teressa0397 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 i'am an this 12 year affair. its tearing me a part. its 2 months since i seen him. he E-mails me tell's me is comeing down but doesn.t show up, i ask him if there was another women he tell.s me no. then he told me he has been under a lot of stress. now i'am wondering if he is telling me the truth. he was suppose to come down today and didn.t. What is going on here? I'am about to crack up. i cant take no more. does he wants it over dont want to tell me. or keep me guessing. i gotta find a way out. i'am in it so deeply. need advise. please help. has any one out been threw this tell me how to get out. sometimes i want to tell him to got hell. but its seens i cant let go. please please help.
whichwayisup Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 He is lying to you...Stringing you along...And you're letting him! So, stop!! Take back control of your life! Talk to a therapist. Please! You HAVE to get yourself OUT of this situation. You're in a situation that is so not healthy for you...You know this too, so hopefully with the help of a therapist, you'll learn how to be strong, gain some confidence back and END IT 100%.
paige367 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Tell him to go to hell and then try to move on though it may be difficult. Think about what he had done to you. Get angry....my god he's treating you like s***!!! I'm getting angry for you over here. I imagine that he had been a dog for about 11 and half years...do you think that's going to change. No it won't you can't change people you can only change your circumstances. You're not cracking up, I promise you that. Your heart may be cracking but luckily they heal. I do agree with the therapy advice. If you've never gone you may be intimidated but I promise you that it will help and you'll feel stronger after each session.
Author teressa0397 Posted June 16, 2006 Author Posted June 16, 2006 He is lying to you...Stringing you along...And you're letting him! So, stop!! Take back control of your life! Talk to a therapist. Please! You HAVE to get yourself OUT of this situation. You're in a situation that is so not healthy for you...You know this too, so hopefully with the help of a therapist, you'll learn how to be strong, gain some confidence back and END IT 100%. well i cry all night. i feel kinda better this morning. then,,, i just got an E_mail from him and saids why he didnt show up yesterday. he saids his step daughter have to have surgery today. he said she come first. he said if i have a problem with that he said f*** you. i'am going to take back contol of my life. i'am not E-mailing him back. its more like f*** him. thanks for your advise.
Author teressa0397 Posted June 16, 2006 Author Posted June 16, 2006 Tell him to go to hell and then try to move on though it may be difficult. Think about what he had done to you. Get angry....my god he's treating you like s***!!! I'm getting angry for you over here. I imagine that he had been a dog for about 11 and half years...do you think that's going to change. No it won't you can't change people you can only change your circumstances. You're not cracking up, I promise you that. Your heart may be cracking but luckily they heal. I do agree with the therapy advice. If you've never gone you may be intimidated but I promise you that it will help and you'll feel stronger after each session. i got an E-mail today and said why he didnt show up. he saids his step daughter have to have surgery, today. he said if i have a problem with that he said f*** you. its more like f*** him, i'am getting back control of my life. yes he is treating my like s***. it stops today. i did not e-mail him back i'am going to let it be. what do you think.
PandorasBox Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 "he said if I had a problem with it the f*** you." Yeah let this die. I'm not for sure his daughter is having surgery, but if he can not show up when he says he is, and then says things like "f*** you" if you have a problem with it, then chances are he is probably lying aout his daughter having surgery. Don't email him or call him, let it go. JMO.
whichwayisup Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 well i cry all night. i feel kinda better this morning. then,,, i just got an E_mail from him and saids why he didnt show up yesterday. he saids his step daughter have to have surgery today. he said she come first. he said if i have a problem with that he said f*** you. i'am going to take back contol of my life. i'am not E-mailing him back. its more like f*** him. thanks for your advise. He's disrespecting you. Instead of making you feel OK about his reasons for not showing up, he's making you feel like s***. He doesn't respect you at all. The guy is an inconsiderate selfish a**h***! You can do better! Honestly, as painful as it may be for you, you're better off alone than dating this MM. HE isn't worthy of YOUR time. Remember that! Keep crying and dealing with the emotions, eventually you'll see more clearly and say to yourself, "WTF am I DOING???" And you'll completely end it! Heart, body and soul.
jmargel Posted June 16, 2006 Posted June 16, 2006 i'am an this 12 year affair. its tearing me a part. its 2 months since i seen him. he E-mails me tell's me is comeing down but doesn.t show up, i ask him if there was another women he tell.s me no. then he told me he has been under a lot of stress. now i'am wondering if he is telling me the truth. he was suppose to come down today and didn.t. What is going on here? I'am about to crack up. i cant take no more. does he wants it over dont want to tell me. or keep me guessing. i gotta find a way out. i'am in it so deeply. need advise. please help. has any one out been threw this tell me how to get out. sometimes i want to tell him to got hell. but its seens i cant let go. please please help. You need psychological help. 12 years this guy has been cheating on his wife with you? I believe you are married as well, right? Nothing any of us can say will make you stop. We've tried. I remember the previous posts you would put on here. I'm not trying to belittle you but trying to make you understand that you have an addiction. This obession has taken over your life. This is something that we are not trained to help with. You need to see a psychologist and move out of state. Your life has been consumed by this individual, so it seems. I wish you the best of luck.
Author teressa0397 Posted June 16, 2006 Author Posted June 16, 2006 You need psychological help. 12 years this guy has been cheating on his wife with you? I believe you are married as well, right? Nothing any of us can say will make you stop. We've tried. I remember the previous posts you would put on here. I'm not trying to belittle you but trying to make you understand that you have an addiction. This obession has taken over your life. This is something that we are not trained to help with. You need to see a psychologist and move out of state. Your life has been consumed by this individual, so it seems. I wish you the best of luck. this may seens untrue, but today i ended it. i'am going to deal with it. first of i no i gotta do a lot of crying to deal with my pain. deal with my emotions. i dont need no psychological to tell me what to do. no affense to you, i all ready no the key word is, end it. i will let you no later how i'am doing how i deal with it thanks for your advise, o'' yes i do have addiction with him.. but going to be strong i'am going to get my life back and take control. i'am going to show Danny that is his name i dont got to put up with his s*** anymore. he is still with the women at home. my husband an i are threw. i can't take no more. once again thanks for your advise.
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