PerfectLee Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I thought I'd start a thread so you can list your break-ups (in short) because I've had many bizarre, crazy stories to tell. Looking back at them...now I know why I call them ex's! 1st love-He cheated on me twice. Once w/a girl at a party and the other girl was his cousin who was visiting the family. 2nd-He was my best friend from 5th grade, we decided to start dating and 2 years into it, he cheated on me w/a red-head, which happened to be his boss from work. 3rd-He was drafted to the army only 3 months of dating me, he proposed to me, I said "no", so he went and proposed to other girls I worked with. When he was gone, I found out, he came back, we all dumped him! 4th-We were together for almost 5 years, serious relationship, we broke up because I found out she was cheating on me for 6 months with numerous girls over the internet. I guess she wasn't done with the dating game, like she told me. Current-The one I'm with now is a keeper. I believe this is IT. So no break-up story here.
Buttaflyy Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I thought I'd start a thread so you can list your break-ups (in short) because I've had many bizarre, crazy stories to tell. Looking back at them...now I know why I call them ex's! 1st love-He cheated on me twice. Once w/a girl at a party and the other girl was his cousin who was visiting the family. 2nd-He was my best friend from 5th grade, we decided to start dating and 2 years into it, he cheated on me w/a red-head, which happened to be his boss from work. 3rd-He was drafted to the army only 3 months of dating me, he proposed to me, I said "no", so he went and proposed to other girls I worked with. When he was gone, I found out, he came back, we all dumped him! 4th-We were together for almost 5 years, serious relationship, we broke up because I found out she was cheating on me for 6 months with numerous girls over the internet. I guess she wasn't done with the dating game, like she told me. Current-The one I'm with now is a keeper. I believe this is IT. So no break-up story here. So is your current love male or female? I'm assuming that you've dated both? And that you are female??
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 There isn't enough thread space .. Hmm sounds like someone's been a busy man
Art_Critic Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Hell.. I could fill up 20 pages from my marriage.. hahahahahaha
Author PerfectLee Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Yes ButtaFlyy, I've dated both, but then again, I have an Asian family, I went to a Catholic School, and I was very sheltered as a young adult, even when I was in college. So I never "came out" the way I wanted too. The current relationship I'm in now is with a girl, for 2 years now, I'm soooo happy, beyond what I've ever imagined! Thanks for asking.
Pyro Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Only two have had any impact on me. 1. We argued to the point of breaking-up. She didn't trust me, so I turned around and stooped to her level and treated her the way that she treated me. 2. I was cheated on and I attempted to reconcile with her. I set up counciling sessions but I had to basically beg her to come to the first session. She never showed any desire to try, so that was it.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Only two have had any impact on me. 1. We argued to the point of breaking-up. She didn't trust me, so I turned around and stooped to her level and treated her the way that she treated me. 2. I was cheated on and I attempted to reconcile with her. I set up counciling sessions but I had to basically beg her to come to the first session. She never showed any desire to try, so that was it. Are you talking about your current SO?
Pyro Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Are you talking about your current SO? Heck no. I am referring to break-ups from my past relationships.
Buttaflyy Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Yes ButtaFlyy, I've dated both, but then again, I have an Asian family, I went to a Catholic School, and I was very sheltered as a young adult, even when I was in college. So I never "came out" the way I wanted too. The current relationship I'm in now is with a girl, for 2 years now, I'm soooo happy, beyond what I've ever imagined! Thanks for asking. I'm glad u've found love! Good luck to you both! I also do not have enough space to list my break-ups in detail...Too much to tell, soooo lil time.
