lonelydan Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 I don't mean in any way to be disrespectful to anyone who have lost friends due to death but my situation is I've lost my dearest friend of 8 years because he had an affair with my fiancee (and is still 'with' her). I feel it would have been a lot easier if he'd died. He's still with her and I miss him more than anything and 6 months later I can't do anything but cry at night. I really don't see what I can do about this other than say goodbye even if that. I have left my job and everything because of this breakup. I did love my fiancee but she has disgusted me with her behaviour (as I posted in a previous thread in November) and I'm finding I miss my friend 20x as much as I miss her (she has proved herself to be a nasty bit of work IMHO). My 'friend' wants to be friends still but I really don't see how that's possible (it could be if I let it) but I just HAVE to let him go after what he's done. I really don't know how anyone can help & probably nobody can but the hurt is still overwhelming and incredible at times. The worst part is that they both seem fine, while I'm in pieces. One day I'll come to terms with this and not care, I can't wait. Search on my username to find out the initial story months ago.
whichwayisup Posted May 4, 2006 Posted May 4, 2006 I don't mean in any way to be disrespectful to anyone who have lost friends due to death but my situation is I've lost my dearest friend of 8 years because he had an affair with my fiancee (and is still 'with' her). I feel it would have been a lot easier if he'd died. He's still with her and I miss him more than anything and 6 months later I can't do anything but cry at night. I really don't see what I can do about this other than say goodbye even if that. I have left my job and everything because of this breakup. I did love my fiancee but she has disgusted me with her behaviour (as I posted in a previous thread in November) and I'm finding I miss my friend 20x as much as I miss her (she has proved herself to be a nasty bit of work IMHO). My 'friend' wants to be friends still but I really don't see how that's possible (it could be if I let it) but I just HAVE to let him go after what he's done. I really don't know how anyone can help & probably nobody can but the hurt is still overwhelming and incredible at times. The worst part is that they both seem fine, while I'm in pieces. One day I'll come to terms with this and not care, I can't wait. Search on my username to find out the initial story months ago. That's really sad, and I feel for what you're going through. And what makes it harder is even if you tried to be friends, that damage he did to you, broke your trust, your love, your friendship can't ever go back to the way it was. It hurts to lose a bestfriend, not by choice.
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