Stunner Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 How long did you wait to call back if you were freaked out by a potential relationship? I really know nothing about how men think...I am moving on but still hoping...it's been twelve days.... Left a touch base message Monday.... Ladies, how long do you hold out hope for someone you like and have tremendous attraction to? I should have called myself Clueless instead of Stunner! LOL
sodakki_lov Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 hmm, wat was ur first date like? If it went well and the guy seem interested, he wil call u back for sure. Where is tis guy frm? Maybe he mite want to bump into u again b4 he asks u for a second date. i would wait for bout a week or so, if he stil doesnt call and im very interested in him i wld look him up, if it's not convinient to do so, i wld jus go ahead n call him.
Author Stunner Posted June 17, 2006 Author Posted June 17, 2006 Sorry, I've posted about this guy all over this board...lol. We met a month and a half ago and have only dated for three weeks....we had a fantastic sexual experience on our third time out and all indications were that fireworks were in our future...mostly verbalized by him.....that's why the confusion...sorry I wasn't more specific before..
sodakki_lov Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 y dun u giv him a call first? since its not ur first time goin out wif him, he mite b waitin for u to make e move, giv him e benefit of e doubt, it could b that he was too busy to giv u a call. R u guys working?
Author Stunner Posted June 17, 2006 Author Posted June 17, 2006 I have left three messages over the 12 day period...all non committal, touching base kind of messages...he works two professions and has his daughter every other weekend and Tues evening overnight unitl Wed after dinnertime. He is busy...his return calls in the past were always hurried..he was making an effort to do just that.... Great dates, BTW...lots of warmth and eye contact...he shares a lot of personal experiences and information. Seems open...great sex! He may be worried about his 'performance' time. Foreplay was about two and a half to almost three hours...the act was literally only a minute...we both finished at the same time anyway...he kept having to slow down leading up to the act...I made sure I verbally reassured him during and after how amazing he was...and I was genuine....only an idiot would think otherwise. The last time I saw him I walked him out to my porch where he kissed me in front of his daughter and said, he was sorry he had to come over because of the problem but not really...(there was an error with a water heater he helped me with that needed fixing) "I'll talk to you soon." That's it. ????????
Author Stunner Posted June 17, 2006 Author Posted June 17, 2006 Sorry, I didn't answer all of your questions...I work too...I run two businesses of my own. It isn't as demanding as it sounds. I do it so I can be with my children...I usually work from 9-2 on weekdays with both businesses so I can pick the kids up from school. During the summer I stay with them as much as possible and work from the home office when necessary. My schedule is flexible
sodakki_lov Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Haha, u sound crazy over him. Kissing u in front of his daughter is definitely a gd sign, he doesnt mind showin affection to someone else wif his kid ard. Since he seem busier den u, u could take the initiative to ask him out regulary, im sure he wil appreciate it
scrybe74 Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I don't now. 12 days is a long time to not call back. He may or may not have a legitimate reason but the real question is -- do you really want to be with someone who may drop off the face of the earth for 2 weeks at a time without notice? If this is the BEGINNING of your relationship what will it be months/years down the road. You've got 2 businesses and children to worry about. The last thing you need is a guy who can't respect your time, your heart and YOU for that matter. He may be a REALLY nice guy but a nice guy and a great guy aren't always the same thing. Applaude his intentions but I would think you deserve better so keep looking. Stay friends with him and go out for fun but I wouldn't count on him too much right now.
Author Stunner Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 ditto that....I've given up and have signed up for a couple of online dating sites where I am screening local, professional men that are older, not younger. If he ever pops up again, I'm planning on smiling, giving him a hug ..telling him how great the sex was, even if the act only lasted about a minute and walking away....great adivce.
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