kit4kat Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Can someone please explain the mind of this male friend... I don't get him. This friendship started off romantically 3 years ago. I wasn't ready for anything serious, so I backed off and said I only wanted to be friends. For 3 years he hung around, tried to change my mind, but something felt off and I just couldn't date him. Not to mention the fact that I didn't have major feelings for this guy... I'll admit, it was nice to have a backup around in case the current guy of the time let me down, I know, I'm horrible... In September of last year, the guy I had been with for 3 months dumped me. I was pretty hurt by it. The girl my friend had been seeing started to get all crazy on him, so he was done with that. We started hanging out even more than usual... we went on dates, more romantic feelings evolved, it was looking pretty promising. Then I found out he talked a whole bunch of crap about me behind my back, lied to me about it, talked more crap, then denied it all. We didn't talk for a month. He finally came clean, apologized, said he was stupid and all that and we started talking again. He met a girl while we were fighting. Way too young for him, but nothing ever happened with us anyway, and I only want him to be happy, so I encouraged him to go for it. He kept telling me no, over and over again. Said she wasn't the one he wanted to be with. While he was "playing" with his new friend, I made a new friend and played with him. I figured if he had moved on, so could I. Wrong. I hooked up with this new guy for 3 months. Then it ended because I realized that I didn't like him, I still had feelings for my friend. Plus, my friend had talked to my best friend and told her that he was in love with me and would stop seeing this new girl if I told him to... I thought about it, and realized that maybe he and I should give it a shot. So I tell him that I still have feelings for him. He tells me that he still likes me, and always will... but I missed my chance. I was shocked, because 2 weeks earlier he was "in love" with me. Whatever. I'm done. Its been a game like this for 3 years anyway, if he wants this other girl then I should back off right? So I tell him that we need to end our friendship, that its done. That maybe in a few months or so, we can try talking again, but he needs to do his own thing and I need to do mine... so I'm going to walk away. He tells me no. Can he do that? He says I'm being selfish for ending the friendship. He tells me that I can't have my heart back because he still wants it. I don't get it. I repeatedly try and end the friendship, he tells me no everytime. I tell him I need to back off, and he accuses me of being selfish. Telling me that I should sit by, fall head over heals for him, watch him date this new girl and wait for him. I have my theories. But can anyone make sense of his recent actions?
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