kryptoknight Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 I met this girl lat year online but we haven't got a chance to see each other in person because we are both busy and I also felt that shes not really interested in me. We often had good conversations online whenever we chat but I tried asking her out sometime before and she said she would go out with me. Unfortunately, she've been busy and I completely stoped trying untill both of us slowly stopped communicating online. Last week she sent me a PM message online and we both asking each other how things been...I told her about my dating stories and other things...she told me that she never had a relationship since the last time I talked to her...I began to talk to her more on the next few days untill I asked her if she want's to catch a movie that we both liked....She said she would check her schedule next week and will call up each other. I asked her If she still have my cell#..I was surprised she still have it. Last night I talked to her again reminding her about the movie we both wanna see tomorrow night. She said that she would go for sure and after a few conversations about who is paying, she didn't like the idea of me paying for it. She told me it feels like it is a date thing if the guy will pay ..I was like surprised...She also told me that she will make ting straight...she said it will be a dat just as friends not like normal date....WTF is that supposed to mean? I know that it always starts everything as friends, but why did she have to tell me that our date tomorrow will be just as friends?...Is she scared of what Im about to do on the first date like kissing and holding her hands? I don't do those stuff on a first date....I know I like her, but shes giving me the warning way to early...I don't know if she likes me...but what should I do?...She also told me that shes picky when it comes to guys and it will take a long time till she let the guy hold her hands or kiss her ....I need help and advice on this one big time....Also, how long should I wait untill I tell her about my real intentions of our dating?...seems that I'll just end up as a friend .
MarnieGirl Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 she's telling you it is a friendly outing rather than a date so neither of you is embarrassed, since one of you is obviously looking for more than friendship. that fact that you only "know" each other online is probably also a reason...she isn't committing to anything until she can meet you and see what you're really like and what kind of connection you have, if any. that's not a bad thing; people who meet online really don't know how they're going to feel when faced with a real live person.
Author kryptoknight Posted June 14, 2006 Author Posted June 14, 2006 she's telling you it is a friendly outing rather than a date so neither of you is embarrassed, since one of you is obviously looking for more than friendship. that fact that you only "know" each other online is probably also a reason...she isn't committing to anything until she can meet you and see what you're really like and what kind of connection you have, if any. that's not a bad thing; people who meet online really don't know how they're going to feel when faced with a real live person. Thanks...that made me feel better abit and kinda gives me hope. But sumtin tells me it might be a shutdown already,,, just giving me a chance as a friend since I've been asking her several times before. :|
j.carsey Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 More or less ignore what she's saying. The only thing you have to do is be careful to keep the conversation more casual than you might otherwise do. Never mention anything romantic sounding you will sound totally foolish What I'll just make a point of saying is that contrary to what some others are telling you, she MIGHT still be looking for "more than a friend" and it could be with you. You just don't know. So be careful, polite, casual but keep your options open
Author kryptoknight Posted June 14, 2006 Author Posted June 14, 2006 More or less ignore what she's saying. The only thing you have to do is be careful to keep the conversation more casual than you might otherwise do. Never mention anything romantic sounding you will sound totally foolish What I'll just make a point of saying is that contrary to what some others are telling you, she MIGHT still be looking for "more than a friend" and it could be with you. You just don't know. So be careful, polite, casual but keep your options open Thanks...I'll try my best to not talk about relationships...I'll just have fun and be myself.
j.carsey Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 And yes she is probably afraid of stuff like kissing and holding hands. She doesn't want it right NOW doesn't mean she might not want it later. I can't tell you the number of times when I first met a girl she made a point of saying, I'm not looking to date, or you are just a friend to me... and several months later we were naked in bed (with her initiating it) Women are complicated lol
j.carsey Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 Thanks...I'll try my best to not talk about relationships...I'll just have fun and be myself. Good for you!! Don't fear/worry about stuff like rejection so early into the game. Be yourself, have fun and roll with it
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