timidity99 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 How come there aren't many threads about what men want? I'll tell you why. It's because women have the final say in who they will date and/or marry. So why should they care about what men want? But if by some miracle someone were to ask what men want in a woman I believe you would get different answers as well because all men are different. Some men think looks are important while others don't for example.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 How come there aren't many threads about what men want? I'll tell you why. It's because women have the final say in who they will date and/or marry. So why should they care about what men want? But if by some miracle someone were to ask what men want in a woman I believe you would get different answers as well because all men are different. Some men think looks are important while others don't for example. I've read post on here like that, about what men want in women. Maybe you just haven't look hard enough, or, if you are so concerned about the issue, maybe you should start your own thread. And FYI, women do care about what men want, that is why we spend freakin 3 hours in the bathroom doing our hair and applying makeup so we can look as beautiful as possible for our men. I certainly don't do that for me!! Hell, I have a toddler and I run a household, if it were just me you'd be lucky if I was wearing lip gloss and something other than my comfy sweats!!
timidity99 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Spending 3 hours to look good for a man means nothing. Not all men care about how you look. There's other ways of showing concern about what men want. Why not just be yourself?
Tim'sAngel Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Spending 3 hours to look good for a man means nothing. Not all men care about how you look. There's other ways of showing concern about what men want. Why not just be yourself? UGh... you totally missed the point. But thats ok, it seems you do that alot.
alphamale Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 By the end of it I've been jerked around a ton but I just can't grasp WHAT women want. What women want, JCARSEY....is a masculine man who is confident and dominant and won't take any crap from women. Hey Alphamale! Care to comment on whether "no" always means "no"? It depends on the woman and the situation, but no does not always mean no. Many times women will test a man to see what he does.
Author j.carsey Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 I think if someone asked to kiss me it would make me feel uncomfortable and probably put me off.If your gonna do it do it, dont ask.If you move in to kiss someone and they lean forward your in, if they dont move in then she doesnt want to.Simple. First of all, I only bother asking in a situation that has some complicating circumstance -- coworker (inappropriate), potential significant other (cheating?), previous warnings. Asking is a disclaimer and it has kept me out of trouble. But there's another aspect of this, the transparency of body language. You make it sound like everyone is transparent with their body language, or are confident enough to act as they think. You also think that a guy who doesn't "read you" correctly shouldn't have a chance with you. But what if you are tough to read, or give wrong signals? Here are two examples from my experience: 1. My last girlfriend, who I became very close with. When we started flirting she was repelled by any move I made. I'd put my arm around her playfully and she squirmed away. I'd move in for a kiss and she nervously got up and avoided contact. Now these aren't good signs, you might think that this girl does not want you at all. In fact she told me verbally that she wanted me very much and had difficulty with physical closeness early in a relationship. So only through that communication did we get things going, and she did become comfortable enough soon after. 2. A flirty girl that just wants attention. Oh man there are TONS of these around. She'll dress sexy around you, tease you in every way. Brush up against you, put her hands on your arms, legs. Lean in towards you when sitting together. These signs are generally speaking very good. Then at the right point I go in for a serious kiss and she cooperates as far as holding there. But then she complains, I can't believe you did that, don't touch me. Here is a girl whose body language and actions are out of touch with what she really wants. Or maybe she's just freakin crazy Women can be difficult to read. Everyone is different, and probably complicated
timidity99 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I believe when a woman says no then you can't go wrong by taking her word for it. No means no. If she says yes then it might not mean yes. Her no certainly means no but her yes may not necessarily mean yes. She could be saying yes for the wrong reasons.
Author j.carsey Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 I don't think you can get one answer as to "what women want" because we're all different, on all sorts of levels. This is a question you would need to be asking to the women who are "jerking you around." That's probably the most useful answer Everyone is just too different to generalize. Thanks to everyone though.
Author j.carsey Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 Spending 3 hours to look good for a man means nothing. Not all men care about how you look. Absolutely true. This obsession women have with clothes, makeup and tanning just goes to show how terrible they are at reading what men want. I figure they spend too much time watching TV and reading magazines, and it gives them a really twisted sense of what a woman has to do in order to attract a man. Definitely, clothes and makeup are the perfect way to go if your goal is to attract a man who is a fashion connoisseur. Or a shallow guy who wants to just nail the prettiest girl at the bar. Now ladies, is that really what you want?? I have shocked 'tomboy' girls by making serious moves on them while they were in sweat pants, or dusty jeans, with their hair in a mess. And shocked the "girls next door" by talking about how attractive I think they are, when they're wearing their glasses and reading a book while wearing a stained t-shirt. Trust me they look hot enough when they're naked but they don't believe it, because they don't understand what men want.
alphamale Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Absolutely true. This obsession women have with clothes, makeup and tanning just goes to show how terrible they are at reading what men want. ACtually you are incorrect JCARSEY....most research studies done have shown that most men put looks first before anything else. And you also forget that these same women also want to look good FOR OTHER WOMEN.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Oh gosh... let me rephrase my statement. If there is just one thing I've learned on LS, it is that you cannot be general, you must be dead on specific or what you say will get taken all kinds of which ways... I didn't mean that every man wants a trophy, Barbie doll wife, I was simply making a general statement meaning for me, I like to look good for my SO when we go out, when really I would rather throw on some comfy sweats and throw my hair up and just be comfortable. In other words, I don't mind making sacrifices for him. This is by far the not the only thing I do for him. I ask him constantly if I am a good gf, and what can I do to better our relationship. I am by no means the perfect gf, but I do try really hard. I doubt I am the only one.
alphamale Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I like to look good for my SO when we go out' date=' [/quote'] you forgot to mention that you're in competition with all the other women present and need to look good to impress them also.
