
Pyro Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Dude, no insult there. Just because you don't know something exhist, doesn't mean it doesn't exhist. It applies to me as it does to you and everyone else... -Sapiens I am aware that competition does exist, but it does not exist each and every moment of the day with each and every person around us. That is all that I am trying to say.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 You are always in competition with everyone until you come to grips with the fact that there will always be someone prettier or hotter than you and you learn to be confident and know the fact that you have something in you that noone else has... because your you. Also, at least for me, having an SO that loves me unconditionally and doesn't make me feel insecure helps a whole lot. I am quite bi-curious so my SO and I check out hott women together. I think if I wasn't I might be prone to be more in "competition" but I see women as potentials just as I see men. It has alot to do with maturity and acceptance of yourself. Most people don't master that and always feel the need to be better than everyone else. Those people happen to be quite annoying!! I feel most in "competition" whenever I'm in a supermarket, or shopping at my favorite clothing store. I want to be the one to pick out the cutest outfit!!
ashnicole Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 As far as all of this "competition" goes... even when I'm at the WORST in my relationship, I'd never feel like I was in competition with anyone, because even at our WORST, me and my boyfriend aren't THAT bad, and I know he's not going anywhere. The second I start feeling like I'm in competition with the rest of the world, is the second I start feeling insecure about my relationship, and I refuse to let that happen. I know he loves me, and I know he wants to be with me... and he would let me know the second that he started to change his mind. We have a very open relationship, and we communicate about EVERYTHING, good or bad. I'm not in "competition" with anyone. Sorry.
Pyro Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 You are always in competition with everyone until you come to grips with the fact that there will always be someone prettier or hotter than you and you learn to be confident and know the fact that you have something in you that noone else has... because your you. Also, at least for me, having an SO that loves me unconditionally and doesn't make me feel insecure helps a whole lot. I am quite bi-curious so my SO and I check out hott women together. I think if I wasn't I might be prone to be more in "competition" but I see women as potentials just as I see men. It has alot to do with maturity and acceptance of yourself. Most people don't master that and always feel the need to be better than everyone else. Those people happen to be quite annoying!! I feel most in "competition" whenever I'm in a supermarket, or shopping at my favorite clothing store. I want to be the one to pick out the cutest outfit!! That is what I have been trying to say. I know that I am not perfect and I am not Gods gift to woman, but I am happy with who I am and I don't let other guys intimidate me.
Sapiens Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 That is what I have been trying to say. I know that I am not perfect and I am not Gods gift to woman, but I am happy with who I am and I don't let other guys intimidate me. Dude, being happy with yourself is one thing, a very good thing, I may add; but you must be aware of those in competition for your desired resources. -Sapiens
ashnicole Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Dude, being happy with yourself is one thing, a very good thing, I may add; but you must be aware of those in competition for your desired resources. -Sapiens Being aware of the better looking people around us is a given... but from what Alpha is saying... he almost sounds like he wants us to be insecure, like at any point in time, our relationship can be up and gone. Well, DUH. Any relationship can be over at any second, but what's worrying about it going to do? I'm not going to doll myself up every single second that I'm around my boyfriend to make sure he's not going anywhere.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 As far as all of this "competition" goes... even when I'm at the WORST in my relationship, I'd never feel like I was in competition with anyone, because even at our WORST, me and my boyfriend aren't THAT bad, and I know he's not going anywhere. The second I start feeling like I'm in competition with the rest of the world, is the second I start feeling insecure about my relationship, and I refuse to let that happen. I know he loves me, and I know he wants to be with me... and he would let me know the second that he started to change his mind. We have a very open relationship, and we communicate about EVERYTHING, good or bad. I'm not in "competition" with anyone. Sorry. Thats great that you have a rewarding relationship, but you shouldn't soley base your self confidence on the man you are with. You must be confident in yourself as a person, because if not, then if for some reason you guys don't stay together, you will lose your self confidence along with your man. I had to learn this the hard way. And I'm not just saying this to you personally, I'm just making a point. I don't know you so you could very well be a confident person. I don't think the people on the opposing arguement are.
SmoochieFace Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Being aware of the better looking people around us is a given... but from what Alpha is saying... he almost sounds like he wants us to be insecure, like at any point in time, our relationship can be up and gone. Well, DUH. Any relationship can be over at any second, but what's worrying about it going to do? I'm not going to doll myself up every single second that I'm around my boyfriend to make sure he's not going anywhere. Like I said earlier... misery loves company.
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