Guest Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Okay I'm not sure where else to look for help - this is my situation...what do I do: My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year and I love him very much and he loves me. He has a lot of really great friends. One in particular (Joe) didn't take to me right away because I went to high school and was friends with (Alan). Alan was Joe's roomate and owes him a lot of money. Alan left the province and then came back, I informed Joe and he was happy. Then when I provided him like information on another occasion Joe was angered and told me he didn't like gossip. I stopped. Then I was accused of not helping Joe reclaim his money as I had seen Alan through my work and through (Jess) Alan's girlfriend who is also a friend of my boyfriend. After this one night Joe and a girl he was with had a fight, someone told Joe I said something I didn't the girl can't vouch because she was drunk and can't remember. I didn't know Joe was mad at me and had written him a letter about our past misunderstandings in regards to Alan. Joe refused to speak to me. Joe also stopped speaking to my boyfriend. They have recently reconciled and I am expecting Joe to confront me about why he is mad at me. I'm very nervous and hate confrontation but I know this needs to end. What do I do? How do I defend a comment I didn't make but a friend told him I did? How do I defend knowing and speaking to Alan when he has done bad things to Joe? Should I apologize even though I don't think I did anything wrong just to end the fighting or should I demand an apology for the cold treatment? HELP
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