Guest Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 I have been dating a guy for four and a half years now. We have had ups and downs but only split up one time. During that split he saw another girl but called me at 3 am crying his eyesout 3 weeks later begging for me back. I has been 4 months since we have been back together after that split. We had a huge argument a week ago. I got very emotional during the argument and acted a little out of sorts, crying histerically. We did not talkforafew days after the fight. He told me he hated when I acted so immature and could not stand my temper tantrums. We decided to break up for a while , while I got some professional help for my emotions. He kissed me goodbye and I went home. The next day he called me ( when we were not supposed to be calling each other) we talked for hours, and hung out the folowing day. When we hung out we had sex. I decided after that was a bad idea. I told him if he wanted to be with me then he had to be with me, no breaks. He got so mad that i told him to take me or leave me and said he didnt want me. 3 days later he called me and appologized for being an jerk w e talked for an hour. he told me that he really wanted s to sort things out and if we can become stronger people ( especially me with my emotions) we would get back together in the future. But he also said we are broken up but should and could hang out while we are apart but still that it was ok to see other people. He told me he wants to be with me but that i need to work out my issues individually before we can be strong together again. I dont k now what to do. Should I be hanging out with him during this time frame. Should I be ok with himseeing other girls, he told me I could see other guys as well. I just dont k now what to do. I dont know if i should call him to hang out, or wait for him to call me or not see him at all. I love him. But im so lost, i dont want to get hurt. please help. I need an outsider to annalysie this and let me know what they think. Especially male help. or ones who have exsperienced similar issues.
RealBroken Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 Im a male, but really dont know what tosay..... Are you guys quite young? Maybe he's just wanting to see what else is out there, before he makes a commitment with you??? He may wonder what else...... if he has little experience with relationships. I'm only guessing though so dont take this as gospel OK. As far as the seeing someone else part...... I have no idea..... its not really done in the country I come from. You either see someone or you dont,..... we dont see multiple people at the same time. is kinda weird.... but only coz we dont do it here.... ha ha. Sorry. So i cant really judge on that one. If he loves you wouldnt he want to be sith JUST you? Keep us up to date. Just dont appear to be making him feel guilty,... it will stress him and drive him further away. Don't appear to be trying to control or manipulate what he does either, that wld also be a bad move. I probably havent helped that much, but have spoken for what its worth. Goodluck. Be patient.
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