Guest Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Hey, so right now I have exactly zero friends. Literally. The other day I realized my cell phone only has my sister and a bunch of restaurants on it lol. I think my problem is that I have identity issues. I don't know which crowd I belong to, or what lifestyle I like. For years I hung out with this one particular crowd until I was about 25. Most of my friends were real tight knit with each other, like a family. Most of them didn't have families or had broken homes. I was the only one who came from a normal, good family. So I think that's why I always felt out of place with em. I was always this really shy kid and these guys were like my family.. I guess I never had a chance to outgrow my shyness cause I had them, didn't need to put myself out there and meet new people. But I started changing later..goin thru all this self-realization bulls**t, and I ended up slowly parting ways with them and just doing my own thing. But after them I felt like I never fit in or felt right with other people. I like to drink and smoke and party.. but I get so self-concious when I'm around them. I live in LA right now so most people I meet ask me to go out to clubs..and it's always these really crazy things that I feel so out of. I mean, I'm getting pretty old, I'll say that. I'm nearin my 30's here. And I am still like a child.. Every other aspect of my life I'm fine. I hold a steady job.. I'm financially stable.. And I've had a few long term girlfriends before.. I just am void in the friend area. And now it's starting to effect my love life too.. mostly cause it's bothering me now. Back when I had my girlfriend, I didn't care if I didn't have friends. I had good memories, and a girl in my life, that's all I needed. But after we broke up, some years went by and now I'm realizing how important having friends are.. It's depressing me. I can't even date now cause all I do is feel s**ty all the time. I feel so pathetically stuck, and hopeless..
Marielle Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 It happens in most ppls life, every so on we grow up and do some cleaning with some friends...and sometimes end up ALONE, sucks I suggest you find an activity you like, join a gym, any interest you enjoy and you will meet ppl like you, beleive me... Or take salsa classes, they ussually lack of males, so at least you ll meet a lot of girls, lol
paige367 Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 I agree we all go through the seemingly friendless stages in our life. We have moved on or all our friends have and we seem alone. But are you really? Aren't there maybe 1 or 2 friends from your "old life" who have maybe moved on too. Maybe you could consider getting back in touch. Classes and activities are a good idea but can be intimidating. Maybe you need to do some soul searching and find out what kind of person you really are first and what kind of friends you want to have.
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