j.carsey Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 This is a new one for me so it caught me by surprise. Your advice on how to handle this kind of thing so as to not ruin my chances ... I live in a small apartment building, and while working on my car I met a neighbour (20 yo) also in the parking lot working on her car. I'm a couple years older. Very cute tomboy type. She lives with two other guys. Anyway she gave me her number in a neighbourly way. After a few days I dropped by her place and the guys who room with her said they'd tell her I came by. They even knew for some reason that she had my number. And then she came to my door later that day. I invited her in to drink some beer and watch a show it turns out we both enjoy. Came in and we talked for a couple hours, told me about her work and everything. Including that she's single (and indirectly, straight). Hasn't dated anyone for a couple years, is 20, so she might not have experience on the romantic side. She did smile a lot and looked awfully comfortable on my couch, considering she just walked into a stranger's home on her own. Then she had to get going to bed (works early). Now here's the thing: she is a serious tomboy and is around guys all the time (that doesn't bother me she's still hot). But if she was a girly girl I would say she is definitely interested in going for something. But knowing she is in a guy's scene, she basically did something any of us guys could do ... drop by a neighbour's apartment and make friends by sharing some beer. And I treated her almost exactly like I would treat a guy except I asked more guy/girl interaction questions to get a sense of where she's coming from. And I also mildly complimented her clothes and appearance. She hangs out and drinks with her guy friends all the time, so what I invited her to probably didn't seem so unusual. So what is a good next step for me now. I don't want to become the creepy neighbour who makes an unwelcome advance at a neighbour girl who's just being friendly. But I am interested in spending time together in a non-platonic fashion. How do I get there, with a tomboy?
vi_pn_babe25 Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 It's hard to say, since she has alot of guy friends she might just view you as a friend. Wait and see what happens, who knows maybe she might make the first move.
Magister Posted June 17, 2006 Posted June 17, 2006 Next time you decide to go somewhere fun, stop over and ask if she wants to go with you. Or call her and say, "Hi this is ME, your neighbor. I'm going to X on Y at Z. Want to go?" Don't worry about looking like a creepy stalker type. No advance is unwelcome to a woman the first time. That only happens if you keep after her if she turns you down.
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