Guest Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Last night, my 6 month relationship with my (now ex) girlfriend ended. How do I feel? Well, a bit down about it...so I thought by posting on here would help me to get some of my feelings off my chest. I had an idea that things weren't quite right after our last date on Saturday - up to this point, we'd been dating steadily (meeting up between once and twice a week), but at the weekend, we weren't communicating the same way (little conversation, few laughs), and things seemed sort of strained and awkward. It got me thinking at the end of our date that maybe I'd done something wrong without my knowing, but surely there would be a way we could work around the "problem" and get things back on track? After all, we'd never fallen out prior to this, and seemed to get along just fine - no pressure on either of us for the relationship to work, I thought it was developing quite well naturally... But then last night she said that she regarded me more as a friend than a person she'd pursue a relationship with. She said she'd felt like this for the past few weeks. Her opinion was that if we were going to go down the relationship route, it would have happened by now. Which is fair enough - it's not working out the way she'd like it to, so she's honest enough to tell me so. I accept her decision and admire her honesty, and wouldn't dream of attempting to make it work when her heart's not in it. But what a bummer It felt like a punch in the stomach! Over the past few weeks though, she's introduced me to her family members and a few of her friends (and I introduced her to mine). It was also my birthday quite recently, and she'd went to a lot of trouble in giving me one of my best birthdays in recent memory! What I can't understand here is if her feelings had changed and she didn't want to take things further, why did she introduce me to significant people in her life? And why did she make such a fuss about my birthday? Ah, I'll probably never know. But now she wants to change our "relationship" to a "friendship", and still meet up occassionally to do some of the fun things we did (ie, play pool, go bowling). Having given it a bit of thought since she broke the news, I can't see this as being feasible - if things were awkward and strained when our relationship was on it's last legs, what's it going to be like when we meet up again, knowing things won't ever be the same? We'd basically be doing the same as what we had done when we were a "couple"...the only difference is that no cuddles or kisses would be involved (and that is what I'd miss most). She said that there'd be no pressure or expectations on either of us if we carried on as friends...true, but I didn't feel any pressure when we were dating (we both live independently, we weren't living out of each other's pockets, etc). I'm a firm believer that if things are meant to be, then they will be - and this time it wasn't meant to be. I feel no resentment or bitterness at all - hey, I've just had 6 of the best months of my life! A shame it had to end though...but the hard fact is that it takes 2 for a relationship to work. So I think a bit of healing time's in order. Relationships, eh? Who'd have them?
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