scarletletter Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 Had a great time in Florida. Besides the fact that we barely missed a hurricane, things couldn't have gone better. Great weather the entire week. I've been going through some threads here...sounds like nothing too exciting happened while I was away. Only talked to MM 2 times the whole week and had absolutely no stress at all. Now his family has gone on vacation without him because he just got a new job. He wants me to come and stay a couple of days with him. I just do not feel comfortable being in "her" house. I told him that and he just tells me to get over it. He is totally serious and wants me to actually sleep with him in their bed. I think that is a little twisted. Has anyone done this before?
RealityCheck Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 Had a great time in Florida. Besides the fact that we barely missed a hurricane, things couldn't have gone better. Great weather the entire week. I've been going through some threads here...sounds like nothing too exciting happened while I was away. Only talked to MM 2 times the whole week and had absolutely no stress at all. Now his family has gone on vacation without him because he just got a new job. He wants me to come and stay a couple of days with him. I just do not feel comfortable being in "her" house. I told him that and he just tells me to get over it. He is totally serious and wants me to actually sleep with him in their bed. I think that is a little twisted. Has anyone done this before? Hey Welcome Home SL......(HUGS) YIKES! I would be telling the MM to get over himself! No damn way would I even walk into my MM house never mind sleep in THIER bed!!! NO WAY, NOT ME!
Author scarletletter Posted June 17, 2006 Author Posted June 17, 2006 Thats what I am thinking...he's going to have to forget that idea. I have made up my mind. Thanks for the imput. Hugs back to you!
Blind Illusion Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Welcome Home, Scarlet!! No, can't say I ever did go to their home nor has he ever came to mine.
ImWithHim Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Not a chance in hell I would ever do that. Tell him to come to your place.
stillhere Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Welcome back! Been to his house once, a rule we broke that we had made up in the beginning. Will be going there again. If i was you, i would have him come to your house if you wanted to see him.
alphamale Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 I just do not feel comfortable being in "her" house. but you are comfortable sharing "her" man? that makes no sense.
RealityCheck Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 but you are comfortable sharing "her" man? that makes no sense. Ah...here we go.... It's OW bashing again! Comfortable perhaps not! Passionate I would say so! Pay no attention Scarlett....
movinon05 Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Speaking from 7 years experience, no, never in their bed. Emotionally, it played with my mind from a number of viewpoints, yes alphamale, if you can imagine that is possible.
RealityCheck Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Speaking from 7 years experience, no, never in their bed. Emotionally, it played with my mind from a number of viewpoints, yes alphamale, if you can imagine that is possible. Yes, there are many dynamics to an A. MANY! AND; yes MO I it is imaginable and I know you have a conscious just like many of the OW's here! You are bright, beautiful and kind and especially a fabulous Mother! That would rate you pretty damn special in my books! Like I said before, an A does not warrent execution by any stretch of the imagination!
movinon05 Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 And my exMM never once told me to "get over it". He understood without me ever having to explain!!
eyeswideshut Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 i slept in their bed. This was back in January, when he was still "broken up with her". She was gone for three weeks, and I was beginning to "see him" but nothing was official. It was my birthday, and he invited me over for supper. I said: no way am I going over to your place. and he said: why not, we're only friends anyway, and I always invite friends over. When he said that, we had already slept together a couple of times, but since the death of his brother, we weren't really officially in a relationship. I was a bit "pissed" that he only considered me a "friend" so I thought, fine, then we are just friends, and I'll go. So I went over. You can learn so much about a guy by going over. He is basically an excellent homemaker, and had been cooking up a storm all day. we got totally drunk and then I saw "their bed". Back then, they were "just roommates", so it wasn't so bad?!?!?!?! Well I don't really regret it, because now I have a visual and I see how he lives and how she lives etc?? Isn't that so odd? Maybe I'm a psycho, but it was like stepping into her life for one moment. I kinda liked it. am i some sort of wierdo??? when he said he was going to work on his marriage (in march) I felt guilty, but at the moment, I wasn't really feeling guilty.
eyeswideshut Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 by the way, since they're "married" and not "separating", since their status changed, he's never invited me back, nor would I ever go. When I did go in January, the plan was that he was kicking her out of the house in February, upon her return. The place is his, meaning, he bought it. I guess if they were to separate, she'd be the one moving out. Anyway, when they attempted to, she was the one packing her bags.
Author scarletletter Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 but you are comfortable sharing "her" man? that makes no sense. I never said any of it made sense.
Author scarletletter Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 Ah...here we go.... It's OW bashing again! Comfortable perhaps not! Passionate I would say so! Pay no attention Scarlett.... I've been wondering where those OW bashers have been hiding!!! Doesn't bother me in the least. Lord only knows my situation is FAR from perfect and I seriously wasn't asking anyone to comment on my moral standards.
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 I've been wondering where those OW bashers have been hiding!!! Doesn't bother me in the least. Lord only knows my situation is FAR from perfect and I seriously wasn't asking anyone to comment on my moral standards. There are certain OW's that perceive any opposite opinion other than theirs an attack or a bash I certainly don't see where Alpha bashed anyone.. Instead I have seen 2 people bash Alpha for having an opinion
Author scarletletter Posted June 19, 2006 Author Posted June 19, 2006 It's a little more than just strange. He understands how I feel about it but wants me to come there and see his new house. I am very curious....so I went there this afternoon...Just stopped by to see the house...NOTHING ELSE. I feel better now that I have seen the place...I have been in their old house that was much smaller and very drab. This one makes me feel like he at least has some taste. He picks out everything, does all of the housework, etc. She has no job and does nothing. I told him that I would not be spending the night there and he was much better about it...said it was okay. He basically knows that I would probably have a nervous breakdown if I stayed there and he certainly doesn't wanna deal with that. Thanks for all of the advice and stories.
movinon05 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 There are certain OW's that perceive any opposite opinion other than theirs an attack or a bash I certainly don't see where Alpha bashed anyone.. Instead I have seen 2 people bash Alpha for having an opinion If you are referring to me, I was neither attacking or bashing Alpha. I was merely suggesting that there are dynamics to this situation. Its not just cut and dried. But I'm not about to get into all the dynamics.
RealityCheck Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 but you are comfortable sharing "her" man? that makes no sense. Art Critic... I did not read this as an opinion, rather a judgment call! When one uses the word "YOU" that is a finger being pointed directly at the person. Know the difference.
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Art Critic... I did not read this as an opinion, rather a judgment call! Then try and lighten up some..No sense in reading something into it when it isn't there why the angry feelings ?
RealityCheck Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Then try and lighten up some.. why the angry feelings ? Oh well, its funny that my entire post was not "highlighted"!!! Read it again!
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Oh well, its funny that my entire post was not "highlighted"!!! Read it again! Why the anger.. now you're all over how I quote a post.. WTF?????
RealityCheck Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Why the anger.. now you're all over how I quote a post.. WTF????? I'm not going on this dance with you! HIGHLIGHT MY ENTIRE FIRST POST! and respond accordingly!!! WTF is wrong with asking you to do that!!!
Art_Critic Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 HIGHLIGHT MY ENTIRE FIRST POST! and respond accordingly!!! ....no comment.. I think your own words stand on their own
zarathustra Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Back to the original question. I'm ashamed to say, we did sleep on their bed. Once I was in their house he didn't stop touching me so we did it practically everywhere. I didn't have the intention of having anything more than dinner with him and that was all. Now that I think back, I want to throw up.
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