Milf629 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Calling Chump Calling Chump. I want and need your advice and anyone else who feels they have something worth while to chime in with. I'm gearing up for Stealth mode but need to know exactly what and how i should be doing this. For my own sick reasons I need more evidence/proof then i already have so give me all your tips and tricks. on a mission to catch him.....
Walking away Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 I know Chump would tell you to get a keylogger for your computer. It tracks EVERYTHING including secret e-mail accounts that you don't even know about. I know my MM had a secret yahoo account just for us. Get access to his credit card records, phone records, bank statements. Look on the phone bills for one particular number that shows up over and over. Look for unusual times....early in the morning or late at night. If you can get ahold of his cell phone, start rifling through his text messages. That is how my xMM got caught. Good luck.... Chump, for the rest, I defer to your greatness!
Walking away Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 And, if my xMM's wife had installed a keylogger on his computer, she would have nailed his ass to the wall just now. I just received an e-mail from him telling me that he loves me and misses me and hopes for a beautiful reunion someday. And she thinks I was the one pursuing him....
Mz. Pixie Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Get the cell phone record to see how many times they are texting each other. When I was the OW the OM and I did that all the time when we couldn't "talk". Look for calls late at night or when he wasn't with you!
Author Milf629 Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 Keylogger: check Credit Report: check Credit Cards: check Bank Statements: Check Cell phone Bill: check Text messages: ya no check, he never leaves his phone around and we are living apart, I can't get to it. Text Messages on the Cell Phone Bill: check, BUT only his number shows up, its cingular, does that mean that HE is the one texting and hes not receiving any? The only thing that shows anything conclusively is his cell phone bill, I know who it is, I can see all the call times, he knows I know, he knows I dont like it (to say the least) he insists its platonic. I did check the keylogger yesterday, and I was able to get into his "work" website, where the schedules are, and from that I got her last name (yes he works with her), this last bit he doesn't know about, and obviously I now know what her work schedule is too.
Mz. Pixie Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 See my post from you on the other thread. Get a sitter. Borrow a friends car. Follow him. Then you can see what he's up to. Be Prepared.
Author Milf629 Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 should I call the OW though? take her by surprise, really pound her for some info. I bet if I piss her off enough she'll talk.
Mz. Pixie Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 She won't talk and there is no use in calling her- she'll just lie and then they will be tipped off that you're onto them. Then, if you later call her husband she will already have had time to prep him.
Walking away Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Yep, don't call. My xMM's wife called me and I covered for him. She bought it. And, Mz. Pixie is right....they will just go more covert if they know you are on to them. Follow him, but please have someone with you for moral support.
Author Milf629 Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 well, after some searching, I now have her home address, home phone number and husband's name. so I should call him right? say hey listen I think your lovely new wife (they are newly married I dont know how new though) is f***ing my husband, what do you think? two minds are better then one right?
Walking away Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Yep. I would call him. Get him involved. He has a right to know and, yes, two heads are better than one. P.S. I am so, so sorry for your pain.
