AussieChick Posted June 12, 2006 Posted June 12, 2006 Ok - so now I am more confused than ever before. I have known this guy for about 4 years - not as a friend, but an aquaintance. Then about 3 months ago something happened and we clicked, and became really close really fast. In a drunken confession I told him I wanted to be more than friends, so he tells me he really likes me too but due to family and personal issues is unable to give in a relationship and so couldn't be more with me. I thought I got the brush off - you know 'not ready for a relationship' meaning "with you", and so I backed away and gave him space, a little disappointed. Surprisingly he didn't bolt - as I expected he would - we have become even closer, and he chooses to spend a lot of time with me. My thoughts were that he likes me enough to be close friends, but isn't interested in me romantically and so I have tried to keep it to this sort of relationship - but the more time I spend with him - the more I am falling for him. Over the last few weeks (especially the last week) he has started to send me txt messages, asking me things that he wouldn't normally ask me (that is he would normally txt a male co-worker who is a good friend of his) - he is seemingly making excuses to txt. He has also started to make comments about me and things I'm doing (as asides) to other people at work, or when we're out - this is new, and makes me think that his feelings may be changing. Saturday night a friend of mine at work set us up - he invited me over for a drink after work to his place (with him and his boyfriend) he then told my potential man that I was going over for a drink and did he want to come - he said yes without hesitation. The 4 of us ended up getting completely hammered, and when I asked whether we should go - he decided we should crash there - my friend brought a matress out for me to sleep on - and even though there was also a couch - my potential elected to squash in beside me to sleep the night. As I said we were both completely wasted and so there were no kisses or cuddles (so far he has never crossed this line) - in fact I think I passed out very quickly, but the matress was only a small single and so we were very cosy! The next day I drove him home so he could get changed ready for work - the plan was I was waiting for him, then dropping him off at work before heading home myself. In all the time I have known him I have never been invited up to his place (he lives with his mum who is very sick - one of the reasons he moved back to the city is to look after her) today however, I was allowed to come up and meet his mum, although chances are he thought she was out and so it was an accident... Is this the start of a deeper friendship/relationship? - do I cruise along and see where it takes me? As I said - the longer I spend with this guy, the more I am falling for him - he is everything I want in a guy - funny, smart, articulate, caring, fun loving, interested in all the same things I am...!!! How long do I give it before I pull away (i guess I'm scared of getting hurt) - should I catch myself now before I fall completely head over heels - especially as he has warned me that he's not ready for a relationship. I don't want to talk to him about it again as I think that if he were ready he would let me know. AHHHHH!! I'm so frustrated!
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