Author j.carsey Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 Oh gosh... let me rephrase my statement. If there is just one thing I've learned on LS' date=' it is that you [b']cannot[/b] be general, you must be dead on specific or what you say Oh wow is that true or what. In my case, I get really turned on by the 'girl next door' look
catgirl1927 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Well, I can tell you what THIS woman wants, and that's a NAP.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Oh wow is that true or what. In my case, I get really turned on by the 'girl next door' look Well thats just awesome, I'm so glad your still missing what I'm saying.
timidity99 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I must admit that it is commendable for anybody to ask their significant other what they can do to make the relationship better. That tells your significant other that you feel that there's always room for improvement. Some see it as a lack of confidence but I don't. I prefer to ask the woman I'm dating if I'm good enough for her and if everything is ok. I ask her if she's happy. I don't want her to be with me if she's not happy.
ashnicole Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 you forgot to mention that you're in competition with all the other women present and need to look good to impress them also. When you're in a committed relationship, and you trust eachother 100%, you're not in competition with anyone... because your SO wants YOU, and no one else. That's part of being secure in your relationship... I have a feeling you've never experienced this before, based on your idiotic tendencies that are flowing out of your fingertips.
Guest Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I believe when a woman says no then you can't go wrong by taking her word for it. No means no. If she says yes then it might not mean yes. Her no certainly means no but her yes may not necessarily mean yes. She could be saying yes for the wrong reasons. OK, so no means maybe, yes means maybe, and maybe means no. On the "three hours of preparation issue" here's my view for any woman I'm dating... No woman needs to spend three hours getting ready. Hair should be clean and attractively arrainged, but not a work of art that calls attention to itself. Clothes should be clean, form showing is better than form hiding, but also shouldn't call attention to itself. A little makeup is OK, but if it's immediately obvious at first glance that she's wearing makeup, it's too much. When I see a women with a thick layer of foundation hiding the actual color and texture of her skin, I'm afraid that if I make out with her it will rub off on my face, and I suspect she's trying to cover some skin condition.
IWalkAlone Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I believe when a woman says no then you can't go wrong by taking her word for it. No means no. If she says yes then it might not mean yes. Her no certainly means no but her yes may not necessarily mean yes. She could be saying yes for the wrong reasons. OK, so no means maybe, yes means maybe, and maybe means no. On the "three hours of preparation issue" here's my view for any woman I'm dating... No woman needs to spend three hours getting ready. Hair should be clean and attractively arrainged, but not a work of art that calls attention to itself. Clothes should be clean, form showing is better than form hiding, but also shouldn't call attention to itself. A little makeup is OK, but if it's immediately obvious at first glance that she's wearing makeup, it's too much. When I see a women with a thick layer of foundation hiding the actual color and texture of her skin, I'm afraid that if I make out with her it will rub off on my face, and I suspect she's trying to cover some skin condition.
Toni_no12002 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I suppose we are all different so whereas i dont like to be asked others may want to be. Just go with what ever feels right at the time. I heard a thing where it said if a lady says no she means maybe,if she says maybe it means maybe and if she says yes ,shes no lady. Im a woman lol and if i say no it means no,if i say maybe it means maybe,if i say yes it means yes lol no point in messing about just say what you mean or what you want or you will never get it. Maybe if a lass is flirting with you doesnt always mean they like you like that they might just be a naturally flirty person.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 OK, so no means maybe, yes means maybe, and maybe means no. On the "three hours of preparation issue" here's my view for any woman I'm dating... You were aware taht I was exaggerating right? I think what you described is a good balance. And again, when I made that post, I was talking about making the effort, not so much having to look perfect.
Author j.carsey Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 LOL this is probably why I've learned to basically ignore what a girl says when I first start seeing her. "No, it can't happen". I nod with a cocky smirk, ok uh-huh (snicker). I'm going to take a stab at some evolutionary biology (and psychology) here, and suggest... a woman's early reluctance or refusal of a man is often not a total rejection. What it does is very effectively screen out all but the most interested or aggressive men. The aggressive men are biologically desirable for their traits of risk taking, fitness for future generation, etc.
alphamale Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 When you're in a committed relationship, and you trust eachother 100%, you're not in competition with anyone... because your SO wants YOU, and no one else. That's part of being secure in your relationship... We are all in competition with everyone else at all times. Your view is naive and causes many people to become to comfortable in their relationships. You must remain on your toes at all times.
catgirl1927 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 On the "three hours of preparation issue" here's my view for any woman I'm dating... No woman needs to spend three hours getting ready. Hair should be clean and attractively arrainged, but not a work of art that calls attention to itself. Clothes should be clean, form showing is better than form hiding, but also shouldn't call attention to itself. A little makeup is OK, but if it's immediately obvious at first glance that she's wearing makeup, it's too much. When I see a women with a thick layer of foundation hiding the actual color and texture of her skin, I'm afraid that if I make out with her it will rub off on my face, and I suspect she's trying to cover some skin condition. :lmao: Do you allow her to look up or does she have to keep her eyes on the ground at all time? I know that's not how you meant it to sound, (surely it's not, if it is get used to walking alone), it just sounds like it's pretty strict. Just the way I read it, probably.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 We are all in competition with everyone else at all times. Your view is naive and causes many people to become to comfortable in their relationships. You must remain on your toes at all times. Ok now you sound like Woggle.
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