Ruby Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I am have been dating my new man for about 2 months now. Things have been fine and there have been no drama or upset. I see him once or twice a week and that suits m,e fine as we both have kids who we dont introduce to each other as it is still so new. He texts me every day and calls me every night. I have noticed lately that his texts have slowed down and he has not called me on a few nights. This did not bother me at first as I was quite relieved as it was costing me a fortune and then it hit me that he may be losing interest! Last Saturday I did not see him as he was out with friends and that was fine as so was I, then on Sunday I realised he had not text or called me and it made me wonder more. He text me later and I replied with a question and he did not reply, I left it 6 hours and then I got pissed so I text him saying "I guess you got pretty drunk last night as your fingers seem to have seized up" He replied that it had all seized up as he was dying of a hangover, I then made light of it but I am getting this feeling things are not the same. I know you will all say I am nuts but I can sense he is not as interested as he first was, how can I get his interest level up again without playing games? How can I do this without coming across as insecure and silly or needy? Please dont judge me I would really like advice on how to deal with this before I get mad at him and just forget about him. I hate feeling like this it happened to me before and I just finished with the guy as it made me feel bad.
PerfectLee Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 In all honestly, if he's losing interest for whatever reasons it wouldn't be your fault. I don't know if you guys are at the stage where you can talk comfortably and openly about how you feel, but if not, there's really not much you can do. Guys play games too, and sometimes they won't call to see how much you care. They also do it to see if you're insecure silly or needy. You could also do the other route which is JUST BE HONEST and say "Hey-I really like talking with you, I wish we could do it more often." The reason why you're feeling strange, like things aren't the same, is because things with you two are still unsure, and us ladies HATE feeling unsure! Maybe some time will do the trick. The ball is in his court.
Author Ruby Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Do guys do this as a test? How do I pass this test without coming over needy?
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