smoothjc18 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 See I am a 20 years old undergrad who took this professor who is humorous, attractive, and sincere. The problem is that he’s 50 and also he is married with two sons so I know that it’s probably never going to happen. See at first I really didn’t have any feeling for him, I though he was nice and all but then things started to grow I don’t know i all of sudden i started to feel something. i remember it began when we were exercising and i said o is this good for your back and he didn’t say nothing. However i remember he waited for me after class to talk to me about that in which i found sweet. also he asked students to go to a club meeting to talk about the issues in school and i said ill do it and i remember going there and he came up to me and held my hand for a moment and he sat down and then moved somewhere else and then came back to talk. also i remember i had to run to take a test and i caught him in the elevator and he was like why are you rushing i was like i have a test for acct and he smiled and said you have acct , also i notice he turned his face downward and smiled. also i remember telling him one time that i gained weight and he was like if ask everyone in the class if they wanted a body like your they all would raise their hand then he slightly touched the side of my stomach. Anyway i remember one day he was telling me that if he was single he would date me (he said if his wife dumps him) i looked at him and he turned his head away from me. That is when i really started to fall for him i was like why would say that to me in the first place. so i asked him and he said that it was at a different place and time and if he wasn’t married the sure and he said that i am the only one that knows he married and that not to get him in trouble. anyway I am like we will just be friends no harm in that. So i started to see him during his office hours he showed me pics of him when he was younger and of his kids which was cute. It’s funny bc we always cracks jokes around each other and we can talk about anything. I mean other girls find him attractive , and i bet he probably said this to his other students , yet what I want to know is if he is flirting with me or mb I am just imagining things.
babydoll_mimi Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Yeah hon, he's flirting w/ you. I too am a 20 y/o college student, and I know full well that some of those older professors are really attractive...just be careful what you might be getting yourself into. Read some of my posts and you'll know my situation. I would strongly advise anyone not to begin an affair w/ a MM. There are so many reasons, and it's not so much that it's wrong or immoral, it's more so that in the end, even if you start off saying it's just a fling/fun/whatever, you'll get hurt. Good luck!
movinon05 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Did you really think you could be friends with this professor? He is obviously flirting. I don't know if your reactions are innocent or if you have been enjoying this flirtation either. But now you are spending time with him in his office? You've put yourself in his lair! I don't know where you are, but unless you've got some summer courses or even if you don't, I would get busy and get out with friends your own age. And try not to purposely take his course again.
Guest Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 im not going to persue him all i wanted to know that if treated me more then a "student" . i have moral values soo i know nothin will ever happen
movinon05 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 im not going to persue him all i wanted to know that if treated me more then a "student" . i have moral values soo i know nothin will ever happen Well all you have to do is think hard about whether his W would consider his remarks and his touching innocent. Then you will have a clearer picture of what he is or might be doing. And then you Run in the other direction! That is when i really started to fall for him That is your second red flag!!
THX2000 Posted June 14, 2006 Posted June 14, 2006 See I am a 20 years old undergrad who took this professor who is humorous, attractive, and sincere. The problem is that he’s 50 and also he is married with two sons so I know that it’s probably never going to happen. See at first I really didn’t have any feeling for him, I though he was nice and all but then things started to grow I don’t know i all of sudden i started to feel something. i remember it began when we were exercising and i said o is this good for your back and he didn’t say nothing. However i remember he waited for me after class to talk to me about that in which i found sweet. also he asked students to go to a club meeting to talk about the issues in school and i said ill do it and i remember going there and he came up to me and held my hand for a moment and he sat down and then moved somewhere else and then came back to talk. also i remember i had to run to take a test and i caught him in the elevator and he was like why are you rushing i was like i have a test for acct and he smiled and said you have acct , also i notice he turned his face downward and smiled. also i remember telling him one time that i gained weight and he was like if ask everyone in the class if they wanted a body like your they all would raise their hand then he slightly touched the side of my stomach. Anyway i remember one day he was telling me that if he was single he would date me (he said if his wife dumps him) i looked at him and he turned his head away from me. That is when i really started to fall for him i was like why would say that to me in the first place. so i asked him and he said that it was at a different place and time and if he wasn’t married the sure and he said that i am the only one that knows he married and that not to get him in trouble. anyway I am like we will just be friends no harm in that. So i started to see him during his office hours he showed me pics of him when he was younger and of his kids which was cute. It’s funny bc we always cracks jokes around each other and we can talk about anything. I mean other girls find him attractive , and i bet he probably said this to his other students , yet what I want to know is if he is flirting with me or mb I am just imagining things. Any person in a position of authority (teacher/professor etc...) should never EVER be flirting with a student. That's exactly why there are very strict guidelines for teachers as to why they are not allowed to date students. I know as a business owner how easy it would be for me to seduce the young, attractive girls that work for me but I know how frigging wrong that is and I'm not even married. Stay away from this guy before you get yourself into a situation you can't get yourself out of.
Bullgator Posted June 15, 2006 Posted June 15, 2006 RUN do not walk to the nearest exit. It can and WILL get worse if you do not.
Author smoothjc18 Posted June 17, 2006 Author Posted June 17, 2006 i cant run form him i am actually taking a class of his next fall
movinon05 Posted June 18, 2006 Posted June 18, 2006 Then you go to his class and leave. Treat him as any other teacher. Do not go to his office for friendly chats. Correspond with him regarding questions you might have by e-mail (assuming most instructors do that now). If he ever asks anything else, tell him you are a little uncomfortable with the situation given he is married and want to keep it on an instructor/student basis. And continue on with your life, socializing with people your own age. Hopefully he'll understand. If not, shame on him.
Guest Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 Its finally nice to see I'm not the only one going through this, I've been seeing a mm for 12yrs now, and so in love, It is so hard to get over him, I have tried several times and always go back. It does hurt, then theres all the wonderful times when your together.
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