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 I've only had one other relationship besides the one I'm in, but we broke up many times. I can't even begin to remember it all as I was like 15 when we first got together and broke up for good when I was 17. I was the one who broke it off for good tho
Tim'sAngel Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Heck no. I am referring to break-ups from my past relationships. *whew* thanks for clearing that up
Pyro Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 *whew* thanks for clearing that up No problem. The Riddler does not like drama.
basscatcher Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Too many to list. I initianlly broke off all of relationships except one in my life...The one that dumped me moved back to be near his children, his brother, and everything he has ever known in his life. he also got back together with his xgf and is unhappily married. The reasons why I dumped are various:: mental abuse, (mind games) verbal abuse, (verbal slander, degradation) physical abuse (pushing, shoving, slapping, punching, throwing me, sexual, restraining) drug abuse (self-explanitory) alcoholism (self-explanitory neglect (ignoring me in public, no calls, no dates, no time together) cheating, lack of communication (lack of conversation, can't express feelings, wants or desires, no compliments, no possitive words of affirmation)
Author PerfectLee Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 WOW-I thought I had it bad with all the cheating and lying. I'm sorry padameckla! That's horrible! Are you happy now?
basscatcher Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 WOW-I thought I had it bad with all the cheating and lying. I'm sorry padameckla! That's horrible! Are you happy now? I'm single (divorced), 37 female, 16 yr old son, and the market for good, single available men is that large even in a large metro like I'm in. If their out there they are hiding. The ones I seem to run into have such major issues. I'm sick of it. Wolves in sheeps clothing.. I don't know if that is just Minnesota but I'm sick of it. I'm just shy of 40 and beauty only lasts for so long on the outside. I'm at the age too where men and women have to shift their attraction from young and alive to middle age attraction. As you get older its hard to let go of your youth. Being attracted to someone younger and attractive is normal but how many older aging women can hook herself onto a younger youthful man?? It's not easy. I am beginning to see fine lines around my eyes. Ughhh.. NOooooooooooooo.. I am a survivor of my past. I lived and learned. If I didn't learn then what the hell is the sense in living it huh? Too many bad apples in my pile. WTH for?? I don't know. I'm getting older and wiser from the encounters. Guess there has to be a use for it all somewhere in the future. I still can't always tell a wolve in sheeps clothing but I know I can't train him, i don't need to put up with his bad behavior so I send them out to pasture. I pray one day Mr. Right will come along and I can have my companion before I'm too old to go fishing, go hiking, travel, explore, enjoy life in itself.... I don't want to chose a man just so I'm not alone. I want a man I am compatable with and enjoy being with. Visa-a-versa!!
Author PerfectLee Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Mr. Right will come along and I can have my companion before I'm too old to go fishing, go hiking, travel, explore, enjoy life in itself.... Yeah, just like me, you've been through hell and back more times than you can count! It's great-because you're confident, you know what you want. It sucks cuz it just SUCKS! All the heartache, drama, mind-games, sleepless nights...was it worth it? When you find Mr. Right, and I'm sure you will, the answer will be "Yes, it was worth it."
basscatcher Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Yeah, just like me, you've been through hell and back more times than you can count! It's great-because you're confident, you know what you want. It sucks cuz it just SUCKS! All the heartache, drama, mind-games, sleepless nights...was it worth it? When you find Mr. Right, and I'm sure you will, the answer will be "Yes, it was worth it." I thought I found Mr. Right. He is the one who dumped me. I thought I had it all until he told me he was moving back home. WTF? That was Jan. 05... I've dragged my butt along since. Searching, waiting, sitting, praying, flirting, dancing, prancing, chancing, and nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing. I still do the same thing week after week. I leave it in God's hands and I'm just out having fun... There are ups and downs. I get through them.. I always will. I am woman.. Phenomenally--thats me!