Chump64 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Hi Milf: I have mixed feelings on this because I think you have enough evidence based on your other post today (“Just the facts.”) But I will cut and paste some of my investigative ideas from an earlier thread. I also think if you are going to tell the husband, you should stick to the known facts and not say “I think your wife is f*cking my husband.” So you could do two things. You could go stealth and get irrefutable evidence, THEN contact the husband. Or you could go to him with this info, which you have stated is all true: * My husband told me he is interested in having a girlfriend. He has also admitted to having an emotional affair with your wife. * My husband has a myspace blog that refers to your wife as a woman at work who he is interested in. Here is the URL. * My husband told me he wants to be legally separated so he can have his freedom. On the same day he told me this, he admitted to having an EA with your wife. * My husband and your wife attended a Yankees game together on May 26. He lied to me about who he was going with, and it turned out to be your wife. * A friend told me that the two of them may have rented a hotel room together, but I have no evidence. Maybe you could check your credit card statements? (Bullcrap on the “sworn to secrecy” thing, by the way. Your marriage is at stake.) * He lied to me about his whereabouts on June 5. I found out later he was at a movie with your wife. I think it's suspicious that he would lie about being with her. * Your wife and my husband are having frequent cell phone discussions and are text messaging. I can give you a copy of the bills if you wish. And finally: * I suspect your wife and my husband are having a full blown affair based on this info I've shared with you. Do you know where this guy works? You might be better off sending him a letter at work vs. at home (be sure to mark it as "confidential" though). The wife could intercept it. Or find a way to put it under the windshield wiper of his car. (Or you could just call him.) But be prepared for him to be angry and accuse you of being a liar or a whack job. He might react that way at first but things will sink in over time. Then again, he may be completely receptive to your contact. Here is the investigative thing I mentioned in a different post earlier. Let me know of any questions. * Put a voice activated recorder in her car. You can't catch all her cell conversations, but you can at least catch her side / what SHE is saying. Hide it. Lemme know if you need hiding tips. Put a recorder in her office even, if you can. There are some that look like ballpoint pens. Lay one on her desk. That's how I got started with my own investigating. * Check around for a cheap global positioning unit. Put it in her car. It can tell you where she went. * Bug your home phone. Put a line tap on a little-used extension. Bug her office phone too, if you can swing it. I got into my husband's office by figuring out when he'd be in meetings, etc. (I can see his calendar that is set up on his email.) Then I'd have a gift or something in hand in case I ran into a coworker. "I'm leaving this gift here as a surprise for him, so please don't tell himI was here!" At one point, I delivered a framed picture as a surprise, while he was in a meeting. Well -- OOPS! -- the frame broke when I dropped it! (I had a stash of broken glass that I dumped on the floor.) Darn! Now the co-workers who were helping me deliver this surprise knew I had to come back with a new picture, and they conspired with me when I delivered the new item (so I could pick up the recorder I used to tap his phone line). I eventually wised up and realized I could get in the building at 7 am with no one around. Illegal? Yeah. Will she turn you in? Not likely, unless she wants the whole world to know she's cheating. * Install a keylogger on your home computer. This is how I captured my husband's work email password. You can download free ones that are kind of clunky and inefficient, but they did the job for me. A site I'm gonna pimp for you is http://www.spyville.com. They will send the items to your work address and will accept a check or money order (vs. a credit card).
Walking away Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Chump.... I bow down to your greatness..... Good God woman, you were a woman on a mission! Good for you!
Chump64 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 Part of my diligence was because I thought we had a decent marriage and a really happy family life that was worth trying to save. Honestly -- and I'm sorry, Milf -- if my spouse had ever said things like "I don't want to be married / I want my freedom / I want a girlfriend so I can be a better husband," I wouldn't have bothered to investigate. Bizarre and unbelievable as it sounds, I never felt unloved or unwanted. On the other hand, if I had known that this was a 10 year affair on my husband's part, on the day I confronted him, I think his crap would have been in the yard and the locks changed. I guess in the long run it has worked out for the best (so far) b/c my kids are oblivious to what's going on, and that wouldn't have been the case if my husband's clothes were strewn about the yard.
Chump64 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 BWT Milf, don't call the OW. Don't give either of them any indication that you are spying. Play like all is A-OK. You could follow him (borrow someone's car) or have a friend follow him. a GPS unit is probably more effective though.
Guest Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 I bought a gps tracker to track my wife's whereabouts, especially between baylor hospital and My-T-Fine carwash in Irving, TX. Works like a charm. Buy you one.
AMBERINVEGAS Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Call In Delta Force. Get Cell Phone Bills Via Internet If You Can't Get Them From The Mail In Time Before He Does. If He Says He's Going Out. You Barrow A Friends Car And Follow Him. Go With Your Instinct. It's Right
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