a4a Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Been stalked....... or are you a stalker? (come on now I know there are some stalkers on LS!...... time to confess and get it off your chest!) Time to share your story here! What makes you stalk others? Why were you stalked....... and where is your past stalker now?
Author a4a Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 I'm watching you right now... Oh s***!!! I wish I would have known that!!! I wouldn't have picked my nose if I knew you were watching!!!!
Art_Critic Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Oh s***!!! I wish I would have known that!!! I wouldn't have picked my nose if I knew you were watching!!!! That wasn't your nose I saw you picking.. unless you sit on your face I have a few stories.. don't we all..
Author a4a Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 That wasn't your nose I saw you picking.. unless you sit on your face I have a few stories.. don't we all.. Oh so are you a stalker? Do you stalk them in a incognito clown costume? Don't they notice when you follow them in your wee car with the other 40 clowns stuffed in it?
Author a4a Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 Everyone stop talking about me!!!! Ahhh the gift of paranoia...... to know that at least somebody is always thinking about you!
Art_Critic Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I've been stalked before.. Scary and have dabbled in the dark side before.. with the internet it is easy
Alexandra Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Tee hee, yeah. And just why are you both on invisible eh?
Author a4a Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 I've been stalked before.. Scary and have dabbled in the dark side before.. with the internet it is easy Really Art....... tell me more........ interesting............ Do you mean looking up Xs and so forth???? Why do you do or did it? I have been semi stalked myself. What the full extent of it was I will never really know...... but I do know that I was followed often and mysterious meet ups in restaurants and bars ...... it is interesting.
Author a4a Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 Tee hee, yeah. And just why are you both on invisible eh? ohhhhhhhhh........ I never realized I was..... I show up in the listings of forum users ....... and why do you care if I am invisible? Is this a control issue for you?
NTB Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 why can't people just let go, instead they go all mental and stalk you i've been stalked before its no picnic
Author a4a Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 why can't people just let go, instead they go all mental and stalk you i've been stalked before its no picnic Details NTB......was your bunny boiled or what?
Alexandra Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Gah if we must be serious.... I have been stalked. Severely not semi. At least twice that I know of. The first time it was terrifying, the second it didn't really freak me out that much (online the second time) and it has also taught me a very valuable lesson about paranoia. That I can't sustain it. The taking care whom you talk to and what you tell them. It's just beyond me so I presume that made it easier for the stalker but the upside is that in that time frame I also met some wonderful people I would have never if I kept hiding in my hole. As for what makes people do it... it's rarely a full blown obsession, that takes a lot of energy and most -sane or semi-healthy- individuals can't keep it up for extensive amounts of time. It's usually the result of unclean break-ups where one party is left with many unresolved feelings. Other times it's about people whom have not been involved at all but one of them feels strongly that they should... I've met people in real stalking situations (a patient's ex wife) it's horrid and it went on for many years. Draining and damaging. Hopefully not anyone's case on here.
Art_Critic Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 When My StepMom was dying of cancer one day I took off a day from work and picked her up from home and took her to lunch and to a house that she was in the process of building.. This was the first time she had seen the house.. Well.. my STBXW shows up there at the new house while I was there with her. I had never been there before and neither had my step mom or ex.. My STBXW didn't even know about the house .. or I thought.. somehow she found out that my SM was building ahouse in that subdivision then went to the front construction office and found out what house she was building.. she also had the sales rep give her a tour of the new house.. It was also valentines day and she showed up with a gift for me from my stepdaughter.. I didn't know what to do or say other than thanks.. see ya later.. We had been separated for about 3 months and the divorce was already filed. and the house was only about half way finished
kitten chick Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I had a stalker in college. He used to follow me around campus and I had no idea. It's so creepy. You start to think back to what you were doing and all of the things they might have seen. It sends shivers down your spine.
tanbark813 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 When I was 18 I worked as a pizza delivery guy for Little Caesar's. One evening I made a delivery and the person who answered was a man dressed as a woman. Not only did he make an ugly woman, but it was clear he would not have made a handsome man. A relatively normal looking man could be seen further inside the apartment. The he/she paid for the pizza while giving me "f*** me" eyes. He gave me a tip and then went to shake my hand. It was awkward but I shook it since I was trying to be nice. He held on just a little too long. Over the next two weeks or so he would come in occasionally or have deliveries made. Never overtly flirting but with the same kind of flirting mannerisms. One day I came into work and my boss jokingly said, "Hey, your boyfriend left you a note." I read the note and the he/she asked me to the movies some time. I promptly discarded it. He came in a few days later and asked if I got the note. At that point I felt really awkward and didn't give much of a response (I was working the register since there were no deliveries). I just dodged the questions when he asked about going to the movies and he finally got the hint. That was the last I saw of him. If it would have happened more recently, I would have been more assertive in my refusal of his advances.
