RedSky Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 OKay, here is the deal. I just met like the most amazing girl I have ever seen. I have played the dating game and this girl is like an 11 on my scale. The entire package: Absolutely Beautiful and incredibly smart. It took my 2 weeks to build the nerve to even contact her. I sent her an e-mail about how I wanted to get together with her. We sent back a few series of emails and i got her number. We work together (doing research at the university, both sophomores) so we agreed to go to lunch. She also made mention of if i ever wanted to we could hang out after work. So we went to lunch. I paid. After all, i did the inviting. Then I said I would like to get together with her when i get back from vacation. I LEAVE ON SATURDAY for an entire week. She said sure and to call her. I will also add that when i called her to ask her to lunch I told her i thought she was "absolutely gorgeous and incredibly intelligent." Lunch went okay, but i still feel i dont know... like shes not as interested as me. I mean, i can probably guess shes not up all night thinking about me. MY PROBLEM: Is she really interested or just really nice. Would she have given her number or given the offer of after work sometime if she wasnt interested. This girl is hard to read because she isn't given any really good signs, mostly just words. So i am about to go on vacation, but i want her to know that i am really interested. What should i do? call her? email her? i don't want to walk into a just friends conversation, but i really want to get together with her when i get back. Do i wait til i get back or make a definate plan for when i do? I have never had a girl cause me to act like this. What do I do? I need to know by tomorrow morning so i have a gameplan. HELP
Trashed Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 in all honesty... it seems right now shes not interested in you in the way that you want. right now its seems strictly platonic. but i think if you get to know her more and kick it with her, then things may start to blossom. but, hey... she could be shy...? but hang in there...
paige367 Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 Hmmm I disagree. I don't think a girl would email you, give you her number, go to lunch with you, hang out with you if she weren't interested. Why should she, she has her girlfriends to do all that with. Give her a call before you leave. Tell her you enjoyed being with her and wanted to say goodbye. Maybe set up tentative plans for when you get back. Keep me posted
Author RedSky Posted June 16, 2006 Author Posted June 16, 2006 Ugh, she wasnt' there today. I asked her lab partner and she said that she wouldn't make it in because she was going out of town. I knew that she was leaving, but i thought it was after work. Regardless, because she said that she would like to get together when i got back where should i take her? I want to go to a place that lets us really get to know each other, but I also don't want to make it too serious so i don't scare her away if she really isn't interested in me the way i want.
paige367 Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 You're both going on vacation the same week? Kinda romantic...maybe you bump into eachother at the vacation destination...your eyes will meet across a crowded room....ahhh the romantic in me took over for a moment. I suggest that when you both get back you tell her you thought about her while you were gone. My favorite "getting to know you" date is to a resturant that's near a bike trail. If things at dinner go well you can suggest a walk on the bike trail. If things go well on the walk you can suggest an evening nightcap or ice cream. If you don't have a bike trail or something like it in your town you could always do the coffee house thing. Or is there a zoo or some other all day tourist attraction near you? Doesn't really matter what you do? If the date is going well you'll always be able to find things to extend it. Have fun and keep me posted.
2020vision Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 From the sound of it, she is interested. I know that I would not go out to lunch with someone and give them my number if I wasn't interested. I think the going away will be good. Absence makes the heart grow fonder! Call her as soon as you get back, and let her know you were thinking about her but don't come on too strong. Good luck!
sodakki_lov Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 hmm, she might b geniunely interested in u, but frm wat u said in ur first post, she doesnt seem head over heels over u s u r over her, so u should take care in not goin too deep too fast, u may jus end up heart-broken ya.
Guest Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 I presumably have had some initial plans but once again I was stood up tonight. That's because I found out my socalled dream girl is going out with my best friend. Funny, I never really saw her around too much lately. This happens, I know I'm hearing, Noooooo. You're not really believing that BS are you? Blah, thing is I was JUST about to open up to my feelings, and resolve the other blank wall scenerio, since I had to settle my life soem what, and with reserve and distinctive issues that plagued me forever. Well that area has worked out in the positive, but now I realize that my best friend is going out with you know who. Damn. The signs are all there. Wouldn't you know it? I suppose my reserve and distant demeanor thwarted any chance, but who said hey, I really want to blah blah or along those lines. ANyway, now I have lost, the interest has taken a deep and predictable fall. Well, hope they're happy. Maybe it was inevitable and I intuitively saw this but denied it to myself. Certainly there were obvious questions, but I felt it could go to better and with a beaten chance get somewhere. Just can't fathom now, all I see is the two of them, screw loose. Well, I guess the dating game is on me now. Did you folks out there ever believe what you knew in your heart but also knew they would never tell the truth?
Author RedSky Posted June 25, 2006 Author Posted June 25, 2006 Update: I called her on monday cause my mind wouldn't let me enjoy my vacation wondering what was going to happen. I thought it would be a quick do you want to go out when i get back and then off the phone, but instead we chatted for a few minutes. So anyway we are going for dinner and then maybe hangout, see how it goes, coffee shop, ice cream, eat some caramels . Hopefully it goes well.
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