kryptoknight Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I've been dating this girl for almost a month and we often see each other like 2 times a week. FIrst date was very interesting cuz we just end up goin to the park and talked there for ours untill I droped her home late at night. The 2nd date, we watched a movie and everything went great..after the movie, we went to the park late at night and there I planned to express my feelings for her....We talked again for hours untill I hold her hands for the first time and kissed her. She didn't show any resistance and I noticed that her mood changed and both of us seems to be enjoying every moment of it. A few more days of dating and everything seems to be going great from txting every hour, and chatting online whenever I get a chance. One day, I made plans of seeing a movie with her on a saturday night because she told me she have work on friday night. Friday night is the day she saved just for me ever since we started dating. I told her 4 days before saturday night that we are going to see a movie. 4 days have passed before saturday night and I didn't called her or contacted her because I was just busy. I txt msg her saturday night to remind her of our date, but all of a sudden she said she was with her friends. I got upset and txt'd msg her and questioning about what happend to our plans. SHe told me that she was waiting for my call friday night and saturday morning. I didn't replied back for 3 days cuz I was upset. 4rth day, I asked her if she still wants to go out with me, or forget about it...She replied back saying, yes, and asking me why did I asked....I told her "If things are not getting any better". She replied back saying " Gotcha!, nice knowin yah!" Then I explained to her the reason why I asked that question..I told her I don't like slow let down thats why I asked her that question and thats the vibe Im feeling from her after she didn't called me or txt msg me too the day before saturday night. I also told her to correct me if I was wrong about that feeling. SHe blamed me for not callin her and txting her for 4 days before that sautrday night. She didn't talked to me or replied to me even if I tried calling her several times. I told her I was just upset last saturday night and at the same time thinking if shes giving me a slow let down...I even said sorry if I didn't got chance to call her..Im just the person that doesn't often call all the time. She said that she assumed that Im uninterested anymore . Is that even right?...Now Im all confused..she became cold to me now and she doesnt reply to my msgs online or txt. Should I try start slowly again to get her interest back? . She didn't called me or txt msg me too 4 days before saturday night. Em I wrong for not caling her first and reminding her about our date? How often should I remind her ? I called her saturday night already tho.
blue16 Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Well, I can't say I totally blame her. Ya...you did plan a date for Saturday, but when you don't confirm at all for FOUR days until the night of, I'm not surprised she made plans. You made the initial offer, so it was up to you to follow up just to confirm things. She's probably like many girls who liked to be chased...and since you did set up the date she figured you would call to remind each other for Saturday night. So after not hearing from you (at all) for four days she decided that maybe you didn't want to go out after all - so she made other plans. The only thing you can do now initiate the infamous "NC" or no contact. You've already tried justifying, explaining everything to her etc. She has now seen your 'desperate' or 'clingy' side judging by ur anger and frustration toward the situation when all it was was just a miscommunication between you two. The best you can do now or not contact her at all...and wait for her to talk to you.
Author kryptoknight Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 Thanks for the reply and advice...I talked to her online again and tried to talk things and how we mis understood each other, but she was just cold to me and showing no concern whatsoever if I talk to her or not ....She will never talk to me online unless I talk to her first. I asked her if there is a chance for me to ask her out again...She said " even if there was it wouldn't be for a while". " Alot of things are comming up right now":( She also said that shes not mad at all, shes just Indifferent, which is even worst ....HOw the hell she turned out this cold to me all of a sudden?...seems that I commited a big sin or mistake againste her...It's not like I cheated on her or ditched her...I never thought that this would turn out like this, because everything from the beginning we are very sweet to each other....I guess I just have to give up my hope of getting her interest back...If I'll stay as a friend with her, either way she will be cold to me...I'll just get back to being a stranger again....I'll start the NC today. Thanks for the advice.
catgirl1927 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Well, if you'd made a date with me and didn't call me for four days, I'd assume you'd changed your mind and would make other plans. She is probably afraid that you are playing games with her, not contacting her so she'll feel insecure about whether or not you're interested. This is the problem with games. But I mean, come on. You were too busy for four days to call her? Are you really all that interested anyway? We make time for things that are important to us. I mean it doesn't sound like a lot of time but it was early in the relationship. I really think you should just learn from this and move on. Of course, it's hard to learn what went wrong if she won't talk to you. But I feel pretty safe in saying it's because you ignored her for 4 days.
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