PAMIAM27 Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 I work with him. That's the best way for me to begin this. Small office with the usual office busy bodies. I've been through an office relationship before and it didnt work out for other reasons...not due to any external work interference. My problem is that I'm interested...so totally interested....but I'm just not sure if he's interested in me or that he's more interested in our working relationship...Its a Boss/Secretary one. He calls every morning on his way in from work - aside from the few minor work related questions - usually its all about the small stuff.."what did you do last night?" "how are you today?" blah blah blah.... Brings me back coffee...runs out for me if I want something. Always tells me how wonderful I am and how much he trusts me.....The clincher of it all that really made me start to think was the night he asked me that if he met his friend after work for a few drinks would I like to maybe join them..it was an out of the blue offer at 5:10 on a Friday night....And then he actually called!!! ( I never thought he would) He always talks about his relationship issues..and how he cant find anyone - that's the most upsetting part of this whole thing. I just dont know what to think. Each day that goes by I find myself becoming more interested in this person and I'm just unsure of what to think. My question to anyone out there is how do I handle this, what do I do and what do I think of the way that he is acting toward me????
Spank'n'Rationality Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 ...it sounds to me like he is interested in you. Now, the question is: Is he interested in you as MORE than a friend/co-worker? I really can say that he is interested in you as at least a friend, or would like to get to know you better. A few questions before I can better consider your plight: How long have you been working together?Is there any reason why you should not get together, other than the obvious work-relationship issue (i.e. married, kids, age difference, etc.)?Are you attractive, or at least as attractive as him (I know it sounds superficial, but the majority of people tend to go for people who look at least as good as them; of course their are exceptions to the rule, but it is more likely if you two "look good together").Do you two have anything in common/same interests besides working for the same company?Now, people will probably tell you not to get involoved in an office relationship, and that is responsible advice. However, I am not going to suggest that; if you two don't have any other obligations (married with kids, etc.), then I say go for it. Just make sure you both are willing to behave like adults at work if it doesn't work out.
Guest Posted July 8, 2006 Posted July 8, 2006 ...it sounds to me like he is interested in you. Now, the question is: Is he interested in you as MORE than a friend/co-worker? I really can say that he is interested in you as at least a friend, or would like to get to know you better. A few questions before I can better consider your plight: How long have you been working together?Is there any reason why you should not get together, other than the obvious work-relationship issue (i.e. married, kids, age difference, etc.)?Are you attractive, or at least as attractive as him (I know it sounds superficial, but the majority of people tend to go for people who look at least as good as them; of course their are exceptions to the rule, but it is more likely if you two "look good together").Do you two have anything in common/same interests besides working for the same company?Now, people will probably tell you not to get involoved in an office relationship, and that is responsible advice. However, I am not going to suggest that; if you two don't have any other obligations (married with kids, etc.), then I say go for it. Just make sure you both are willing to behave like adults at work if it doesn't work out. That is the most practical and realistic advice I have ever read on this site!!! You can't control your emotions, you can only control how you react to them and that is exactly what you are saying. Be responsible! GREAT ADVICE!!!
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