Guest Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 What do you do when... 1. You haven't had sex for 8 months. 2. Your wife is afraid to have sex with you because she doesn't trust you but you are both working on the issue. but... 3. You want to have sex. 4. You don't want to cheat. 5. You don't know if your wife will EVER want to have sex with you. 6. You feel like you are wasting away your "peak" years where sex can be really great - if you can get it!
whichwayisup Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 2. Your wife is afraid to have sex with you because she doesn't trust you but you are both working on the issue. Expand on this? Did you cheat on her in the past and those are issues you're working through now? Well, if you want sex, start meeting ALL your wife's needs. Emotionally. Listen to her...Do nice things for her. Romance her, make her feel needed, special and loved. Pamper her, cuddle with her, make her feel desirable, in and out of bed. Wait until the right time to make the 'sex' move...Build up to it. She isn't going to just say yes right away and if you push too hard she'll probably close down even more... Are you two going to counselling?
alphamale Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 Well, if you want sex, start meeting ALL your wife's needs. screw that bulls***! maybe he should just cut his own balls off too...
alphamale Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 1. You haven't had sex for 8 months. If you haven't had sex with the wife in 8 months then the marriage is most likely finished...
Bullgator Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Well, we certainly have a diversity of opinion on this one. LOL. I, for one, would like to hear more of the story before I decide which side I'm on.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Well, we certainly have a diversity of opinion on this one. LOL. I, for one, would like to hear more of the story before I decide which side I'm on. I'm with Bull. The OP doesn't give much detail to comment on except... "wha wha! I want sex"
Outcast Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Wise up and realize this is what happens when you do things to make people afraid to trust you. I'm sorry but you don't get to whine. There's consequences for behaviour and these are yours. So suck it up. Go buy yourself a guy's toy and, while you use it, reflect on how you could be having real sex had you acted right. And work your BUTT off to never cause distrust again.
RecordProducer Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 As much asI figured (and I might be wrong), you were lacking sex and then cheated on your wife. Now she finds excuses in not trusting you or fearing from STD's. As far as I am concerned, I understand you both, but if you don't work on the problem, your marriage will be doomed. There is probably a lot to forgive here. However I don't believe that a non-sexual relationship will turn into a passionate romance, no matter how much you try. One out of three marriages is sexless (less than 10 times a year). If you and your wife had sex regularly and then you cheated on her, it's possible that this is only temporarily. It takes a year or two for a woman to get over an affair. And after that she still suffers silently. It's an enormous pain and betrayal so don't expect miracles over night. She imagines you in bed with the other woman and hates you for that act. The only thing you can do is let her forgive you, be extremely sweet and gentle and loving with her. She probably needs to see that you will not have sex with someone else if she is not giving it to you. Her test is actually very clever and she is probably not even aware of it. If you fail to be faithful this time, she will have her answer about whether to trust you or not.
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