Sweetnes Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 I have been with my boyfriend for over two years but for the last year I have been having an affair with a co-worker who also has a girlfriend. We said going into to it that all it would be was sex.....but its one year later and were still going strong. I have recently completed college and I have a job in another state. I think he knows that I love him but I don't say it. I know that on some level we both love our partners. He says that he will never marry her because he just can't settle. He can't understand why she's not the one. He says he knows that she would make a great wife and mother but he has told her that he won't marry her. Since I'm moving away should I tell him that I love him or not say anything.....because we are friends and I want him to remain in my life....
newbby Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 it depends on what you really want from the situation and why you want him to remain in your life. the trouble with not saying how you feel is that you can delude yourself with all kinds of ideas about what the relationship is to him. if you want the truth of his feelings for you, then you will get them by stating your feelings, it may feel uncomfortable at first, but at least you would get the truth. the only thing i would caution is that you must be ready to move on quick if those feelings are not reciprocated. maybe it means you will lose the friendship temporarily, but at least it would be far more of an honest friendship if/when it continues. i think you are correct, he already knows, but whilst you say nothing, you are giving him every excuse to carry on a non serious relationship with you.
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