Guest Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 I have been seeing a really great man for about three months or so. We do not see each other that much but I think about him all the time and he tells me the same. There were two weeks that I did not see him at all although we talked on the phone. When we finally did see each other he thought that the reason that I did not see him was because I was seeing someone else, which was not ture. He asks me all the time if I am seeing someone else and I let him know that he is the only one. The last time I saw him was last Friday and we have plans tonight he mentioned again that he thinks that I do not want to spend time with him and that in the beginning I used to see him more, this was after I told him that I was missing him and that I could not wait to see him. I told him that he is wrong and if I did not want to see him anymore I would tell him, I asked him if he still wanted to see me and he said yes. Why does he keep on asking me if I want to see him, do you all think that he is trying to tell me that he does not want to see me anymore and he is putting it on me, or do you think that it is the opposite? I am unsure what to think. I will bring it up in our conversation tonight but what should I say without sounding to serious. I need some sound advice of what to say to him as he is very sensitive. I do want to keep seeing him and would like to see him more but I get the feeling that he is not ready... so not sure what to do HELP!
Kengne Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 I have been seeing a really great man for about three months or so. We do not see each other that much but I think about him all the time and he tells me the same. There were two weeks that I did not see him at all although we talked on the phone. When we finally did see each other he thought that the reason that I did not see him was because I was seeing someone else, which was not ture. He asks me all the time if I am seeing someone else and I let him know that he is the only one. The last time I saw him was last Friday and we have plans tonight he mentioned again that he thinks that I do not want to spend time with him and that in the beginning I used to see him more, this was after I told him that I was missing him and that I could not wait to see him. I told him that he is wrong and if I did not want to see him anymore I would tell him, I asked him if he still wanted to see me and he said yes. Why does he keep on asking me if I want to see him, do you all think that he is trying to tell me that he does not want to see me anymore and he is putting it on me, or do you think that it is the opposite? I am unsure what to think. I will bring it up in our conversation tonight but what should I say without sounding to serious. I need some sound advice of what to say to him as he is very sensitive. I do want to keep seeing him and would like to see him more but I get the feeling that he is not ready... so not sure what to do HELP! You mentioned that he's sensitive, which leads me to believe he is also insecure. I think that's why he keeps on seeking validation & reassurance that YES you still want to see him. Couple that with the fact that you 2 didn't see each other for 2 weeks - his insecurity prolly reared it's ugly head and that's why he mentioned that you used to see him more in the beginning. I don't think you should bring it up or say anything to him. Just try to reassure him, with your words AND actions e.g. hug him tight & smile a lot when you see him... so that he knows and believes that YES you are still very much interested in him. good luck! K.
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