Hurting_4_Him Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Well its been 2 weeks since my husband and I have spoken a word to eachother...I've done a lot of thinking...and I'm movin on with my life...I thought I needed my husband...but I don't!!! I've realized I don't even want him anymore, know let me be honest...at times yes I wish we were still together..I do miss climbing in bed and cuddling with him...I miss kisses...I miss Intamacy...BUT I will have that again someday..and with someone who is willing to give me and ONLY me those things! I think that there are times I want him back out of pure loneliness...its hard at times...but then I remind myself when Im down and blue that I will never trust him again! He has cheated 2 times while we have been married a short 5 years...so how many more times would he cheat if I went back...I refuse to put myself in that position...and people have said and now I realize...I'm a good person...I deserve better than that..I deserve better than to be led on, have mindgames played, lied to, hurt on purpose...he's a slime ball is all he is!!!! I know that he will end up doing the same to the "ow" eventually, and there is nothing I can do about that, she has blinders on, she thinks that he is honest about everything and that I'm the liar because this is what he has told her. Well she'll live through it herself, and see that everything I have said was honest! That he is the liar... and maybe she will come to regret the time she gave him...maybe someday she will regret that she is the reason our marriage is ending...idk only time will tell....
Walking away Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Even though I am an xOW, I am saddened to hear that yet another marriage has broken up due to infidelity. However, on the other side of the coin, I feel exactly as you do. We both deserve better than a man that would make us feel as though we are competing for his love. Every woman deserves a man that wants her and ONLY her. BS or OW, it is the same. We DO deserve better. If you are peaceful with your decision, then you are doing the right thing. All my best. WA
zarathustra Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Congratulations... there will be hard days and we will be here if you need us.
Chump64 Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 Congrats. YOu are right - you do deserve better! I will be in your exact same shoes when / if there is another cheating episode in my marriage. I'm not sure I have it in me to reconcile the first episode (we'll see), but the second one would send me running to divorce court. Good luck to you!
AMBERINVEGAS2112 Posted June 19, 2006 Posted June 19, 2006 In My Humble Opinion....bravo!!!!!!!!!!!! You're Are So Smart And Strong. We Need More Women Like You Around.
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