Diver012 Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 I was searching for a book about being single. It really took me off guard to discover that there are virtually no books that I could find discussing men and their single lives. Every single book or article seemed to revolve around single women and why they cant seem to find a man. The question that this raises to me is.. if there are so many damn single women, how in the hell can so many of us men who just long for a loving companion, not be able to find any of them?
Outcast Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 They're all over the place. However, be truthful. You don't want to find 'a single woman', right? You want to find 'a hot babe'. So you're looking past all the regular single women trying hard to find your own Brittany Spears or Jessica Simpson.
In Sync Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 Do you ever question yourself about the type of woman you are looking for? Where are looking? What is your habitual pattern in dating and meeting women and do you ever go out of your familiar pattern to meet them? Just how open are you to dating outside of "what you've always been drawn to?" in the past...change your habits you may just find a whoooooooole world of available women out there waiting to meet you.
Author Diver012 Posted June 16, 2006 Author Posted June 16, 2006 I dont know... Ive never been any good at dating. My last relationship literraly just kinda happened. The one before that, 3.5 years ago, I was setup on a blind date.... It seems I spend more time being single and alone than I do in my relationships, and the relationships I have dont last very long. This last one lasted the longest, 5 months. What sucks is that im 35 years old, ive been told im an attractive man, I have a college education, and a great job. I have always lived alone, and I havent been able to hold a relationship for longer than, well the last one of 5 months. My girlfriends seem few and far between, and im getting to old to care anymore
Guest Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 Every guy seems to want the girl that every other guy wants, at a given time. So, that leaves a lot of single women. And, guys, well, they just go to the next party and hound dog after the most popular girl there. Not to mention, guys (typically) tend to move in and out of relationships more quickly than women. Since your relationships aren't lasting very long, my guess is that you are getting into them primarily based on external characteristics, and then getting tired of them and leaving once the thrill of attractions is no longer enough to make either of you want to stick around. I'm not saying that is a bad thing. Most men are that way; some women are, too. But, if your tastes are limited to young, thin, blond and bubbly, it may be a while before you find a girl like that that has the maturity or intellectual capacity to stimulate you beyond the physical. And, mental and emotional compatibility is what keeps a relationship together longer than just a few months. Best of luck to you.
In Sync Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 I dont know... Ive never been any good at dating. My last relationship literraly just kinda happened. The one before that, 3.5 years ago, I was setup on a blind date.... It seems I spend more time being single and alone than I do in my relationships, and the relationships I have dont last very long. This last one lasted the longest, 5 months. What sucks is that im 35 years old, ive been told im an attractive man, I have a college education, and a great job. I have always lived alone, and I havent been able to hold a relationship for longer than, well the last one of 5 months. My girlfriends seem few and far between, and im getting to old to care anymore I take your word for it that you're attractive only.....let's be honest. What type of relationship ARE you looking for? If you are looking for a hook-up and it's only skin deep then beautiful attractive women are everywhere. Mind you those same uber beautiful (hot babes?) women want their own versions of Brad Pitts, Denzels, Keanu Reeves, George Clooney, 6 pack-abs man...uh get the picture. So if you are only looking to hookup based on those stats you too are being considered and judged by your external qualities. Shallowness is equal to all. Now if you are interested in a little more than just the skin deep, why not go outside your "comfort zone". Prioritize what qualities in a woman is important to you. Her interests, her kindness, her sense of humour...Get paaaaaast the looks department, everybody wants a looker...Maybe consider going out with someone you typically wouldn't consider your type. Dates are just dates..not contracts for life. Open your horizons and break the habit of relationships that "literraly just kinda happened." You're 35 and you're NOT old. But you seem to think without effort a woman is just going to drop out of the sky into your lap...uh not exactly does that happen.
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