pricillia Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 Hi all I have been seeing this new guy and he is constantly telling me that he thinks that I do not want to see him any more... even after I tell him that I do want to see him, I don't understand I feel like he was telling me this because he is the one that does not want to see me. We made plans to see each other tonight and he just broke them saying that his grandmother was sick and he was too upset to drive to come see me, when I offered to come see him he sounded aprehensive and I said that maybe he is not ready for that and he said that I was starting trouble??? now I do not know what to think, is this his way of breaking things off or does he have another date, or do you think that she is really sick???
Author pricillia Posted June 17, 2006 Author Posted June 17, 2006 sorry about the title but it would not let me enter a title... but I still need advice
Pyro Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 sorry about the title but it would not let me enter a title... but I still need advice The grandmother being sick excuse, thats an old one. It could be legit, or it could be an excuse. Let him contact you and that will tell you whether he is interested or not.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Ugh... I hate when people can't just own up to stuff, it would save a hell of a whole lot of time and the agony of wondering... sigh He was upset because his grandmother was sick? What like she had a cold or a flu? That would be dumb... the only way that could be legit is if she had like a life threatening heart attack or something very serious, but then I would think he would be at her bedside and not at home trying to think of excuses not to see you.
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 she is out of the country and he said that she is in the hospital??? I offered to come over and he seemed aprehensive and I said ok maybe you are not ready for that, he said that I was trying to start trouble??? The said that he had to go and hung up
Bullgator Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 I don't know what his deal is. Sounds like he has some serious issues. But regardless of that, is this the way you want to be treated? Have you considered cutting you losses and moving on?
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 Yes I am contemplating this as we speak... I just really like him but no I do not want to be treated this way at all. I feel like calling him right now and ending it not to prolong the agony... He has a 12 year old son and one day we were supposed to see each other and he was going to call me so I could get directions and so we could meet but he never did, I then called him and said that I thought we were supposed to spend time together and maybe I misunderstood and then he called me saying that his son got into a fight at school and that he had to go to a meeting??? he tells me that he loves me but does stuff like this, I am trying to be understanding but don't want to be a fool either
Tim'sAngel Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Hes already saying he loves you? How long have you been dating him??
Bullgator Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Yup. He's jerking you around. You can and will do better. Time to move on. JMHO
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 Hes already saying he loves you? How long have you been dating him?? about three months... we have known of each other for about 8 months
Tim'sAngel Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Yup. He's jerking you around. You can and will do better. Time to move on. JMHO Yeck... agreed!!
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 Yup. He's jerking you around. You can and will do better. Time to move on. JMHO I think that too sometimes but I don't want to believe it... feel like calling him now to end it... he said that he would see me tomorrow...
alphamale Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 is this his way of breaking things off ?? probably...
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 then he should be man enought to tell me as yesterday he was saying that he could not wait to see me...
Tim'sAngel Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 then he should be man enought to tell me as yesterday he was saying that he could not wait to see me... Exactly, except he is a coward, which is just one more reason to break it off.
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 well I just called him and left him a message doing basicly just that... It hurts!!!
Pyro Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 well I just called him and left him a message doing basicly just that... It hurts!!! Now lets wait and see just how fast he is to respond back to you. What a loser. Write this one off and learn what to look out for in the future.
Bullgator Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Pricillia, just curious, is the MM still lurking?
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 Now lets wait and see just how fast he is to respond back to you. What a loser. Write this one off and learn what to look out for in the future. Riddler he just called and said that he does not understand why I am being this way as someone in his family is dying and he can not talk about this right now...
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 Pricillia, just curious, is the MM still lurking? yes he is lurking
Tim'sAngel Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Riddler he just called and said that he does not understand why I am being this way as someone in his family is dying and he can not talk about this right now... What exactly did you say in your message?
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 What exactly did you say in your message? I told him that I was crazy about him but he keeps on saying that I don't want to see him and that he canceled plans with me tonight and I think that he is trying to tell me something and I want him to be honest with me
Author pricillia Posted June 18, 2006 Author Posted June 18, 2006 and he was home doing laundry... heard the washing machine, but he could not talk to me because he was doing laundry have you ever heard of such a thing... that is like a girl saying she can not go out because she has to wash her hair... so weird...
Tim'sAngel Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 I told him that I was crazy about him but he keeps on saying that I don't want to see him and that he canceled plans with me tonight and I think that he is trying to tell me something and I want him to be honest with me And he told you that you are being inconsiderate because his grandma is dying? Tell him it isn't just tonight it is an accumulations of mixed signals from him. Maybe tonight wasn't the best time to approach him with this, but you do need to know the truth. If he keeps blaming you for s***, then I would just quit calling/seeing him altogether
Bullgator Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Pricillia, just curious, is the MM still lurking? yes he is lurking Well, that does muddy the water a bit. Still, this new guy has you at a terrible disadvantage. You want to be with him. He doesn't want to be with you, but he doesn't want to let you go either. Does that sound fair to you? I still vote for giving him the boot, at least for now. JMHO
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