basscatcher Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I'll give .... I dated a man for 4 1/2 years after I left my xh. I left my xh May 98. The man heard through the grape-vine I walked out. He called me and wanted to see me. I said no for the 2 months then gave in and he came to see me fourth of July weekend in 98. (This man is the man I had my affair with years earlier..). As I said we were together from tha point for 4 1/2 years. He became cynical, verbally abusive, he was an alcoholic which wasn't recognizable until 2 1/2 years later when it got worse. He was working on seperating me from my family and friends. He was manipulative and very controlling. When I ended the relationship he wouldn't leave me alone. He begged me in everyway possible to take him back. I refused. I couldn't live with a man like him. For a month I had to deal with him calling, driving by and stopping by trying to get me take him back. I had known a guy from college (I was still in college when this was going on.) whom I started to drive to his work after class. I had time to kill between classes and he rode the bus so I offered to drive him home to change clothes and then to work to save him time. What I didn't know was my xbf was parking in the back of the parking lot at school and watching me. I wasn't dating this guy (yet) I was killing time between classes and wanting to get to know this guy better so what better way then to befriend him using transportation as the tool. (it worked by the way..).. One day my xbf got into my apt bldg, and got to me. He was angry and making all kinds of accusations at me, then would flip over and start begging me to take him back.. I managed to get him out of my apt. He confessed he had watched me at college and knew I was driving man to his apt and to work every day for 2 weeks. He accused me of f***ing him while I was with HIM.. (Not true). He used his computer at work to send emails to ALL my family and friends trying to defend himself to all them. He must have thought everyone would think he was this great man and I was the one in the wrong. (He got my email address list because I had sent a joke email to one of his co-workers/friend and I didn't know how to BCC email addresses at that time so they had my whole address book.) My family and friends started calling me and emailing (forwarding) me the emails he was sending to everyone. --he didn't copy me on the emails... A few friends replied to him and put him in his place and told him exactly what they thought of him. (negative of course.) Which spewed him into more rage and revenge for breaking up with him. The emails got so horrible. He was slandering me and trying to cause defemation of my charactor. He was telling all kinds of lies and hideous things about me. I was devasted.. I couldn't beleive a man whom I shared 4 1/2 years of my life with. Was loved by his children as a second mother, whom promised to respect me, and said we could be friends even if we werent together anymore. etc etc could do this. I supported his ass financially, I clothed and fed his children because he couldn't do it and their mother was on assistance. I helped him get connected with his family whom he had been seperated from for 6 years. (he was foriegn). He was saying and doing things that I never expected anyone could ever say about me. The lies hurt me deep.. I was so tramatized by all this. I called the police and they didn't do anything. I filed a police report and nothing happened. I consulted a lawyer and they told me the judges in that county would laugh me out of the court room. I had witness to abuse. I had witness to slander. I had tangible evidence of it all. Including the emails. Even out children--his included -- could have been called in to give testimoney to treatment. There was nothing I could do but live in fear. He was threatening to hurt me, harm me, ruin my life, destroy all my relationships. He said he would never rest until he destroyed me. He was working on doing it. My family and friends ALL OF THEM stood behind me. I sought out a councelor at a Rape and Abuse Crisis Center for 6 weeks. Then The man I was seeing from College and I graduated from college together, packed up our stuff and moved to a suburb of Minneapolis, MN.. That man and I are no longer together but we are friends. I live in hiding here. My name is not public..
Buttaflyy Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I was seriously stalked by a maniac who is now in jail. AGAIN! I was about 17 at the time and he moved into an apt down the hall from my family. He seemed like a cool enough guy. Me and my friends would hang out with him. He told us he was 23 at the time. He was in his late 30's. He knew my brother who is older than me. My brother informed us that the guy had just been released from prison and that he was bad news. He forbid me to speak to the guy let alone hang out with him. Also, they guy had started really creeping me out. He made a comment that he'd loved me since I was 10(he was well into his adulthood when I was 10). I started avoiding him. He'd knock on my door, come around my school, job and friend's houses. He would wait for me. He started threatening me. My family and friends. One day he caught me as I was coming home from a date with my BF at the time and he beat me up pretty badly. I was sooo afraid of him I didn't tell anyone. Well my brother found out anyways, and beat the guys ass badly. The guy was later arrested. He had been arrested for kidnapping a 14 year old girl. (Actually she ran away and refused to leave him.) I tried to talk her into getting out of there. This guy brainwashed her really good. She had been reported missing and I saw her mother on several occasions and told her where she was. Her mother was too afraid of the guy to rescue her daughter. My family called the cops and she was rescued. He also used to beat her repeatedly.
hotgurl Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I was stalked by a guy who I had a casual fling with he would call me all day & night & hang up. He also tried to break into my house. One ex didn't really stalk me but he wouldn't accept our break up. It took over a year.
