Guest Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Me and my BF have broken up - gone months without speaking, reconciled after we both seemed miserable apart and now I'm seriously thinking of ending it once and for all - but it's so hard to let go and make it final even though I know it's something I need to do. I'm not happy - he's still withholding from me emotionally although everytime we get back together he says I'm the one and he wants no one else and wants to make it work. He's moody, hot and cold towards me and withholds so much from me - so he can retain some control over me. I'm done playing stupid games like this. We're both in our mid 40's and I can't trust him to be there for me - he never has been and I basically can't stand his attitude towards me. He claims he loves me but plays games with me. I know deep down I gotta get out of this and move on. I'm ready to start dating other people and find someone who is more trustworthy and who will respect me and my feelings. In the past he's dumped me then came crawling back. He was extremely mean when he did it. I feel like dumping him the way he did me but I don't want to lower myself to his level. I know all of you here are wanting to reconcile and be given a second chance but so far I don't see second chances working - you end up resentful and beaten down from trying to salvage a doomed relationship. I hold alot of resentment towards him and want to end it. Any advice on how to do it and not let him talk me out of it or come back 8 months down the road like he did last time?
rkman Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 If you want out. Tell him what you said here. Tell him you don't trust him and that you don't want to trust him any longer. Believe this yourself as well. Don't get emotional, and be strong so that he feels the seriousness of the situation. Tell him you don't want to talk to him, and that you would appreciate if he would stop contacting you. Walk away. Don't answer his calls and don't call back. Don't expect his calls either. This is not sinking to his level, it is being responsible. Easier said than done, I know,practice if you need. Good luck!
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