jessssss Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 a few months ago we made plans to go on vacation for 4 days with another couple...since then my bf has lost his job and the guy from the couple has lost his (they worked for the same company) now they are both getting new jobs, at seperate work places, and it's summer so it's time to start figuring out the vacation plans. i've heard this other guy mention when we were going and such but my bf hasn't talked to me about it nor did he answer him but i know when it comes down to it he does want to go with thsi couple. well the hard part is we don't have much money since he lost his job...my boss just came to me this morn and offered us his beach house for free...my problem is when i tell my bf he's goign to want to invite the otehr couple...when i just want it to be me and him. what do i do?? i know exactly how he's going to take it...he's going to think i don't like his friends...it's just one of those thigns...i want it to be just me and him...but he will have a valid point - we're just going to break what little plans we have with them and go on our own vacation...he set up the whole thing without even asking me...just kinda told me he invited them on our vacation to the beach...so now i'm able to change plans...how do i handle it and make sure he knows i want to go with him just cause i wnat to be with him...not that i don't like his friends, i just want a romantic weekend...if i am blunt about it then he still wont' get it...he'll turn it around cause i know he really wants them to go. i thought i could tell him taht we'll do a weekend with that couple to a different beach and then do our vacation together....but the reality of that is we cant' really afford another beach weekend...so he'll want to knock it both out iwth one stone. what do i do? am i being controlling? oh and this couple, i've hung out with the girl once and the guy quite a few times...he's hung out with the guy a lot at work and the girl a few times with the bf....it's not liek it's his bestest friend in teh whole world...ugh...anyone???
AriaIncognito Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I'd say honor the commitment. Regardless of changing the place you'll stay in. You can still have some alone time with your guy, and if this vacation with the other couple means that much to him, why not? It's fun to double date. Also if anything, you'll come out the hero because not only would you still be going on vacation, you'll be saving everyone a lot of money, when they need it most... Just my 2 cents. Jennifer
Author jessssss Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 thanks jennifer, you're probably right...i just wanted some time with my bf all to myself...maybe it's because we've been doing so well lately and all i wnat to do is be with him (which i'm limiting because i don't need to go overboard) i'm going to tell him that i have a special trip planned and it's cheap and just leave it like that...if he brings the friends into it then so be it, i know i was in a commitment with them also. i need to go with teh flow more often! but wouldn't it be fun just me and him...
AriaIncognito Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I suppose that would depend on your definition of fun I think either way you'll have a good time. If you really want time alone with your man, plan an overnighter somewhere cozy over a weekend... Jennifer
Buttaflyy Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I feel differently about this. Tell him what your plans are. You want to have a romantic weekend just the two of you. Nothing wrong with this. What's important is spending time with your man. Him devoting time to you. Who cares about his friends. Since they've already been planning a vacation anyways, and he hasn't complied it's easier for you all to do your own thing seperately. Maybe he wont care as much as you think? At least run it by him. And tell him everything you said here. You don't dislike them, you just want to be with him.
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