cattownfl Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Hi everyone I am new here and thought I could use some outside advice…[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3] [/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]I am separated from My husband for two months..I am new to the single scene and I am very confused about men? I had this guy call me about a month ago out of the blue and ask if he could see me..we work at the same company but different departments..I guess he seen me one day and thought I was cute so he knew someone who had my number. well to make a long story short I met him and we hit it off right away..I told him I didn’t weant a relationship and that I just wanted to hang out, well I ended up sleeping with him and staying at his place like 4 nights a week for the past month. I still hung out with other guys I have a lot of guy friends..and I think it bothered him. He kept asking me “When are you moving in” I love you blah blah crap.. I just ignored it.. I spent the night with him last Thursday nite and Friday I met some guys at work at a bar by my house..he called and left me a voicemail I miss you I love you call me when you sober up. Well I called him later that night and never went over there..(I think he was pissed)..He didn’t call me the next day so I called him and asked if he wanted to come over and he said I am busy..[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3]Here the part I am really confused about. We been going to this Tiki bar every wed nite..I didn’t tell him I wasn’t going last Wed…but I decided to go somewhere else instead..anyway, the next Morning my girlfriend texted me and said “ (I seen him at the bar last night holding hands with some ugly older lady). Not to sound rude but I am 36 and very attractive and can pretty much get any guy I want..so you can imagine how this hurt my ego..plus I am emotionally unstable as it is going through a separation.Why would he do that especially if he knew I might of showed up there? The Wed before I showed up after him and was sitting at a table talking to my husbands best friend and he got pissed???[/sIZE][/FONT] [FONT=Times New Roman][sIZE=3].I never told this guy how I felt about him..but when I found this out I texted him and said “ you were a bad boy” he called me back and I went off on him..Yikkes! I talked to a lot of people that know him pretty well and they are sayihg he is playing games with me, and that he proably really fell for me and has never been with such a beautiful woman before??? So he is trying to make me jealous..which I think is STUPID.. well I am sick to my stomach because I think I am falling in love with this guy and now he wont even return my calls..I think he was just tired of wondering if I was ever coming home every night and who I was hanging out with..I have been going out A LOT and partying and meeting a lot of men..but now that I haven’t seen him since Monday nite..thats the last nite we spent together I miss him? Should I call him and tell him how I really feel or just forget about him?? Someone please help me!!!!!!![/sIZE][/FONT]
ashnicole Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 I think the both of you were "playing games" so to speak. You told him that you didn't want a relationship - so why should he feel obligated to you? You sure didn't feel obligated to him. & now that you know he's out seeing other people, you want him? Sounds to me like you need to make up your mind. Older guys don't particularly stick around for the games too often. You can't be mad at him for seeing other people, when YOU told him that you didn't want a relationship.
Author cattownfl Posted June 17, 2006 Author Posted June 17, 2006 I know that I told him I didnt wat a relationship, but I just figured since I was spening the majority of my time with him that he wouldnt do this. Hes 38 and shouldnt be playing games..I shouldnt either, but now I know I like him and do not want to be with anyone else..do you think its to late?
Guest Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 I'm a forty year old man, and IMO, he is emotionally immature and is acting like a teenageer. Stay away from that. However, you are talking about love after only being separated for two months and jumping into a relationship that has lasted only a month, even though you are not ready yet. That is not a wise move. My advice: back off. You both seem emotionally needy, and you need more time before making such a commitment.
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