willduggan Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 hey all im in need of a little advice. i hope this doesnt get too long. ive been with the same woman for going on 3 years and things have been up and down the whole ride. last year middle of winter we broke up because we argued, werent getting along, you know the typical stuff. and she jumped right into another relationship after we broke up(doing the usual stringing me along thing) well after being apart for about 6 months (about a year ago in a few weeks) we got back together and have made a pretty good relationship together. we no longer had the fights like we used to and things were going great. now for the problem. her being my first REAL relationship i find myself wondering the big "what if" thing since ive never been with anyone else i dont know whats out there to be honest. and over the last month or so ive noticed a bored feeling. like... i feel like i want to go out and find someone else. its not that we arent compatable its that i just feel...bored. is this typical of relationships in the long run? i find that because im getting bored im more on edge and it doesnt help that her temper seems to have perked up a little. my question i guess being when do you look for someone else and when do you stick through it. because i feel like i want to break up but im not sure its a sound decision unless there was a huge fight... i dont know. thanks for any input. -will p.s. i wont be able to comment till tomarrow. work and all. thanks!
ash8752 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 you need to think long and hard about it. Do you still love her and are you in love with her? You dont want to live your life unhappy, but is leaving her in hopes of finding someone new and better worth the risk of losing her for good? People feel bored sometimes, they question there relationships too. In the end ask urself, "is it worth it?" You might lose her. Also, this isnt very fair to her either so do what you think is best but it wont be easy. I am actually really torn on this one.
Author willduggan Posted June 15, 2006 Author Posted June 15, 2006 thanks for the reply. its a really hard decision to make because we dont have any one HUGE issue, but a ton of little issues and it just makes me question whether i should look elsewhere or not.. its really not fair to her if im looking elsewhere but not leaving and all that. i love her still but to be honest its starting to feel like the love i have for a good friend.... ive noticed my feelings about this have made me a little more testy too. we had a big fight a couple nights ago over a bunch of little stuff. now shes been acting strange almost as if she knows what im thinking about. i suppose it doesnt help that ive never been the one to do the dumping before so i dont want to make her feel like ive felt when being dumped...ugh. i dont know what im gonna do.
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