IWalkAlone Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I was just wondering if the guys who complain here about "whorish" women are the same ones when they meet someone whose is sufficiently not "whorish," marry them, then three years later complain in the marriage forum that their wife doesn't like sex. It doesn't make sense to me to expect a women be good in bed and like sex, while at the same time not be very sexually experienced. I figure that the more guys she's had sex with, the more likely she'll be to have sex with me (although strangly the girls who have a lot of partners tend to NOT want to be with me, but that's a subject for other threads).
Sapiens Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I was just wondering if the guys who complain here about "whorish" women are the same ones when they meet someone whose is sufficiently not "whorish," marry them, then three years later complain in the marriage forum that their wife doesn't like sex. It doesn't make sense to me to expect a women be good in bed and like sex, while at the same time not be very sexually experienced. I figure that the more guys she's had sex with, the more likely she'll be to have sex with me (although strangly the girls who have a lot of partners tend to NOT want to be with me, but that's a subject for other threads). I gotta say that only dumbasses complain about that, in my experience women are just as sexual as men. You must learn to sexually stimulate them, fantasy, role play, foreplay, etc. Make her feel like she is in control... -Sapiens
climbergirl Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I don't think that being a sexual person necessarily means that you've had a lot of partners. All a person needs is that one partner who makes you feel comfortable with your sexuality. Feeling comfortable=ability to experiment=ultimately knowing what one likes and feels good. JMO Good point BTW
basscatcher Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I gotta say that only dumbasses complain about that, in my experience women are just as sexual as men. You must learn to sexually stimulate them, fantasy, role play, foreplay, etc. Make her feel like she is in control... -Sapiens You forget.. If you treat the woman like she is only a sex object you will loose.. It's not so much about her feeling like she is in control or giving her total control. It's about making her feel like a woman, like she is desirable, sexy, attractive, appreciated, and pleasing. If there is a mutual give and take then you have it made sexually.. Don't dominate all the time and don't make her do all the work... Comprende!!
Sapiens Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 You forget.. If you treat the woman like she is only a sex object you will loose.. Loose what? Oh, you mean lose! Kidding I know what you meant. It's not so much about her feeling like she is in control or giving her total control. It's about making her feel like a woman, like she is desirable, sexy, attractive, appreciated, and pleasing. If there is a mutual give and take then you have it made sexually.. Exactly! Don't dominate all the time and don't make her do all the work... LOL, I know what you mean. Avec plasir! Comprende!! Um, Oui! LOL. -Sapiens
Cecelius Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Isn't the issue that you don't want a girl with numbers so high that you start thinking she'd bang anyone? Just as no girl I know dates the lovesick puppy dog type of guy who moves from fruitless crush to fruitless crush hoping that his self esteem will be fixed by some young lady. It's sad, pathetic and weak.
basscatcher Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Some people go through different phases in life. Sometimes when we have a life crisis we lose ourselves in the spiral of depression, self doubt, neediness, loneliness that we make choices that we aren't so proud of later on. Don't judge someone just because of their past. Find out who they are now. Don't think because someone has lots of sexual partners that they are easy and would do the whole football team-so-to-speak..I've had my share of partners. More then most of my gfs. AND I don't consider myself a whore, slut, easy or would do anyone... I went through a phase in my life where I lost my self respect. My belief systems were severly abused and I lost myself, my self respect, my dignity. I didn't chose this to happen to me but it did. I got myself out of that belief system long ago. I sought out help with my life before I felt like I had nothing to offer but my body for a living... There are things that can make a person unhealthy mentally and they can emerge out of it healthy, whole, good, and balanced. Just because someone has had a lot of sex partners doesnt mean they can't be faithful. loyal, committed, honest, or healthy.. It isn't uncommon now days for females to use their bodies to try obtain love. I use to think that the only way a man would have any interest in me is if I put out.... I was molested in grade school and then I was raped by my first boyfriend. I was later date raped by 2 other men when I was 16. What female wouldn't lose her dignity, self worth, and self respect after being used, manhandled and treated like she was only good enough to give a man sexual pleasure... I was a reject growing up starting with being rejected by my own father.. Then later on the only attention I recieved from men was for my body.. It took work for me to get myself on a good road. I have had many loyal and monogamous relationships.. I hated sex when I was in my early 20s. Any man who touched me I wanted to stab with a knife.. I felt dirty.. I have worked on myself and healed. I enjoy sex now. I find the beauty in it and I strive to have a man in my life who respects me, loves me, can make love to me and not just f*** me. If a man handles me disrespectfully I will express it. I don't take shyt anymore from a man.. If a man can care for me, love me and develop a sense of want, trust and respect towards me he will win me over every time.. Don't judge someone because they've had many sexual partners... You don't know why until you find out the truth of the matter... Even then sometimes people don't know why they have done the things the've done. Some people get so caught up in the moment and how good it feels to be touched, held, kisses that they lose control of reality and they just go with it. Thats called good Chemistry and I've only experienced that maybe 3 times in my life...
ronnieromance Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 I was just wondering if the guys who complain here about "whorish" women are the same ones when they meet someone whose is sufficiently not "whorish," marry them, then three years later complain in the marriage forum that their wife doesn't like sex. It doesn't make sense to me to expect a women be good in bed and like sex, while at the same time not be very sexually experienced. I figure that the more guys she's had sex with, the more likely she'll be to have sex with me (although strangly the girls who have a lot of partners tend to NOT want to be with me, but that's a subject for other threads). I think you may be on to something. -R-
Cecelius Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 There's also a pretty big difference between the skills a person can develop in long term relationships over time and those acquired drunk on some floor in a frat house with a dude she met an hour ago. The former is to be assumed in this day and age while the latter is still just kind of sad.
catgirl1927 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 So it's ok for a woman to learn about sex from you, just not from anyone else. Where are men aquiring these skills? Oh, that's right, the floor of the frat house. But they're not doing anything wrong, it's the whores under them.
Cecelius Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 No, I think I'm just pointing out that a person's past relationships are different than their past random, drunken, humiliating hook ups, unless someone wants to argue that such things are the route to enlightenment and self esteem.
ronnieromance Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 There's also a pretty big difference between the skills a person can develop in long term relationships over time and those acquired drunk on some floor in a frat house with a dude she met an hour ago. The former is to be assumed in this day and age while the latter is still just kind of sad. But it doesn't always happen drunk on a floor in a frat house when it's not in a "long term relationship". While you attempt coming off as neutral, as far as your judgements go, you quite obviously belie your intent and stance. That's cute that you try to paint everyone who chooses to explore their sexuality outside of codependency as a slut. -R-
Cecelius Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 But it doesn't always happen drunk on a floor in a frat house when it's not in a "long term relationship". While you attempt coming off as neutral, as far as your judgements go, you quite obviously belie your intent and stance. That's cute that you try to paint everyone who chooses to explore their sexuality outside of codependency as a slut. -R- I didn't suggest that there wasn't a middle ground -- The point is that skills are more likely to be developed through relationships than drunken one night stands. Anything else (including whatever "codependency" is) is beyond my point.
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