Art_Critic Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 a sign of our love, devotion and monogamy towards our wives. We do still exist, you know! I think C has it right.. I would like to add to that that it also signifies the bond between you and the wife.
movinon05 Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Well said, Chump. I do think a lot of the newer people here come here thinking their situation is different, and they get a cold splash in the face when they realize we have all heard the same thing.
RealityCheck Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Well said, Chump. I do think a lot of the newer people here come here thinking their situation is different, and they get a cold splash in the face when they realize we have all heard the same thing. Very well said indeed!!!! You really captured 95% of the A situation! No doubt! I really have to commend you on excellent insight. In my case, though the A is based on deciet, I have never been foolish enough to believe anything different....but then again I'm not in it for him to leave his M! I guess that's the difference in my case. I don't wait around for him and remain open for other possiblities. Truth is, I don't put my life on hold for any Man!
movinon05 Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 BTW, back to the original question. My H never wore his ring. Only when dressing up and going to a wedding or something like that.
RealityCheck Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 BTW, back to the original question. My H never wore his ring. Only when dressing up and going to a wedding or something like that. My first didn't because of his job! The second one did because of his job! I wore my rings when I felt like it! They did bother me at times.
stillhere Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 My MM never wears his ring either, only when he goes to formal functions. But that was always the case, he didn't start that just because of me. He's worn it around me once.
stillhere Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Chump........I still don't understand how i got to where i'm at with my MM. He tells me that he and his W are very close, and get along great. They do communicate often, and he did tell her that he needed it more than what she was giving. His A with me started because of sex, and i truely believe him when he said that she wasn't giving it up. He has never lied to me before that i know of, he tells me like it is. He doesn't sugar coat things for me. He tells me that he does still love her (although i don't want to hear it) and he doesn't tell me that he's got a horrible home life. Everything is supposedly great, that's where i stand out from some of the other situations.........everything is great at home, so why is he in love with me as well? Sorry, i keep jumping off topic!
Jessie61 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Well said, Chump. I do think a lot of the newer people here come here thinking their situation is different, and they get a cold splash in the face when they realize we have all heard the same thing. Chump, I agree with what you say and after that, I don't think there is anything that I can add!!! Instead of quoting your own long post, I quoted MO's short one - but only for space reasons!!!!
Chump64 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 In my case, though the A is based on deceit ALL affairs are based on deceit though.
2sunny Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Chump........I still don't understand how i got to where i'm at with my MM. He tells me that he and his W are very close, and get along great. They do communicate often, and he did tell her that he needed it more than what she was giving. His A with me started because of sex, and i truely believe him when he said that she wasn't giving it up. He has never lied to me before that i know of, he tells me like it is. He doesn't sugar coat things for me. He tells me that he does still love her (although i don't want to hear it) and he doesn't tell me that he's got a horrible home life. Everything is supposedly great, that's where i stand out from some of the other situations.........everything is great at home, so why is he in love with me as well? Sorry, i keep jumping off topic! Why is he with you as well - you ask? Because YOU allow him to be! He is a cakeeater! He wants her and you on his lovely terms, and you are willing to go along with it.... That's why!
RealityCheck Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 In my case, though the A is based on deceit ALL affairs are based on deceit though. Jeepers Chump... You won't get any rebuttle out of me on that view! When I post, I always refer to "me" just so the reader gets that I am not generalizing anyone elses feelings. Again, I totally agree! It cannot possibly be looked at any other way.
Chump64 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 For some reason, "jeepers" cracked me up. I thought that was a midwestern term but it looks like you are pretty far from the midwest.
RealityCheck Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 For some reason, "jeepers" cracked me up. I thought that was a midwestern term but it looks like you are pretty far from the midwest. Texas was to throw my MM off when I was a newbie here! I actually live in Canada:D "Western Canada" I may add......lol
7on Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 Well, for me the wedding band means commitment. Stands for everlasting love, perhaps? I do know that I hate wearing jewelry (this includes watches) with a PASSION, but I'd wear a wedding ring.
bullhunter Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 I never used to wear a wedding ring, my job is very physical, and I was always afraid of injuring myself. As those of you who know my story know, I formed a "friendship" with a woman. I thought it was just that, a friendship. Unfortunately, her intentions were different. I now wear a wedding ring, for two reasons. 1. To indicate to the world and my wife that I love her, and am fully committed to our life together. 2. As a litmus test. If a woman sees my wedding ring and is still flirty/friendly, I know that she is not a good person, and I avoid her like the plague.
Shoestring Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 My 2 cents worth - my MM always takes his wedding ring off when we get together. Keeps it with his clothes and watch. He has done this for quite a while. We have been together for 8 months now apart from a 3 week break in April, but I have never asked why he does this and he does not tell me. I suppose it is a psychological thing on his part.
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