been7077 Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 I was attacked by a stalker last night. This stalker is the current "love interest" of my former girl friend. She broke with me 2 years ago to go with him and over the last six months has been telling me about him, his stalking activities and other nasty things. We had a few drinks at a restaurant last night and I listened to alternately how good and how bad this man was. He is a silent stalker, following her around whenever she would go out with friends. She swore just moments before the attack that he had stopped that behavior. "I know where he is all the time," she said. I told her you know where his cell phone is. He is 3 times divorced and living in the attic of his parent's house. He's no spring chicken: he is 43 years old. So we walk out, and believe me there was nothing romantic about any of this, we were not locked in some embrace. I look up and this guy is running towards us. He gets into her face and is screaming: "This is your doing, this is your doing!" I decide that he looks like he is going to take a punch at her so I start talking to him. He says something and I give off a laugh. That's all he needs. He charges at me, kicks me (he is a black belt in karate) and grabs me around the throat. Luckily I was able to back off and because he dosen't know what I might do, I reached for my pocket, so maybe he thought twice about another attack. He kept screaming, "One kick to your head and your gone." Probably right. So just prior in the restaurant she had called him and he was "pulling into his driveway." At that moment I had my doubts. Turns out of course he was just out of sight in the bushes, so to speak. He had no idea who she was out with. I hadn't seen my ex in months. So each and every time she has been out he has been tailing her from a distance. Creepy, just a little. She would call him after leaving where ever she was and he would be as happy as punch. Of course, he was just out of her line of vision and taking the call. I told her this stalking would lead to this. A year ago he is saying that she needed to break off any and all contact with me, that she needed to "take care of this problem." It then escalated to threats to me physically, then one day showing up and pounding on my door, which he denied. I was home but didn't answer, so I know it was him. Now it is to the battery and assult stage. By the way, he punched and shoved her out of the way to get to me. I thought about it overnight and instead of being "macho" about it I told her we need to file a police report, that she was attacked by this man and so was I. She is not sure she wants to do it. "I lied to him about where I was going." True. She did. But that does not excuse the violence. Somebody could have died last night. So if I go alone to the police it's going to be my word against his if she does not come forward as a witness. And being that it was outside a restaurant/bar, the police are not likey to be so serious about it. This whole thing has ridden the chart up exactly like I thought. I told her six months ago or better that somebody is going to end up dead. Even if we go to the police somebody could end up dead. The police can't always be there. One kick to the head is all it takes, and the rage in his eyes and the reek of something on his breath tells me that is where he is going. I'll let you know how this progresses. I hope.
Craig Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 I was stalked for years by a woman that I met in college for literally not more than 30 seconds. She later contacted me by phone and at first seemed interested and normal. But that changed within the first phone call and I hung up on her after telling her I didn't want to talk with her anymore. The phone calls continued, she threatened her life, others lives, my life. The police were called and did nothing but laugh it off suggesting that it was an old girlfriend of mine. In the last call I got from her she threatened to put a bullet in my brain, the police were called, a report was filed but they said they couldn't do anything unless there was physical evidence like me laying in a pool of my own blood. Short story ending, I moved and took other steps and haven't heard from her since. She's a kindergarten teacher.
amaysngrace Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 I was stalked by a guy I worked with. He made comments about what I had been wearing, would drive by my house when I was being dropped off by my boyfriend, and showed up in places my boyfriend and I were at. I knew he use to fish off the bridge by my house. Then it occured to me that he could see into my bedroom window from the bridge. The next time my bf and I were doing the nasty, he went and stood by the window w/ his above-average-sized manhood exposed for my stalker to see. Needless to say, he gave up on bothering me...
been7077 Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 So to continue. I went to the police, but not before calling my ex and telling her I was going. I said she should meet me there, but she isn't so sure as she doesn't want to have the stalker arrested in front of his parents. Why I am wondering? They created this masterpiece. The cop ran a check and it turns out he has a prior arrest, but can't tell me what for as it is confidential. Will he escalate more I asked, in the cop's opinion. He seemed to think he would. So I am waiting final word to see if my ex will go with me to file a police report as that is what the police recommended. If not I will go alone, name her as a witness and see what happens. I think it is important to start a paper trail, as he is the consumate stalker, literally leaping out of bushes and getting the drop on a person. Another thing that complicates things is his black belt, which can make any physical confrontation that much more dangerous. In the state I live it is against the law to carry a concealed weapon. Have one and you can get arrested. I think I may have to take that chance though, as I can't be on guard 24/7 and the wrong blow by this enraged idiot can kill me. I will not let him get that close again. I don't know who he might hurt first, though, my ex or me. But he is not finished. Right now I have some nice stripes around my neck where he did his choking act, and an ache were I was kicked. But a least I'm still alive to feel it. I intend to keep it that way.
crazy_grl Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 Once someone used pictures of me they got online and pasted my head onto half-naked women's bodies. They hung some in the office where I worked, put one on my windshield, and left one in my bag. At first, I thought it was one of my friends trying to be cute, though I didn't find it funny. I begged my friends to tell me it if it was them and I wouldn't be mad. Everybody denied it, so I had to report it to my boss. Around the same time, I started getting messages from someone on msn who wouldn't identify themself, only that they knew me. They tried to get me to play some game about guessing who they were. When I wouldn't, they got mad, said some nasty things then logged off. It was pretty creepy and I still don't know who it was.
Recommended Posts