Jayelle Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 She is marrying a man whom my boyfriend has never met. He has expressed disinterest in going to the wedding because of the distance he would have to travel and the fact that this is his mother's third marriage. He and his mother have a good relationship and they speak often but rarely see each other due to distance. His mother has no money to travel to see him and he is busy with work. He can take the time off if he really wanted and he could go. I really think that he should out of respect for his mother...to show he cares. He doesn't think the marriage will last. But maybe, just maybe she finally found the right man. Am I out of line to try and convince him to go?? Would his mother be crushed?? Or since she has never introduced my boyfriend to her fiance, does that mean she doesn't care??
Tim'sAngel Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 She is marrying a man whom my boyfriend has never met. He has expressed disinterest in going to the wedding because of the distance he would have to travel and the fact that this is his mother's third marriage. He and his mother have a good relationship and they speak often but rarely see each other due to distance. His mother has no money to travel to see him and he is busy with work. He can take the time off if he really wanted and he could go. I really think that he should out of respect for his mother...to show he cares. He doesn't think the marriage will last. But maybe, just maybe she finally found the right man. Am I out of line to try and convince him to go?? Would his mother be crushed?? Or since she has never introduced my boyfriend to her fiance, does that mean she doesn't care?? I think it is his business whether he should go or not. This is between him and his mother, not him and his mother and you. Maybe he feels like since she never cared to introduce him to his newest stepfather that he doesn't feel she cares much for him to come. Who knows why. But I really don't think its a good idea for you to "convince" him to do anything. He is a grown man (I'm assuming) and is capable of making his own decisions. Just talk it over with him if it's really bothering you, but ultimately, the decision is his.
Author Jayelle Posted June 16, 2006 Author Posted June 16, 2006 I think it is his business whether he should go or not. This is between him and his mother' date=' not him and his mother and you. Maybe he feels like since she never cared to introduce him to his newest stepfather that he doesn't feel she cares much for him to come. Who knows why. But I really don't think its a good idea for you to "convince" him to do anything. He is a grown man (I'm assuming) and is capable of making his own decisions. Just talk it over with him if it's really bothering you, but ultimately, the decision is his.[/quote'] Yeah. I know it's up to him. He and I have only talked about this once. He can be pretty wishy washy at times, so I needed advice if I should continue talking to him about it. I've been invited too, and I would really like to go. But not without him of course. His relationship with his mother is a little strange I guess. She basically walked out on his family when he was a boy, and he was raised by his Dad (but saw his mom often). Perhaps I just would like them to get closer?? Does anyone see this as odd? I really think he should go but I don't want to be pushy.
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