allina Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 1- 1st real bf, freshman yeah of highschool, laster a little over a year but I was ready to end it months before. I ended things. Awesome guy, total sweetheart, I actually saw him a few weeks ago, we talk on occasion. 2- Other HS boyfriend. Jr and senior years of highschool. Again, lasted a little over a year. My first love. I cheated, made out with another guy, he found out, dumped me. We still keep in touch once in a while, no bad feelings. 3- After moving out of my parents and a lot of dating I met this one. At first he was super sweet, great bf. About 5 months in to the relationship he turned in the a majot a**h***, he would scream at me, swear, crazy s***. I lost all feelings for him and started ro hate him (this was like within a month) I broke up with him, he begged me for another chance, promised he would change. He changed, lasted another 3 months or so. One night we were out at a little party at a mutual friends, he was drunk and picked a fight with me. I was trying to avoid dealing with him, I was regretting not staying away as I know I should have. I don't remember why but in the middle of the fight he screams "you stupid f***ing cunt!" at me. It took everything I have not to grab a knife and carve him in to a f***ing jack-o-lantern (ok I'm only slightly serious) I left, broke up with him the next day for good. The break up involved me getting thrown agains the wall. I have not seen him since and never wish to again, if I found out he was dead I'd shrug and smile. 4-Lasted a year and a half, ending a year ago or so ago. Good relationship, we had a lot of fun together, good guy. For a while we both though that we have found the one. At the end we drifted apart and no one was really willing to keep things going to I ended it. We're on good terms. 5-My recent brerakup, we only dated for a little over 3 months (I didnt include any other 2-3 month relationships in my list) But this one matters and was significant. The only relationship I have ever really wanted to repair. He ended it saying he wasn't sure if he could be happy with me in the long run Today is the 3rd day that I have not spoken to him in.
Author PerfectLee Posted June 12, 2006 Author Posted June 12, 2006 Looks like you've had a lot of experiences for only being 24, but it's a good thing they all ended on good terms. Sounds like the 5th one is a serious one though, he made an impact on you even though it's only 2-3 months. How could he not be happy with you? What kind of break-up reason is that?
Brittanyjean06 Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Wow you must have gotten over all of them quick for you to be 24! Well I've only had one real one for 2 years now Im 18 and still trying to get over it I WANT MORE so I can make a list ahah
westernxer Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Hell.. I could fill up 20 pages from my marriage.. hahahahahaha That's funny! You're probably not the only one. My breakups went like this... She changed so I left. She changed so I left. I changed and I left. Or something like that. Give or take a little pain and there you have it.
RealBroken Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Too many to list. I initianlly broke off all of relationships except one in my life...The one that dumped me moved back to be near his children, his brother, and everything he has ever known in his life. he also got back together with his xgf and is unhappily married. The reasons why I dumped are various:: mental abuse, (mind games) verbal abuse, (verbal slander, degradation) physical abuse (pushing, shoving, slapping, punching, throwing me, sexual, restraining) drug abuse (self-explanitory) alcoholism (self-explanitory neglect (ignoring me in public, no calls, no dates, no time together) cheating, lack of communication (lack of conversation, can't express feelings, wants or desires, no compliments, no possitive words of affirmation) I don't do ANY of these things and I STILL get DUMPED ha ha. I can only laugh now.... what else.
Author PerfectLee Posted June 13, 2006 Author Posted June 13, 2006 Is there a theme in all your past relationships? I know mine is that I keep getting cheated on. What the hell does that mean?
a4a Posted June 13, 2006 Posted June 13, 2006 Not counting anything before the age of 16 1. HS does not count as it was HS...... mutual break up 2. HS friend entered relationship in early 20s... I left 3. Coworker turned out to be cheating drunk abusive a**h***...... he left but attempted to come back next day.......NOT! 4. Super nice guy..... wonderful..... lacked what I wanted though......I left. 5. Back to an a**h***..... cheated and busted..... I moved out while IT was at work..... surprise welcome to empty home after work a**h***. 6. Wonderful person just not meant for me, some issues..... still friends of sorts, business relationship, friends for years before the R. 7. Married now....... who knows what will or could happen? Super guy but is very much like #4 I seem to only stay in a R for 1.5 years...... 3 years max. But it works for me...... life is a buffet!
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