Monet44 Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 I was with my fiance for about 3 1/2-4 years. We'd grown up together really. Anyways, everything was great! About 2 weeks ago we bought a new truck. Mainly so he could practice his dirt bike riding more, 2 weeks later- we're shopping at Target for new things for our apartment. He was helpful to say the most. Picking things out and showing me where we could put them. After he got the truck, he decided to go and show his friends the truck. I went home after a long day after the mall- then i decided to go and buy an amplifier for my car stereo. I called him from the store and asked him what type and all that good stuff and he seemed extremely irritated- so i bought the one i though was best and left. I went home and he was there and he took a look at it and said great job babe- its a really good brand. So he offered to put it in for me. Fast forward 1 week- its now been 1 week and still my amp and wires sit in a garage that reaches a temp of 200F and higher. Not cool. My 240 dollar amp was due to get ruined so I told him i was just going to take it back. He began yelling at me and saying things like this- why do you have to be so damn impatient, just like you told me about the truck- u have to wait. So i asked him what was wrong- he screamed at me- nothing. We went down to my cousins house to get my bicycle so we could go on bike rides together- he through the bike in the truck and we began driving home- I asked him if he was alright and he just began to yell at me again- over the amp. I was talking to him and he wouldnt turn the music down and he said- SPEAK UP. After he was done yelling i said- so what do you want me to do about the amp- he said i dont give a F what you do- he turned up the radio so i couldnt talk. We went home. He dropped me off and disappeared. His mom asked when he was coming home- so i called him. All i asked was- are u coming home- and he said- im pulling up right now but whats with all the attitude- fast forward. He's home washing the truck and hasnt said anything to me- so i went outside to make things right- he argued with me about everything- then finally said darling i cant do this anymore- he was sarcastic and laughing- told me to pack my things and leave. Ouch. Since then i've removed my things and the night i left my engagement ring and house key on his pillow- he text messaged me saying i love you good night sweetie? What the heck? He still sends me text messages and last night we talked for a good 10min about his day at work and maybe we'll try it again in 6 months- his reasoning for all this we argued too much, i had an attitude, he doesnt want a relationship now. ?? But yet hes still calling me babe and sweet heart and all those sweet names. I found out from a friend that he told people i talked crap on his bro and his family. I put that on my life- i was nothing less than loving and respectful. I was going to marry him- what the hell do i do now? Everyone says he was just stressed about moving and doesnt want to take responsibility- if thats the case- will he come back? 4 years just doesnt go away like that.
RealBroken Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 kind of......and i say kind of...... sounds like he may be self sabotaging the relationship. Dnt take my word for it coz i may be completely wrong ok. You need to take control of the situation. Currently HE is. Dont contact him, act as though your busy. Dont be negative with him. But act like you're going out with friends and are FINE. If you try to persuade or beg or say 'I love you' he'll pull away even more. Dont ask for the control back by doing these things. He wont do it. Take it. Trust me, act like your fine. Act like you're really busy! Read as many threads as you can on this forum. they all kinda say the same thing.
RealBroken Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 do ur study now on this forum while u still havent done something completely wrong or to make the situation much worse...... thats what i did, i just wish i had found this website earlier, im sufferin from it. Take the advice on these pages.
corwin Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 Your ex-fiance sounds like a very immature dickhead. Completely not ready for a commitment like marriage. If I were you, I'd go no-contact with him and ask him to respect the no-contact. Then try and move on with your life. Hang out with friends, devote time to a favorite hobby. Maybe then he'll realize what a putz he is and grow up enough to decide he does want a serious relationship with you. At that time, maybe you'll want the same or maybe you'll realize your happiness lies elsewhere.
tikigods Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 If you cosigned on the truck, or anything else for that matter, get a lawyer to help get your name off things (and if you helped pay for house or truck you need to make sure you can get your cash back)
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