allina Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 He ended it less than two weeks ago, after a little under 4 months. I feel like a huge fool but I'm devastated and in a way can't accept that he wants us to be over. I'm usually a pretty strong girl, and the recent days seemed like they were getting better then late tonight it all hit me all over again. We have plans to go out on Friday, I know it's probably a bad idea but I want to see him, and yes, sadly, in part I hope it will make him miss spending time with me. Tonight I caved, told him I missed him, wanted to be together, all the things I should not have said poured out of me, he was sweeet about it but asked if I was sure I wanted to see him, told me he didn't want to string me along. He has done pretty much everything he can to make it clear that he will never come back and that he is done with me. I feel ridicules and freaked out. I have been in relationships before, good relationships, relationships that have lasted much longer than this one, yet I don't remember ever hurting this bad. I know that people move on after the end of long marriages and relationships much more serious than this one so why can't I let this go? Why am I such a mess over this. I'm starting to scare myself and I'm exhausted
kit4kat Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Don't see him. It'll only make it harder. Question for you... have you ever read the book He's Just Not That Into You? I know, it sounds like a horrible book to read after a break-up. But after the last guy I was seeing for 3 months dumped me, I was pretty broken up about it. And like you, I consider myself a strong girl. The book gave me hope. I recommend it. Oh, and don't worry, things seem bad now, but they'll get better. They always do
Author allina Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 Don't see him. It'll only make it harder. Question for you... have you ever read the book He's Just Not That Into You? I know, it sounds like a horrible book to read after a break-up. But after the last guy I was seeing for 3 months dumped me, I was pretty broken up about it. And like you, I consider myself a strong girl. The book gave me hope. I recommend it. Oh, and don't worry, things seem bad now, but they'll get better. They always do Yes, I have read the book, and really liked it actually, but now that I'm in the situations I'm making all the moves I never thought I would. I just want to feel better, I know he isn't that in to me, and I can't understand why I'm reacting like this. Thanks for reading and replying, I may cancel the meeting on Friday.
kit4kat Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Your reactions are normal... you got attached. Its hard to change, to let go and move on. Let me know about Friday. If you cancel, find some girls to take you out. If you go, I wanna know what happens!!!
Author allina Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 Your reactions are normal... you got attached. Its hard to change, to let go and move on. Let me know about Friday. If you cancel, find some girls to take you out. If you go, I wanna know what happens!!! Yeah I'm sure I'll end up posting about it, because though I know I should cancel, chances are I won't.
LifeinLimbo Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Don't meet up with him! First off, it's a bad idea. Secondly, it'll only make this weekend harder. Weekends are hard enough because of the extra time to think about things. If you see him tomorrow you're just going to replay Friday over and over again in your head all weekend. Kit4kat is right, go have a good time with the girls. Go to a bar, have a few drinks, relax and scope out the guys. If you really don't want to go out, you'd rather be alone, rent a movie or read or something... anything other then seeing him. Good luck Be strong like the girl you are
rkman Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Don't meet up with him! First off, it's a bad idea. Secondly, it'll only make this weekend harder. Weekends are hard enough because of the extra time to think about things. If you see him tomorrow you're just going to replay Friday over and over again in your head all weekend. Kit4kat is right, go have a good time with the girls. Go to a bar, have a few drinks, relax and scope out the guys. If you really don't want to go out, you'd rather be alone, rent a movie or read or something... anything other then seeing him. Good luck Be strong like the girl you are Quoted for emphasis
Author allina Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 Quoted for emphasis Yeah, I think I will have to break Friday's plans with him, right now I'm pretty angry about everything. edit: I just told him not to come, that I saw to reason to see again, wished him well, then blacked him on aim. It's going to be a hard day, but I think I did the right thing.
Guest Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Perfect! Now he'll probably want you more (keyword: probably). I'm in the same situation as we speak. I just made plans to meet him tonight and later cancelled and made it seem like "some thing came up". I'll wait for him to contact me b/c I'm done feeling used and pathetic. He'll call eventually for his precious t-shirts, haha! I, like you, don't understand why I'm stuck on this one guy. We were together for such a short time and just a year and a half ago I broke off a 3 year relationship and I'm doing just fine. I think that's b/c I ended the 3 year one and this guy is the one that is rejecting me; rejection stinks and I feel like I need validation from him or something! Sounds silly but at least I'm honest with myself. I have read a million times that the best revenge is to be happy. Pretend that you're busy and doing just fine without him but don't overdo it. In time, he will either come back and someone else will come into your life. I have to go to Borders today and see if I can find some books to help me during this difficult time. Wishing you luck and happiness, Barb
Guest Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Hey this is Barbara once again! Correction from yesterday's post: In time, he will either come back OR someone else will come into your life. One thing I do enjoy about being single is I am reconnecting with someone I've neglected for a long time...myself. *The most important relationship you'll ever have is the one with yourself. ~Barb
BrandonBP Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Go to a bar, have a few drinks, relax and scope out the guys. Yeah, all the girls who are heartbroken should go out and get boinked. That way, us guys that are heartbroken can get boinked too and forget about our exes for a while. I'll be at the bar tonight if anyone needs boinking.
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